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Gaming's #MeToo Moment and the Tyranny of Male Fragility | WIRED
I just want to know: What if we decided to care as much about the well-being of women who have been abused as we do about the well-being of abusers? What would it be like to live in a world, or to work in an industry, where the social consequences of hurting a woman weighed heavier than the social consequences of being one?
#MeToo  gamergate  misogyny  culture  abuse  sexism 
5 weeks ago by Quercki
What Was the Washington Post Afraid Of?
investigative reporter Amy Brittain and I, then a freelancer, had been working on a follow-up to our November front-page story about sexual-harassment allegations against Charlie Rose. In the wake of our story, Rose had been fired from his gigs as a CBS This Morning anchor and 60 Minutes correspondent, and his PBS show had been canceled.

This new article had 27 additional allegations against Rose and three instances in which CBS management had been warned about him, but it went further. Our editor, Peter Wallsten, had encouraged us to ask who had known about Rose’s conduct and protected him, and whether he’d been enabled by a culture — assuming we had the reporting to back it up, of course. Answering that question had led to the then–60 Minutes boss and former network chairman Jeff Fager, who had repeatedly championed Rose at the network. That was awkward because 60 Minutes had been the Post’s partner for a just-wrapped yearlong investigation of the roots of the opioid crisis.
#MeToo  Charlie_Rose  Jeff_Fager  60_minutes 
april 2019 by Quercki
How #MeToo Is Taking on a Life of Its Own in Asia | Time
Seo reported the incident to her managers shortly after, but was subjected to performance audits that she describes as unfair, and assigned to a lower level branch outside Seoul—a move she says did not match her strong track record at work. Last fall, after suffering long term health problems such as panic attacks and trouble sleeping, Seo watched as the #MeToo movement took off in Hollywood. She began to grasp how widespread sexual harassment and assault were, and realized even “world-famous actresses” had suffered as she had. “I had more confidence in believing that it wasn’t my fault,” she says.

As the reckoning spread across the U.S., Canada and parts of Europe, millions of survivors described their experiences of groping, rape, unwanted kissing, abuse and threats; others simply posted “me too” on social media. In November, Seo asked for a meeting with senior management to open an investigation into the incident, and to find the truth regarding her treatment at work in the years since she reported the incident. Frustrated by the lack of progress, Seo decided to add her voice to the rising global chorus on January 29—sharing her experience in an open letter on her workplace intranet and signing it with #MeToo at the end.
#meToo  Korea  China  Thai  sexual_harassment 
october 2018 by Quercki
Tarana Burke Reflects on #MeToo’s Resurgence One Year Later – Variety
All of the shouting and headlines about who #MeToo is going to take down next creates a kind of careless perception that invalidates the experiences of survivors who risk everything coming forward, whether it’s telling their stories, sharing a hashtag or being transparent and vulnerable about some of the worst things that have happened in their lives.

The din of naysayers has, in many regards, severely overshadowed the beauty of what has happened this year. It has been a year of great liberation and empowerment. Every day I meet people who have moved from victim to survivor by simply adding their own “Me too” to the chorus of voices. They have freed themselves from the burden that holding on to these traumas often creates and stepped into the power of release, the power of empathy and the power of truth. They have looked their demons in the face and lived to see another day, and they have become the empirical proof that we can win the fight to end sexual violence.

Moving into 2019, some concrete things must happen in order to build on the momentum we have gained in the last year, starting with changing how we talk about the #MeToo movement. This is a survivors’ movement created for and by those of us who have endured sexual violence. The goal is to provide a mechanism to support survivors and move people to action. Any other characterization severely handicaps our ability to move the work forward.
#MeToo  sexual_assault 
september 2018 by Quercki
Amid #MeToo, Journalists Shouldn't Commodify Women's Pain - Pacific Standard
One day in late February, Seattle-based author Litsa Dremousis logged into Twitter and turned a whisper network into a shout. She tweeted that she had been aware of allegations of sexual abuse against the author Sherman Alexie for months, and that she had "confronted him directly in October, blasted him, & severed the friendship." She added that she had spoken to numerous women who had been sexually harmed by the famous author and that now some of the victims were getting ready to come forward. On March 5th, NPR published a story featuring on-the-record interviews with three of the victims.

