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利炳根日本记事 - OurCoders (我们程序员)
expat  japan  howto  it  work  life 
28 days ago by aries1988
生活在瑞典 (长,慎入)
主题:生活在瑞典 (长,慎入) |narcissus0xx||只看此ID 一转眼来瑞典三年半了,看本版也没什么人讨论北欧的,不知道发这个帖子会不会有人感兴趣。纯属分享经验,生活苦甜个有滋味,最终不过个人选择不同。很长,不感兴趣的段落请自行跳过。若有不同意见请轻拍吧。…
sweden  numbers  moi  expat  life  kid  family  immobilier  share 
4 weeks ago by aries1988
Les tics de langage
Fonction phatique de la langue
Phatic expressions
français  analysis  linguist  life  habit  language  learn  interview  fun  young  generation  explained  kid 
5 weeks ago by aries1988
Mag.Meng on Twitter: "维也纳一个不抽烟,没有车的三口之家2018年一个月花费为:
在家做饭 700欧
电费 100欧
网络 30欧
手机 40欧
下馆子 250欧
买衣服 100欧
numbers  family  money  vienna  europe  life 
8 weeks ago by aries1988
More and more people who are working in Beijing opt to live in Tianjin due to the high housing cost in the capital…
story  beijing  tianjin  commute  kid  education  work  life  choice  today 
11 weeks ago by aries1988
有一次我在波士顿等地铁,坐在站台椅子上感觉到了一点儿风的变化,于是随口嘀咕了一句“车来了”,旁边一个美国人听到后走到站台边缘探头看了看隧道,回来对我说“How do u know that?”
fun  life  anecdote  communication  language  gaijin 
april 2019 by aries1988
Her Time
while FEN guides were there to help people die, they couldn’t help in the literal sense. Though suicide is legal in every state, the act of helping someone commit the act is illegal. The rule that FEN’s leadership came up with — the rule they hoped would keep the organization free from prosecution — was that exit guides could instruct and advise and sit with but could not touch a client.

According to FEN rules, clients didn’t need to be terminally ill or even dying, in the immediate sense, as long as they were suffering “intolerably” and “unbearably.”

In Brian’s civilian life, he heard people say all the time that if they got dementia, they’d kill themselves or get someone else to kill them — that they were not going there. OK then, he would think, so what is your plan?
It made sense to Brian that the search for an alternative path was happening beyond the official gaze of the courtroom and the hospital ethics committee. People were scared, and they could find nobody to hold their hands and help them find a way out.

“She doesn’t want to lose her selfhood,” Brian said. “She sees it happening.” Brian believes that nobody wants to die, only sometimes they can’t live this way.

David had been an antiques trader before going into construction, and his house was filled with old things. Sometimes, Debra and David imagined that they had known each other in the Victorian era but that their relationship had been cut short for reasons they didn’t know and that God had sent them back to earth to meet again.

It was hard to think about money, though, because it was getting harder to think in straight lines. Debra’s thoughts felt like seeds that never germinated. Her attention was flighty; her stories lost their narrative thread. Sometimes, when she was at her computer, she’d come to suddenly and find that she had typed a page of gibberish. “I call them brain farts, for lack of a better description.”

She thought she probably wouldn’t, that she would have no self-respect left, by then, to offend. But still, she believed that some part of her would continue to hurt from all the small indignities of life in an institution where nobody loved her.

Patients in Oregon are more likely to request aid in dying for existential reasons than for physical ones.

Dutch doctors debate whether these two versions of the patient — the “then-self” before dementia and the “now-self” with dementia — are even the same person. If they are not, then why does the one get to dictate choices for the other?

Later, there was just one strange thing that Lieutenant Horton found hard to shake. It was nice out, but all the curtains were drawn.
aging  suicide  dementia  death  health  law  california  life  couple  house 
april 2019 by aries1988
三代同堂的育儿生活:血缘是家庭的最终归宿|深度|端传媒 Initium Media


parents  family  grandparent  today  china  generation  work  life  senior  retirement 
february 2019 by aries1988
五柳先生传 - 维基文库,自由的图书馆

reading  classic  wiki  chinese  quotes  life 
december 2018 by aries1988
A history of true civilisation is not one of monuments | Aeon Ideas
The 20th-century French anthropologist Marcel Mauss thought that civilisation should not be reduced to a list of technical or aesthetic achievements. Nor should it represent a particular stage of cultural development (‘civilisation’ versus ‘barbarism’, and so on). Civilisation could be found in material things, but above all it referred to a potential in human societies. In Mauss’s view, civilisation is what happens when discrete societies share morally and materially across boundaries, forming durable relationships that transcend differences.

