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Anger and the Contradictions of Masculinity – Member Feature Stories – Medium
The Deep Well of Male Loneliness

Male rage is rooted in the collective self-alienation and isolation that is part and parcel of our culture of manhood. In her book “When Boys Become Boys,” Dr. Judy Chu of Stanford University documents how our sons are taught to hide their early capacity for being emotionally perceptive, articulate, and responsive. Starting in preschool, our young boys learn to align their behaviors with “the emotionally disconnected stereotype our culture projects onto them.”
anger  masculinity 
yesterday by craniac
A Delicate Solution To The Pains And Sorrows Of Your Life - Siddha Performance
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There will come a day in the future that isn’t as distant as your mind tells you it is. A day will certainly come when you and I are no longer here. And though a select few humans in the world will cry that we are gone, they will once again return to their lives. The buses and the trains will continue to run. The stores will open at the same time they always have.

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And on that day that you die, if you are lucky you will have a moment or two to look back upon the number of hours and days and years that you were allotted. And when you do, what will you feel? What will you have to say about it?

I’m not interested in what others will say about you when you are dead.

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In the end, life is more verb than noun.

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15 days ago by bekishore
Curiosity and What Equality Really Means - Atul Gawande
"When people speak, they aren’t just expressing their ideas; they are, even more, expressing their emotions. And it’s the emotions that they really want heard. So I stopped listening to the man’s words and tried to listen for the emotions."
article  listening  favorite  atul-gawande  angry-people  emotions  anger  pain 
6 weeks ago by ArchIntegrate
我不完美,也不想做圣母
2. 直接讲出自己的情绪。

许多家长发火是在忍无可忍的情况下突然爆发,往往使孩子无法接受,更加对立,结果导致父母的火气更大。有人据此提出了“发脾气三级法”,也就是,当你感觉自己的愤怒情绪在膨胀时,可分三个等级向孩子讲出自己内心的情绪状况:

第一级:“我对你这样的做法很不高兴”

第二级:“我气极了! ”

第三级:“我马上就要发火了! ”

这比莫名其妙地突然爆发效果,可以使孩子更好地在分级警告面前及时改变自己的行为。
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6 weeks ago by aries1988

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