In the gap between Dremousis' tweet and the NPR story, two things happened: First, Alexie published a nasty statement that many journalists characterized as an "apology." Second, reporters started to hound Dremousis for details. Taken together, the actions of the press here reveal ongoing problems with how stories about sexual misconduct are being told, even as the "me too" movement continues.
journalism  #MeToo  abuse 
march 2018 by Quercki
WATCH: Dolores Huerta Talks #MeToo, DREAMers and the Women on the Front Lines - Ms. Magazine Blog
She would always say to me, “Don’t forget to speak. Always have the courage to speak out, even when you think you might say the wrong thing because you can always correct it. But you’ve got to be able to let people know what you think, especially let them know what your ideas are.” I think a lot of women, we just remain silent because we’re afraid we’re going to be criticized. We have to figure out how we implant that courage, and I think those seeds of courage need to be put into young women when they’re in school, and we [should] forget about this nonsense that Prince Charming’s going to come by and give you a kiss and wake you up and you’re going to live happily ever after, which we know is such a falsehood and such a myth.
feminism  #MeToo  DACA  women  history 
february 2018 by Quercki
Rebecca Solnit on the #MeToo Backlash | Literary Hub
This thing has gone too far. It has terrified people, driven them out of their workplaces and even professions, made them afraid to speak up and punished them for speaking. This thing, by which I mean misogyny and violence against women (and girls, and men, and boys, and even babies, but I’m going to skip the horrific baby story that was reported last week). The #MeToo upheaval is an attempt to address something old and deep and very destructive, and if you’ve forgotten how serious it is let’s take a visit to my favorite radical-feminist data center, the Department of Justice’s Bureau of Justice Statistics. There you can learn that there were an estimated 323,450 rapes or sexual assaults in 2016, as well as 1,109,610 reported incidents of domestic violence. Less than a quarter of those rapes are reported to police; slightly over half of the domestic violence incidents are.

Roughly 3,000,000 rapes over a decade is a lot of raping, and the figures are, for various reasons, a very low, conservative estimate.
#MeToo  sexual_harassment  rape 
february 2018 by Quercki
Rob Porter’s history of domestic abuse wasn’t a secret.
As it turns out, the first #MeToo story to actually trip up the White House needed to be as graphic and violent as the accusations against Rob Porter. It needed to involve a Rhodes Scholar golden boy who had been married—married—to old-fashioned girls to even count. This, and indeed the entire situation, provides the perfect mirror to reflect all the ways in which systems, all systems, fail women.
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Another thing that is clear from the blog post is that the police knew: Willoughby filed for a protective order in Arlington, Virginia, in 2010, and she called them on at least one other occasion. Both women reported the abuse to elders in their church and to counselors. Holderness told her brother and his girlfriend. And then, as their mutual ex-husband was being cleared for his job in the White House last spring, both women told the FBI. They actually thought, at that point, somebody might care.

Please stop saying that women don’t tell. These women told. They told the stories of likely the most intimate and traumatic moments of their lives to family and church elders and friends and counselors and FBI officers, and they saw the following happen: Porter was not given full clearance. He was, however, given an interim security clearance. Senior staff in the White House knew why his clearance was snagged by the fall. According to Politico, John Kelly, Donald Trump’s chief of staff and Porter’s boss, also knew of the 2010 protective order against Porter. Don McGahn, the White House counsel, also knew, according to Politico, because in recent weeks a third woman, an ex-girlfriend of Porter’s who also works in the Trump administration, told him that Porter had abused her and his two ex-wives.

But right up until 9:31 p.m. Eastern on Wednesday night, John Kelly was standing by Rob Porter. Even when others had distanced themselves, John Kelly reiterated his opinion that Porter had true integrity and honor.
domestic_violence  abuse  #MeToo 
february 2018 by Quercki
What’s Missing from #MeToo and #TimesUp: One Indigenous Woman’s Perspective
it is happening at an alarming rate today. Both the land, water, and Indigenous women have been ‘othered’ and devalued in our society. Native American women are 2.5 times more likely to experience sexual assault and rape than any other ethnic group and the unsolved cases of Murdered & Missing Indigenous Women (#MMIW) are staggering. Extractive industries play a major role in this violence and I encourage you to visit www.landbodydefense.org for a report and toolkit on how to support these resistance efforts. Another resource on MMIW community-led work is at It Starts With Us.
This patriarchal worldview of how we relate to Mother Earth and to the non-human is so toxic that academics are referring to it as a new epoch — the Anthropocene. Under a patriarchal, colonialist mindset we find ourselves consuming and polluting the natural resources of our Mother Earth at a rate that is exasperating climate change and threatening life on this planet. Yes, TIME. IS. UP. Time is up for unjust patriarchal systems. Period.
#TimesUp  #MeToo  colonialism  violence  women  climatechange 
january 2018 by Quercki
(1) Edye Cheeseman - Edye Cheeseman shared LaTasha Levy's post.
She went on to mention Recy Taylor and the four WHITE men who brutally raped her with impunity and Rosa Parks who advocated for Taylor long before she sat her ass down on a bus. (which a bunch of y'all woke folks didn't know, be honest.) And y'all got a nerve to drag her for invoking Taylor? The power in that story is that Oprah not only forced the white men in that audience to face their history of savage behavior, she also scolded white women for their complicity, silence and the way they have ignored Black women's experiences with sexual assault and harassment. Oprah further underscored this when she repeatedly mentioned domestic workers, the Black women, like her mother, (like Viola's mother, like most of our moms and grandmothers), who survived white racial terror on many fronts, including the threat of sexual violence by white men and either contempt or apathy from white women.