Sacrifice is the shadow lurking behind this concept of civilisation; the sacrifice of freedoms, of life itself, for the sake of something always out of reach – an idea of world order, the mandate of heaven, blessings from those insatiable gods.

Mutual aid, social cooperation, civic activism, hospitality or simply caring for others: these are the kind of things that actually go to make civilisations.

What until now has passed for ‘civilisation’ might in fact be nothing more than a gendered appropriation – by men, etching their claims in stone – of some earlier system of knowledge that had women at its centre.
civ  opinion  definition  culture  life  monument  archaeology  antiquity 
october 2018 by aries1988
French windows: an expat’s view of Paris

The most striking thing about the city, of course, is the people who live here. After almost two years here I’ve concluded that three terms sum up the Parisian experience like no other: la terrasse, faire le pont and la rentrée.

If in London you’re defined by where you work and in New York you’re defined by how much you earn, in Paris you’re defined by your ability to converse on books, philosophy or art. The French can discuss ideas for hours but equally can respond to almost any question — how was Saint-Tropez? Will Macron manage to reform France? How will the feud over [late rock star] Johnny Hallyday’s inheritance conclude? — with a shrug of their shoulders and two words: c’est compliqué.

in France there are 11 jours fériés or public holidays each year. If a férié falls on a Tuesday, you skip work on Monday as well, and make a bridge from the weekend. This is such a national pastime that there is even a section dedicated to le pont on the French public administration website.

€1m A four-bedroom duplex apartment in the loft of a recent building in the 20th arrondissement near Père Lachaise

€2m A three-bedroom apartment in the 2nd arrondissement overlooking the Places des Victoires

€5.9m A four-bedroom 294 square metre apartment at Trocadéro in the 16th arrondissement, south-facing with views of the Seine and the Eiffel Tower
temoignage  paris  british  français  life  gaijin 
september 2018 by aries1988
两个囚犯同时望向窗外,一个看到的是星辰,一个看到的是泥泞 | 欧丽娟 一席第627位讲者
欧丽娟,台湾大学中文系教授,研究领域:《红楼梦》、中国文学史等。代表作为《大观红楼》系列,因台大“红楼梦”公开课获得“全球开放式课程联盟”2015年杰出教学者奖。 虽然这个受尽苦楚的人,他是从日日夜夜反刍的个人悲痛的深渊里说出话来,虽然他所表达的意象是长久的苦难所慢慢塑造出来的,是那么真实的一个血泪。
podcast  chinese  literature  life  hardship  poetry 
september 2018 by aries1988
Yuval Noah Harari on Why Technology Favors Tyranny - The Atlantic

- In 2018 the common person feels increasingly irrelevant.
By 2050, a useless class might emerge, the result not only of a shortage of jobs or a lack of relevant education but also of insufficient mental stamina to continue learning new skills.

- whatever liberal democracy’s philosophical appeal, it has gained strength in no small part thanks to a practical advantage: The decentralized approach to decision making that is characteristic of liberalism—in both politics and economics.
In the late 20th century, democracies usually outperformed dictatorships, because they were far better at processing information.
Democracy distributes the power to process information and make decisions among many people and institutions, whereas dictatorship concentrates information and power in one place.
- If you disregard all privacy concerns and concentrate all the information relating to a billion people in one database, you’ll wind up with much better algorithms than if you respect individual privacy and have in your database only partial information on a million people.

- What will happen to this view of life as we rely on AI to make ever more decisions for us?
once we begin to count on AI to decide what to study, where to work, and whom to date or even marry, human life will cease to be a drama of decision making, and our conception of life will need to change. Democratic elections and free markets might cease to make sense. So might most religions and works of art.
If we are not careful, we will end up with downgraded humans misusing upgraded computers to wreak havoc on themselves and on the world.

- For starters, we need to place a much higher priority on understanding how the human mind works—particularly how our own wisdom and compassion can be cultivated.
- More practically, and more immediately, if we want to prevent the concentration of all wealth and power in the hands of a small elite, we must regulate the ownership of data.
advice  future  crisis  ai  society  politics  people  life  work  mentality  human  democracy  dictatorship  competition  liberalism 
september 2018 by aries1988
A Hongkong, un film montre le vrai visage des domestiques
Le choix est cruel, et part du principe que l’argent envoyé vaut mieux que la présence maternelle. Les enfants restés aux Philippines partagent rarement cet avis.
helper  philippine  money  documentary  life  hongkong 
september 2018 by aries1988
The American Scholar: Joyas Voladoras - Brian Doyle
Brian Doyle, who died on May 27, 2017, considers the capacity of the heart—including his own. Rest in peace.

