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"...It's how you play the game"
“It's like you tell your kid that and they look at you and they think, well, what do you mean by that? Aren't I supposed to try to win the soccer game? I'm supposed to win... This is how it works:

“So first of all, life is not a game. Even a game is not a game because the game is most of the time the beginning of a series of games.

“Let's say that you're on a soccer team. Well, there's winning the game, but the game isn't the issue. The game is the whole series of games. So maybe the game is winning the championship. But winning the championship and winning a game are not the same thing.

“The reason for that is, well maybe if you want to win a game, the best thing to do is to let your star player make all the moves. But if you want to win a championship, maybe the best thing is for your star player to do everything he or she possibly can to develop all the other team members. That's a different strategy.

“What you're saying is: Don't forget, what you're trying to do here is to do well at life and you need to practice the strategies that enable you to do well at life while you're in any specific game. You never want to compromise your ability to do well at life for the sake of winning a single game.”
7 days ago by eaconley
EMAIL - Why am I working so hard?
Every 6 months, I would ask myself what “mental traps” I’d created for myself. For example, did I introduce myself by defining myself as a “skinny Indian guy,” thereby creating a self-fulfilling prophecy? Or what about the more subtle traps, like saying “I don’t care about fancy clothes” (thereby creating a ceiling on how much attention I could ever spend on personal appearance)? Or what about aligning how much I claim my family is important to me with how much time and money I actually spend on them?

What mental traps have you created that are holding you back from growing your business?
ramit-sethi  mental-barriers  success  mindset-barrier  mindset-success  mindset 
13 days ago by lwhlihu
EMAIL - The Farmer, The Horse, And Your Next Decision

In other words, we are trained to be goal oriented. We have an objective in so much of what we do.

We want that big passion project we are working on to be a success.

And when we don’t get the outcome we want or expect, what happens?

Many of us get unhappy or disappointed or frustrated or even spiral into shame.

Our responses range from thinking that something is wrong with us if someone we like isn’t interested; or getting angry and bitter about an imagined "unfairness" if a big project doesn't succeed

We take any of these little things, and we act as if our whole self-esteem or even our whole life is at stake in the result.

And because of that, especially when it comes to the projects related to our biggest dreams and goals in life, many people have a literal fear reaction: They fight or flee or freeze.

Procrastination is one form of this, sometimes so severe that the project is never even started. Or you may work on it, but with so much stress and anxiety that you take years off your life. Or you may become so precious about every little thing in a project that you are a nightmare to work with. Or you may abandon it (always with a great plausible excuse) just before the finish line.

All this can also play havoc with our happiness and positivity, not to mention our relationships with others and ourselves.

So this email is to tell you, in whatever category you fall into:

It's all an illusion.

The result of any project is not an endpoint to your life (unless you are actually going to die at the end).

The outcome of a project or life event opens up a new door, path, or change.

And whether the project succeeds or fails by your standards doesn’t actually matter. It still leads you to the next event in your life.

And while it is true that each outcome leads somewhere different, you don’t actually know whether the success or failure door is the better one to go through.

Each result in your life is just a fork on a path that is endlessly forking. And it is impossible to predict where it is leading.

You can make the best choice in the world that leads to a huge fortune and a private plane, and then the plane can crash with no survivors the very first time you fly in it.

You can make the worse decision of your life and end up in jail, but have experiences there that allow you to transform, write a book, start a movement, and change the world for the better when you get out.

You just don’t know.

And the reason I’m writing this to you today is because you need to immediately take on the project that excites you the most, with no procrastination. And some of you need to stop stewing in past imagined failures that prevent you from taking action in the present.

I am relieving you of any anxiety you may have about whether you have the capabilities or not, whether it succeeds or fails, and whatever the outcome is.

There is only one outcome you can control: And that’s doing your best job at any particular project, given who you are today, and completing it to the best of your abilities.

That is the new definition of success.

The rest is not only out of your control, but you don’t even know whether failure or success will be better for you in the long run.

So become performance-centric and outcome-agnostic.
life-advice  mindset  mindset-success  neil-strauss 
16 days ago by lwhlihu
EMAIL: What your flippant beliefs cost you
When I used to think I was just a “skinny Indian guy,” I believed that gym bros were dumb jocks who guzzled protein.

That single belief cost me years of looking better, learning the technicalities of fitness & nutrition, and cost me in personal relationships, too.

Think about these common beliefs. What are the costs of believing these things?

“College is a waste of money”
“I’m an introvert so I can’t do that”
“I have a slow metabolism so I can’t get abs”
success  mindset  ramit-sethi 
20 days ago by lwhlihu
Lena Elkins: step into the mindset of your future self
The biggest advice that I can give is to step into the mindset of your FUTURE SELF! In 5 years from now, you'll be rollin' in it and will probably be known as the Britney Spears of the Pet channel that persona and confidence NOW and you'll CRUSH the conversation!!!
lena-elkins  mindset  success 
20 days ago by lwhlihu
Scott Oldford - There’s one key difference between the...
There’s one key
difference between
the entrepreneurs who are
millionaires and those who aren’t...
and it’s not

found inside a funnel,
it’s found inside their minds.
scott-oldford  entrepreneur  success  mindset 
21 days ago by lwhlihu
JT Tran - If you've plateaued in your results despite all the...
If you've plateaued in your results despite all the videos, ebooks and products you've absorbed, look at the underlying reasons for your lack of success. At a certain point, it's not your technique that's holding you back. Instead of putting a bandaid over a gaping, bleeding chest wound, identify what's REALLY holding you back.

What traumas, limiting beliefs, or internalized racism has been holding you back from fulfilling your full potential? Take this deep dive into your Inner Game and get the social and emotional intelligence that will make you a vastly superior, confident, and happy man.
inner-game  dating  success  mindset  mental-barriers 
22 days ago by lwhlihu
The 40% Rule: A Navy SEAL’s Secret to Mental Toughness | Fortune
“He would say that when your mind is telling you you’re done, you’re really only 40 percent done. And he had a motto: If it doesn’t suck we don’t do it. And that was his way of forcing us to get uncomfortable to figure out what our baseline was and what our comfort level was and just turning it upside-down.”

The 40% rule, the SEAL explained, is the reason why even though most people hit a wall at mile 16 during a marathon, they’re still able to finish.

Itzler wrote about experiencing the 40% rule the very first day that the SEAL moved in with him.

“The first day that “SEAL” came to live with me he asked me to do—he said how many pull-ups can you do?

I did about eight.

And he said all right. Take 30 seconds and do it again. So 30 seconds later I got up on the bar and I did six, struggling. And he said all right, one more time. We waited 30 seconds and I barely got three or four and I was done. I mean couldn’t move my arms done. And he said all right. We’re not leaving here until you do 100 more. And I thought there’s no—well we’re going to be here for quite a long time because there’s no way that I could do 100. But I ended up doing it one at a time and he showed me, proved to me right there that there was so much more, we’re all capable of so much more than we think we are. And it was just a great lesson.”
discipline  life-advice  success  mindset 
22 days ago by lwhlihu

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