And when she connected Black women's experiences to #MeToo she was not affirming white feminists! You have to be dumb, deaf and blind if you are STILL claiming #MeToo is a white women's movement, after white women have been called out for coopting Tarana Burke's work. Tarana, a fierce Black woman, started the Me Too campaign years ago in defense of women and girls. And you know that shit by now, right? How could you not? Tarana was in the audience. What Oprah did with that speech was to recenter Black women who have long suffered the savagery of white men. It was a moment that called out both white men and white women on their shit. It was laced with shade.
#MeToo  Oprah  Golden_Globes  racism  sexual_harassment 
january 2018 by Quercki
Killing the Sixties: Abuse, Consent, #MeToo and the Pagan Community – Atheopaganism
It is time to formally declare that the sexual values of the Sixties are dead. They weren’t idyllic, they weren’t victimless, and they weren’t of forward-thinking consciousness. We have learned a lot since, and it is that learning that needs to be the bedrock foundation of our community’s sexual practices and behavior.

Now, will that be less “fun”?

Only to those who are in the habit of harassment and assault.

Asking permission may seem awkward. It requires courage and a willingness to face rejection. But just steamrollering past the consent phase is abusive. It just is.

Let that be the “Pagan way”. Let the seeking of affirmative consent and the accepting of what we receive by way of an answer be what we mean when we say we are “sex-positive”. Anything less is being “assault positive”, and we have had more than enough of that.

And it goes without saying that minors can’t consent. Not to adults. I don’t have a problem with 16-year-olds discovering their sexuality together, but I have a BIG problem with a 25-year-old hitting on a teenager. Much less a 40-year-old.

Some have suggested that the inevitable endpoint of the #MeToo movement is a return to puritanical, anti-sex repression. I disagree. I think it’s finally doing the laundry, and clearing out the nasty stuff in the cupboards. And if we conduct ourselves with integrity, we will have far less abuse and harassment in our community going forward.

Now, does this mean that men who misbehaved because they thought it was okay are going to get strung up for things they did decades ago?

Yes, unfortunately, it does. And I can accept in limited cases (certainly not in cases involving minors) the plea that “it was a different time”.

But it’s a different time than that now.

The Sixties are dead, and good riddance.
sexual_harassment  pagan  consent  #MeToo 
january 2018 by Quercki
Me Too Creator Tarana Burke Reminds Us This Is About Black and Brown Survivors by Zenobia Jeffries — YES! Magazine
We have to talk about consent really early on. I’m a big champion of sex education. Because I think that the only way we can have lasting changes is if we change the way that young people think about each other. We start teaching respect and boundaries very early, you know kindergarten, pre-kindergarten. We should be talking about respect and boundaries. We should be talking about what it means to ask permission. We should be talking about those things.

I’m 44 years old. I grew up with [the] Just Say No [campaign against drugs]. I grew up in the midst of the “drug war,” with Ronald Reagan, Nancy Reagan. And there were many problematic things about that, but the flip side of that was I was inundated as a child with the message of “just say no.”

So, I feel like we have to have a similar wave with young people around consent. We need to be inundating these children with the idea that consent is the way of life. Yes, you do have to ask to touch somebody.
#MeToo  Tarana_Burke  consent  sexual_harassment  sexual_assault  black  race 
january 2018 by Quercki
Time's Up Now
The clock has run out on sexual assault, harassment and inequality in the workplace. It's time to do something about it.
Join us. Add your name to our Letter of Solidarity by donating to the TIME’S UP Legal Defense Fund.
sexual_harassment  sexual_assault  #MeToo  intersectionality  solutions 
january 2018 by Quercki
Due Process Is Needed For Sexual Harassment Accusations — But For Whom?
After USA Today asked me to write about not believing in due process, I wondered: How often are we being suckered into a side of a debate that we shouldn’t even be having?