When young we think there will come one person who will savor and sustain us always; when we are older we know this is the dream of a child, that all hearts finally are bruised and scarred, scored and torn, repaired by time and will, patched by force of character, yet fragile and rickety forevermore, no matter how ferocious the defense and how many bricks you bring to the wall.
heart  life  essay  death 
august 2018 by aries1988
Accueil - Bloctel
Bienvenue sur Bloctel, la liste d'opposition au démarchage téléphonique, gratuite pour les consommateurs
moi  tool  life  france  ad  phone 
july 2018 by aries1988
Resilience and ingenuity – a Tajik teacher's hydroelectric station made from Soviet scraps | Aeon Videos
In doing so, the film is both a chronicle of his remarkable life and a robust reminder that genius is not confined to the places where it is most lavishly rewarded and popularly celebrated.
stans  life  soviet  history  engineer  village  electricity  invention  mind 
june 2018 by aries1988
'Charlottesville': A Government Story About Nuclear War - The Atlantic

Charlottesville, the small but elegant center of learning, culture, and trade in central Virginia, was not hit either. This monument to the mind and manner of Jefferson retained its status as a kind of genteel sanctuary, momentarily immune to the disaster that had leveled the cities of the nation.
scifi  history  nuclear  war  usa  government  life  explained  policy  survive 
february 2018 by aries1988

一个西裔女人招待他,拿过来一份菜单。他没有翻开,只问她,Nasi Goreng 有没有。女侍点头。他就说,好吧,就来一份Nasi Goreng, 一罐啤酒。

印尼炒饭,三年前他吃了整整两个月。那是个一月份,他上了一个雅加达的项目,印尼的一个客户寻求国际并购的机会。印尼是穆斯林社会,风气保守,晚上十一点,肚子饿,唯一开着的餐饮是路边大排档。大排档都一式一样,Chicken Satay, Gado Gado, Nasi Goreng. 所以他每个夜晚就吃这三样,烤鸡肉串,加多加多色拉, 印尼炒饭,配一瓶啤酒。他坐在大排档的塑料棚下面,雨点打在棚面响声如雷。店主在一口大锅前不停翻炒,脸上不停滴下水,不知是汗还是雨。老板娘收钱、擦桌子,扫地,兜里的钱票子都是湿的。大排档粗陋,盐不是放多就是放少,还要不就是没调开, 一口淡一口咸,镬气倒是十足,火候好。他就坐在那条塑料板凳上,这三样吃了两个月。

现在他老婆短发,他的发迹线有点太高。第一只猫头鹰已经被女儿睡得太脏。他知道第二个孩子降生时,老婆会兴高采烈地给他拿出第二只猫头鹰,那一只也会无可挽回地变脏、掉毛。那家做猫头鹰的玩具厂已经倒闭,这种玩具再也买不到了;因为Bill Murray而走红世界的日本威士忌,很多牌子已经卖脱销,十几年内不会有新货。想起这两件事情,他有点伤感。

除了加班和带孩子,他们剩下的可怜的空闲时间都用来看新房和谈房贷,孩子越来越大,必须搬到好学区住才行。对于婚姻,他常常想起Before Midnight,那么烦躁,零碎,温吞吞,缓慢地死去,“也许就和化疗一样”,他有一次这么想到。他疲惫不堪,他老婆恐怕更累,却无法不去爱这一切:毕竟,他们用Lost in Translation里猫头鹰的名字命名了两个孩子:Louise 和Luis。

story  douban  love  sex  memory  nostalgia  melancholy  life  marriage  family  man  youth  middle-age  indonesia  food  work  california 
december 2017 by aries1988
Letter of Recommendation: iNaturalist - The New York Times

Most of us are oblivious to this winged panoply, even in our own backyards, because our perception is circumscribed by our ecological illiteracy. Learning the names of our many wild neighbors is an exercise in perspective and empathy, transforming the outdoors from a pastoral backdrop into a world of parallel societies inhabited by diverse creatures, each with its own character and career.
nature  love  apps  life  knowledge  howto  tool  opinion  earth  epistemic 
december 2017 by aries1988
Comment Martin Luther a inventé le buzz, 500 ans avant Internet

Il y a 500 ans, Martin Luther publiait ses 95 thèses pour dénoncer le trafic de l'Eglise catholique qui vendait littéralement des places au paradis. Mais le père de la réforme protestante ne s'attendait pas à un si grand succès médiatique. Un entretien avec son biographe en démonte les ressorts.

Beaucoup de laïcs, de gens moyennement cultivés mais qui pouvaient au moins écrire en allemand, se sont faits les diffuseurs des idées de Luther, parce qu’il leur avait apporté un message qui les réconfortait.

C’est aussi quelqu’un qui a su donner une réponse pastorale, apaisante, réconfortante, cohérente, au tourment de ses contemporains qui se demandaient vraiment : "Est-ce que je peux réussir ma mort ? Comment est-ce que ça va se passer pour moi dans l’au-delà ?"

