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Clearness Committees: Using Community to Clarify Your Calls | Psychology Today
"We find that though individuals have their own integrity, it’s easy to obscure their perception of that integrity with advice and devil’s advocacy.

“Our tendency as a culture is toward being very proactive, solving problems and fixing things. By assuming the answer is in the person seeking clarity and that we help by listening, not by 'fixing,' the clearness process is counter-cultural. What we seek is the truth in the context of the focus person’s integrity, not a more general external truth"
productivity  psychology 
12 hours ago by magnusc
To Complain Is to Truly Be Alive
This is amazing.

“Being a person is terrible. And complaining about it is the purest, most soothing form of protest there is. Complaining feels so good. It’s like casting off the oppressive wool coat you’ve been buried under since October on that first truly beautiful warm April day. Pointlessly yelling into the void about some minor injustice you’ve suffered is the perfect relief for the giant wave of anxiety crashing against your insides, a balm for the wounds that riding public transportation with people who don’t use headphones while they listen to music can inflict upon your weary soul.

It doesn’t even have to be verbal. The shared grimace and eye roll between me and the other woman who was inconvenienced by the oversize suitcase the man in Seat 3B tried to sneak past the flight attendant can feel better than a long hug. Complaining is a hot bath for your feelings.”
complaining  culture  protest  psychology  how_we_live 
12 hours ago by alexpriest
Psychiatrie: Ich schaffe das! | ZEIT ONLINE
Die unglaubliche Geschichte der Patientin M. führt die Psychologie auf neue Wege. Und hilft uns, Krisen zu überwinden.
achtsamkeit  mindfulness  psychology 
13 hours ago by gorekee
The apocalypse is happening once a week or so – An und für sich
"Toxic Americanism"

We can also call it toxic masculinity, insofar as it takes the least desirable traits stereotypically associated with manhood — isolation, lack of empathy, rage — while completely discarding the more desirable traits like loyalty or duty. Surely it is no accident that only men — and almost always white men — participate in this nihilistic anti-ritual, but there is a false universalism in pinning the problem on masculinity. This is not always or even often how men behave. In fact, it is only in contemporary America that they have come to behave in this way at an epidemic level.
philosophy  psychology 
15 hours ago by joanofdark
YouTube -- Jordan Peterson: 2017/03/11: Strengthen the Individual: Q & A Parts I & II
"...People love that, they live for that, it's really what keeps you alive. And you can experience that in a deep conversation, a truthful conversation, a meaningful meeting of the minds and soul. And people love that, it's curative. All psychotherapists know this because what you do in psychotherapy – in addition to helping people face the things they're most afraid of so that they can overcome them – is to allow them to tell someone the truth. What happened to you? I'll listen. So they tell you. And they take themselves apart and they put themselves together while they're speaking the truth about what happened. And it puts them together. The two fundamental elements of psychotherapy are let's find what you're afraid of and avoiding and help you confront it so that you can gather the information that's there, and let's allow you to lay your story out in all its catastrophe and detail so that you can straighten yourself out through speech. That's exactly what happens in psychotherapy. It should happen in every real relationship. It's the spiritual purpose of a marriage, fundamentally, because you face someone who is different from you, who you're tied to – and cannot run from – and so you can reveal yourself – it's a critical part of marriage, because if you can run from someone you'll never show you their true face. Because if someone shows you their true face, you will run. And so you say in a marriage ceremony, "I will allow you to show me your true face and I will not run." And unless you mean that, you'll never be married, you'll never understand what it means. And you'll never reap the benefits of it because it's practical, obviously, but also spiritual and psychological. There's a reason for the vow, there has to be a vow, otherwise you'll leave a backdoor open and you'll never really tell the person what you're like."
psychology  psychotherapy  relationships  marriage  listening  honesty  disclosure  MartinBuber  * 
20 hours ago by adamcrowe
The Narrative Fallacy and What You Can Do About It
Stories of how businesses rise and fall strike a chord with readers by offering what the human mind needs: a simple message of triumph and failure that identifies clear causes and ignores the determinative power of luck and the inevitability of regression.

A thousand years ago, much of what we thought we knew was based on naïve backward-looking causality. (Steve put leeches on his skin and then survived the plague = leeches cure the plague.) Only when we learned to take the concept of [leeches = cure for plague] and call it a hypothesis did we begin to understand the physical world. Only by downgrading our naïve assumptions to the status of a hypothesis, which needs to be tested with rigorous experiment – give 100 plague victims leeches and let 100 of them go leech-less and tally the results – did we find a method to parse actual cause and effect.
psychology  bias  mental_models 
21 hours ago by alede
Einsame Menschen sterben früher - SPIEGEL ONLINE
without a friend (partner does not count), 4x likelihood to relapse and die - increase mortality - breast cancer patients.
public  health  crisis  mental  premature  ageing  death  inflammation  Depression  prevention  chronic  sick  population  disease  autoimmune  complex  loneliness  Einsamkeit  Gesellschaft  Society  Psychology  Sociology  Wertegesellschaft 
23 hours ago by asterisk2a
Insensitivity To Base Rates: An Introduction
When you evaluate whether smoking is good for you or not, if you look at the average experience of 1,000 smokers and compare them with a 1,000 non-smokers, you’ll see what happens.

People don’t do that. They get influenced by individual stories like a smoker who lived till he was 95. Such a smoker will force many people to ignore base rates, and to focus on his story, to fool themselves into believing that smoking can’t be all that bad for them.
bias  psychology  mental_models 
23 hours ago by alede

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