The first time I remember being sexually harassed at work was at my second job ever, working at a bookstore. There was a man there who always tried to work sexual innuendo into every conversation we had. He’d find excuses to touch my back or arm, and try to give me massages in the breakroom. He was constantly winking at me, licking his lips. He would bring a gym bag to work, and sometimes, when we were in the breakroom together, he’d unpack the bag like he was organizing it. He’d talk to me about his workout routine, how important it was for him to stay in shape so he could maintain his sexual prowess. Then he’d bring out a bottle of KY Jelly, and he’d slowly and deliberately place it on the table. Staring at me.
Sometimes managers would be in the room, pretending not to hear. Occasionally a manager would shake their head at him and tsk tsk, like he was a naughty child. He was not a child. He was 32. I, on the other hand, was a child. I was 17.
I had spent most of yesterday thinking of this recent flood of public sexual harassment allegations against rich and powerful men. While so many talked of the downfall of these men, either in shock at their depravity or in sympathy for their careers now sidelined, I couldn’t stop thinking about how much of my professional life had been spent navigating gender discrimination and sexual harassment. I thought about all the women (and some men, and gender non-conforming folx) that these men harmed, who would never get in-depth profiles discussing the tragedy of what they lost, exploring what they could have been if not for these men and the system that enabled them and so many other abusers to torment their victims with such ease.
sexual_harassment  #MeToo  Ijeoma_Oluo 
december 2017 by Quercki
(22) Rebecca Solnit - We now return to our regular feature, Today in...
And the 'solutions' are a problem too. Often, as with this case, academic harrassers are essentially awarded for harrassment: allowed to keep their job and salary, relieved of teaching duties: "Nezar AlSayyad, a tenured architecture professor and an internationally recognized Middle East scholar, remains employed at UC Berkeley more than a year after an independent investigator determined that he sexually harassed his former student, Eva Hagberg Fisher, from 2012 to 2014. The university has given AlSayyad no classes to teach since fall 2016, but he continues to receive $211,000 a year. Student protests erupted against AlSayyad and the campus administration in November 2016, after The Chronicle first reported the investigator’s findings. Dozens of graduate students also signed a petition demanding that the administration revoke AlSayyad’s tenure if a separate investigation by the Faculty Senate determined that the professor violated the Faculty Code of Conduct. In April, the regents agreed to pay $1.7 million over 10 years to settle the lawsuit of a UC Berkeley employee who claimed that her boss, Sujit Choudhry, then dean of the law school, hugged, kissed and touched her repeatedly during 2014 and 2015, and that the campus did nothing to stop it. That payout exceeded what had been a record UC settlement for sexual harassment, the $1.15 million won in January by a UC Santa Cruz student to settle her claim that a professor raped her when she was his student in 2015.
sexual_assault  #MeToo  NYT  Rebecca_Solnit 
december 2017 by Quercki
Minnie Driver: men like Matt Damon 'cannot understand what abuse is like' | Film | The Guardian
In her first response to Damon, Driver wrote on Twitter: “God God, seriously?

“Gosh it’s so interesting (profoundly unsurprising) how men with all these opinions about women’s differentiation between sexual misconduct, assault and rape reveal themselves to be utterly tone deaf and as a result, systemically part of the problem.”

Driver’s response to Damon was shared widely on social media, alongside that of the actor Alyssa Milano, who said: “There are different stages of cancer. Some more treatable than others. But it’s still cancer.”

On Saturday, Driver told the Guardian: “I felt I desperately needed to say something. I’ve realised that most men, good men, the men that I love, there is a cut-off in their ability to understand. They simply cannot understand what abuse is like on a daily level.
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“In the same stereotypical way that we see women being supportive of men in their endeavors,” she said, “I feel that’s what women need of men in this moment. They need men to lean on and not question.

“Men can rally and they can support, but I don’t think its appropriate, per se, for men to have an opinion about how women should be metabolising abuse. Ever.”
sexual_harassment  #MeToo 
december 2017 by Quercki
This Moment Isn’t (Just) About Sex
Justice William Rehnquist wrote in the unanimous decision, “Without question, when a supervisor sexually harasses a subordinate because of the subordinate’s sex, the supervisor discriminates on the basis of sex.”

