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EMAIL - If life is a circle, is there even a point?
Their responses are usually varying and vague, and often wind up directed back at me. That’s only fair. I think there’s an unspoken rule that when we’re looking for an answer to something subjective and unknown, it’s up to us to find it for ourselves.

I find it telling that I don’t question the purpose of life when I’m at my highest moments. Or even when I’m at my perfectly ho-hum middle moments. It’s in the dark moments, when I’m not looking for an answer as much as I’m looking for an escape from pain, that I question my existence. My inquiry is borne of desperation: Please tell me what’s the point, because I need to understand why I’m suffering.

We all have patterns and problems that we encounter again and again. I struggle with negative self-talk, feeling like a failure, and worrying what others think of me, all of which boil down to a near-constant challenge: loving myself.

“Our patterns are there for a reason,” he wrote. “They’re meant to teach us something important. Eventually, what we really want is to get to a place of appreciating our patterns — because regardless of how we perceive it in the moment, everything that happens in our life is a catalyst for change and growth. When you feel as if you've tripped and fallen on the same exact step over and over again — whether that step is financial turmoil, or heartbreak, or disappointment, or lust — you are, in fact, on a new and different step, on a higher flight of stairs, each and every time.”
life-advice  self-love  self-acceptance 
yesterday by lwhlihu
How To Be Successful - Sam Altman
Trust the exponential, be patient, and be pleasantly surprised.

advice  startup  focus  success  Unread  founder  future  HowTo  insightful  life-advice 
16 days ago by atran
EMAIL - The results snowball
Something I wish I'd known sooner is that in the early days of starting a new goal there's a huge discrepancy between effort and results.

When you first start, you're putting in maximum effort but the results are pretty much nonexistent. If I were to draw a pretty graph to represent that last sentence, it would look like this:
habits  success  life-advice  how-to-change 
29 days ago by lwhlihu
When you schedule something and decide not to... - Daniel Colossus DiPiazza
When you schedule something and decide not to honor your commitment by repeatedly skipping it, that action communicates to your subconscious mind that the ideas you plan for yourself will not happen.

That’s why you need to follow through.
follow-through  me  life-advice  success 
5 weeks ago by lwhlihu
My favorite responses from Wednesday
GREAT Ramit email sharing reader's responses on picking a theme for 2019
success  life-advice  ramit-sethi 
6 weeks ago by lwhlihu
You Need to Immediately Take on the Project That Excites You the Most - Neil Strauss
GREAT article by Neil

1.) Be performance driven and be agnostic to the outcome, so just go and do the best job you can and that's all that matters

2.) you need to immediately take on the project that excites you the most, with no procrastination. And some of you need to stop stewing in past imagined failures that prevent you from taking action in the present.
neil-strauss  life-advice  success  career  work 
6 weeks ago by lwhlihu
On not being her therapist | RSD Nation
It's veerrryyyy hard when you're into self help to watch someone fail, but remember that change MUST be self motivated.
how-to-help-others  rsd-tyler  life-advice 
7 weeks ago by lwhlihu
Business, Money, Success, and Fear - 50 Cent Interview - YouTube
"I've met artists that are amazing and can do things I can't do but they can't beat me at being me"
be-yourself  life-advice  success  50-cent 
7 weeks ago by lwhlihu
EMAIL - My All-Purpose Holiday Gift..
The true sign that you are an independent adult is not when you are no longer financially dependent on your family. It’s when you’re no longer emotionally dependent on them and don’t age-regress around them. 

So if reactivity (whether outward or inward) is an issue for you, stay connected to your best, most adult self while with your family.

And instead of feeling like a victim when they press a button or do that thing that annoys you, respond with empathy: Both for them and your childhood self, who had to grow up around that.

Having healthy boundaries at home, where most of your issues were created, will reverberate all through the rest of your life.
neil-strauss  inner-game  life-advice 
7 weeks ago by lwhlihu
Day 19: 21 Days & 21 Strategies to Change Your Habits
As these pairs illustrate, often when we experience a lack of clar­ity, it’s because two important values conflict. They’re both important, so we agonize about which value to honor in the habits we pursue.

To get more clarity, first ask: “Can I choose both?” Surprisingly often, that’s possible. Next ask: “What’s the most important value in this situation?”

Also, when we push ourselves to get clarity, when we identify the prob­lem, sometimes we spot new solutions. One couple went to marriage counseling because they were fighting constantly about whether it was more important to have a pleasant, well-maintained house or ample leisure time. They kept arguing—until they decided to quit mar­riage counseling and spend the money on a weekly cleaning service.

Clarity also helps shine a spotlight on aspects of ourselves that we may wish to conceal. We should pay special attention to any habit that we try to hide. The desire to prevent family or coworkers from acting as witnesses—from seeing what’s on the computer screen or knowing how much time or money we’re spending on a habit—is a clue that in some way, our actions don’t reflect our values.
habits  how-to-change  overthinking  gretchen-rubin  life-advice 
8 weeks ago by lwhlihu
Where’s your cohort? | Seth's Blog
You can find your cohort. You can organize one, join one, do it with intention.

We each need to see and to be seen.
seth-godin  navy-seal-team  life-advice  success 
9 weeks ago by lwhlihu
EMAIL - Day 14: 21 Days & 21 Strategies to Change Your Habits
If ten coins are not enough to make a man rich, what if you add one coin? What if you add another? Finally, you will have to say that no one can be rich unless one coin can make him so.

In other words, even though one coin certainly isn’t sufficient to make a man rich, a man only becomes rich by adding one coin after another.

Often, when we consider our actions, it’s clear that any one instance of an action is almost meaningless; yet at the same time, the sum of those actions is very meaningful. Whether we choose to focus on the single coin or the growing heap will shape our behavior. True, any one visit to the gym is inconsequential, but the habit of going to the gym is invaluable.

I haven’t worked on that project for such a long time, there’s no point in working on it this morning.
I’m not going to wear my helmet. What are the chances I have an accident today?
I should keep track of business expenses, but there’s no point in keeping one receipt.
Why work on my report today, when the deadline is so far off?
A year from now, whether I went to a video arcade today won’t matter.
What’s one beer?

By reminding ourselves that the heap grows one coin at a time, we can help keep ourselves on track.
habits  how-to-change  life-advice  gretchen-rubin  start-small  compound-effect 
9 weeks ago by lwhlihu
Srinivas Rao - OUR LAST TRIP AS A FAMILY My sister called me...
But with age, time accelerates. Days start to feel like hours, weeks like days, months like weeks, years like months, and decades like years all going by in a blink. And I can feel that pace in every minute even now, 48 hours with a friend until our next encounter, 2 days with a friend I haven't seen in 10 years, and then surf camp in the motherland. It's frenetic, and before long it will all morph from experience to memory.

Families are beautiful, messy and complicated." We fight, disagree, laugh and love. Few things in life force you to confront your mortality like watching your parents age, even if they seem to be aging in reverse like my dad. "Despite not being at the end of your life, you may very well be nearing the end of your time with some of the most important people in your life," says Tim Urban

We take it for granted that we can pick up the phone and they'll always be there just to talk, we have a home where the doors are always open, and they'll never let you leave without being fed, and that you'll always receive that text asking if you've arrived safely even if you're driving no more than an hour away.

If you're fortunate enough to spend time with your aging parents, siblings, aunts, and uncles, it's worth reflecting on the final words of a friend who I lost earlier this summer: never take it for granted.
parents  growing-up  life-advice 
10 weeks ago by lwhlihu

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