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my employee keeps commenting on my looks — Ask a Manager
Comment from "Jen in Oregon":
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While I do think we need to not be as concerned about this as we still are, I think we women need to give ourselves a break about the fact that we’re still worried about how to stop offense without being offensive back. In situations like this, it’s probably more than *just* social conditioning–it’s an evolutionary instinct to help us stay alive. Even in 2019, it’s hard to separate with any certainty the 98%* run-of-the-mill misogynists that will act all butt-hurt–and might try to cause you problems at work–for being called out on their assholery from the 2% willing to physically hurt you, if not kill you, for damaging their ego.

*These percentages were made up.
women  men  work  harassment  communication  risk 
june 2019 by UnchartedWorlds
#1131: The Aftermath of Harassment Allegations: A Friend’s Responsibility | Captain Awkward
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I predict you will hear a lot of minimisation from your friend, and an honest belief that his experience of being held accountable is much more severe than anything he subjected his victim to.
abuse  harassment  friendship  justice 
august 2018 by UnchartedWorlds
#1131: The Aftermath of Harassment Allegations: A Friend’s Responsibility | Captain Awkward
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I’ve just had to own up to the fact that my emotions around this stuff were programmed by a weird world that doesn’t know what to do with consent, and try to proceed more from principles than reactions.
abuse  harassment  friendship  community  systems 
august 2018 by UnchartedWorlds
‘Dramatic rise’ in attacks on sex workers since law change
Ireland
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"we have seen a marked increase since the law changed in March of this year"
sex_work  sex_trade  law  abuse  violence  harassment  stats  2017 
september 2017 by UnchartedWorlds
Returning to the Scene, Or Coming Back After Harassment - Almost Diamonds
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Harassment is not an “interpersonal issue”. Having your boundaries violated is not something a person does. It is something that is done to them. When someone says how they want to be treated (either verbally or through body language) and this is ignored, this is a unilateral action on the part of the person who chose to ignore their boundaries. When things outside the bounds of the broadest social norms or outside of a local code of conduct are done to people without them being consulted, this is a unilateral action on the part of the person who took action without consulting the target of that action.

Treating harassment as a back-and-forth between two people simply because it requires that two people be present elides the one-sided nature of these interactions.
harassment  how_to  ontology  language  code_of_conduct 
april 2017 by UnchartedWorlds
antarcticlust. Comments on Wiscon, the Frenkel Decision, and Harassment
long long thread unravelling what was done wrong re WisCon harasser, inc good points
harassment  events  code_of_conduct  2014 
april 2017 by UnchartedWorlds
What Happened After I Reported: Elise Matthesen, WisCon, and Harassment – Whatever
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Fearing that you’ll be accused of harassment because of any consequences to Frenkel is like fearing that you’ll be accused of stealing a car if you just so happen to jimmy open the lock, sit in the driver’s seat, and start messing around with the ignition wires. Yes, you might–but you could just…not do that, y’know?
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I don’t give a rat’s ass that they’re volunteers. Don’t volunteer for a job you’re not competent or don’t have the time to do, it’s that simple.
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If you can’t give something the amount of attention it needs to be competent, don’t volunteer.
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It’s not credible to say “no one can criticize anything unless they are willing to fix that thing”
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Volunteer cannot and should not be a code word for incompetent.
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harassment  organising 
april 2017 by UnchartedWorlds
When will universities wake up to this epidemic of sexual harassment? | Eve Livingston | Opinion | The Guardian
Good short piece about harassment etc in academia.

"A nicely formatted flowchart highlighting that the university has a zero tolerance approach to sexual harassment means little when it directs you to those who have already proved otherwise."
harassment  sex  academia  systems 
march 2017 by UnchartedWorlds
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