In other words, sexual harassment may entail behaviors that on their own would be criminal — assault or rape — but the legal definition of its harm is about the systemic disadvantaging of a gender in the public and professional sphere. And those structural disadvantages do not begin or end with the actual physical incursions — the groping, kissing, the rubbing up against. In fact, the gender inequity that creates the need for civil-rights protections is what has permitted so many of these trespasses to have occurred, so frequently, and for so long; gender inequity is what explains why women are vulnerable to harassment before they are even harassed; it explains why it’s difficult for them to come forward with stories after they have been harassed, why they are often ignored when they do; it clarifies why so many women work with or maintain relationships with harassers and why their reactions to those harassers become key to how they themselves will be evaluated, professionally. Gender inequity is cyclical, all-encompassing.
sexism  harassment  discrimination  #MeToo 
december 2017 by Quercki
After #MeToo: #RemoveReplaceRepair | Robin Morgan | Author, Activist, Feminist | NYC
Every man forced to resign his post due to these behaviors, whether in business, academia, politics, or anywhere else, should as a matter of course be replaced by a woman qualified for the job.
sexual_harassment  politics  feminism  #MeToo 
december 2017 by Quercki
If We Fire All Sexual Assaulters, Will We End Up Firing Everyone?
We’re going to have to stop pretending the sexual assaulters are out there, that they’re committed by horrible people with horrible minds and repulsive sexual urges. Sexual assault is a natural and obvious extension of our culture. It is a natural extension of values that we all have internalized.
And, we’re going to have to figure out what to do about that.
sexual_assault  #MeToo 
november 2017 by Quercki
WATCH: '#MeToo' Creator Tarana Burke on Resurgence of the Movement for Sexual Assault Survivors | Colorlines
"'Me too' is about using the power of empathy to stomp out shame."
On Sunday (October 15), actress Alyssa Milano responded to the growing sexual assault accusations against Hollywood mogul Harvey Weinstein by tweeting an invitation to post about experiences with sexual harassment and assault.

This call compelled women across the world to disclose by including “me too” or “#MeToo” in a tweet. It also prompted media coverage that overlooked a key part of the campaign that Milano didn’t acknowledge until later: a Black woman, organizer and writer Tarana Burke, launched the “Me Too” campaign a decade ago.

“That’s how media works,” Burke said while addressing how media outlets erased her role
sexual_assault  #MeToo  Tarana_Burke 
october 2017 by Quercki
20 Things Men Can Do RTFN to Support Women – Helen Rosner – Medium
But if you’re a man unsure of what you can do right now to support women, instant changes you can make this very second in your daily life that will make life better for women (and, bonus, for men too!), here you go:
Overcome your own transphobia. Trans women are women. Trans men are men. Accept the lived truth of NB and GNC people, whether or not they are women.
Be pro-choice and be vocal in support of reproductive rights. (And generous! Give to the National Network of Abortion Funds!) Understand that the opposite of reproductive choice is forced childbearing.
Support subsidized birth control. Support women’s healthcare. Support women’s preventative healthcare. Support medical trials that include (or even prioritize) women.
men  todo  solution  #meToo  feminism  sexual_harassment 
october 2017 by Quercki
Gabriel Valdez - Content Warning: sexual harassment, sexual...
I have been complicit. I have stood by and remained silent as I overheard men harassing women. I was once so convinced of a best friend's innocence in high school that I couldn't understand why he was accused of sexual assault. Only after he caused more damage to others did I revisit it and wonder at how willfully blind I'd been.
I have sexually harassed, when I was young and just thought that was how boys should act, when I was older and at a job where that was the norm and I resisted for months yet at the same time stayed silent on it because I didn't want to lose the job...until one day I made a comment and it was the starkest signal yet that I couldn't be successful in the long-term resisting that environment's conditioning.
I pushed a boundary once, and very quickly stopped when I was told, but that doesn't change the fact that my first thought had been to test it instead of to talk about it clearly.
I've spoken up and interdicted, but I've also failed to do so, I've also stayed silent when I could have done so. I look back to high school in particular and wonder if I'd been able to grasp a different perspective, could I have stopped others from being harmed? I was uniquely positioned as his best friend. And I know the answer is yes.
#MeToo  #YesAllWomen  sexual_harassment  sexual_assault 
october 2017 by Quercki

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