Ce que Luther a compris, c’est qu’il y avait un certain nombre de questions que l’on pouvait traiter dans de petits écrits destinés à un large public et rédigés en allemand. Et cela, ses adversaires ne l’ont pas compris d’emblée.

un bon nombre de clercs et de laïcs se sont mis à leur tour à écrire, à publier ce qu’on appelle des feuilles volantes, des Flugschriften, de petits écrits imprimés, dans lesquels ils exprimaient la manière dont eux avaient compris les idées de Luther. Donc ils se sont faits en quelque sorte des démultiplicateurs des écrits de Luther, et ça, c’est tout à fait nouveau à cette époque.
deutsch  media  communication  mass  religion  zeitgeist  middle-age  leader  movement  europe  history  explained  mentality  question  death  life  bio  book  français 
november 2017 by aries1988
The Chinese-Canadian urban immigrant experience, narrated by a clever pre-teen | Aeon Videos
My Name is Susan Yee, by the Academy Award-winning Canadian director Beverly Shaffer, is a beguilingly straightforward short documentary from 1975 that manages to weave a surprisingly rich set of themes into a chronicle of a young girl’s daily life. Yee, a first generation Chinese-Canadian girl, is gently precocious, frequently funny and an excellent guide through the diverse Montreal community where she lives. The film follows her about as she comments with a child’s frankness on Montreal’s weather, demographics, dramatic urban and social change, and winter leisure-time activities. She’s also an astute observer of family life and the dynamics at school, offering droll observations on her parents’ worries and witty comments about classmates and teachers. Entertaining and insightful in equal measure, this affable film breezes by as it shares the charms and complexities of Yee’s life in the city.
canada  quebec  chinese  immigrant  story  1970s  video  daily  life 
october 2017 by aries1988
Why it’s scary writing ghost stories
By contrast, a 21st-century ghost story set in 21st-century Britain can seem an anachronism. There are two ways to account for this. Ghost stories have long been seen as primarily a Victorian preoccupation, and every contemporary writer who sets a ghost story in the past furthers the notion that the present is not a suitable setting for such a tale. There is also the question of belief. To the Victorians, ghosts were real; it gave their ghosts stories a menace and an edge that our contemporary stories can’t match.

Except, of course, we do see them again. In the weeks and months after someone has died, they are often there in the corner of your eye. You see them in one person’s gait, another person’s hairstyle, a third person’s gestures. We know death has happened well before we learn how to believe it. From this place of sorrow and terror and incomprehension, the ghost story arises. Literary tastes shift with the seasons, but ghosts will always be with us, whether we believe in them or not.
death  ghost  modern  life  literature 
october 2017 by aries1988
In the Tonnara
In these buildings, every scrap of the tuna was used, even the blood and the fat, just as my people butchered their hogs in West Virginia and Pennsylvania. The choice cuts are obvious, and the dried roe (bottarga) is especially prized, but in the tonnara, the fish’s entrails and offal also were salted or preserved in oil for various uses, and difficult portions such as the joints and buzzonaglia were accorded care. Even the lattume, the male Bluefin’s sac of seminal fluid, was kept for the table.

I was drawn again and again to the tonnare. Only now do I realize I was fatigued by the endless palazzi and cathedrals of the rich that one is pointed to in Italy. It was refreshing to encounter a place where typical people—workers—lived and made a living.

For all we romanticize the notion of “work” in America, and as much as the politicians shill for it, the daily life of a laborer is the first thing to slip the collective memory. Instead, our children are taken to visit the mansion, the cathedral, or the art museum where the dirty money was poured. The factories corrode. The roof falls in. The weather comes. I remember bored teenage friends throwing rocks at the high windows of Dalzell-Viking Glass—their people had surely worked there blowing glass, but no one had a sense that it was of any importance. I didn’t either, not at the time. I probably would have thrown a rock had I any athletic ability.
sicily  italia  factory  renovation  city  village  gentrification  local  life  region  essay  love  fish  sea 
october 2017 by aries1988
Fall In | Submitted For Your Perusal
When one thinks of the day as an abstract span of time, one does not go to bed with the chickens on a winter’s night: one invents wicks, chimneys, lamps, gaslights, electric lamps, so as to use all the hours belonging to the day. When one thinks of time, not as a sequence of experiences, but as a collection of hours, minutes, and seconds, the habits of adding time and saving time come into existence.

Because of the clock, Mumford continues, “Abstract time became the new medium of existence. Organic functions themselves were regulated by it: one ate, not upon feeling hungry, but when prompted by the clock: one slept, not when one was tired, but when the clock sanctioned it. A generalized time-consciousness accompanied the wider use of clocks: dissociating time from organic sequences….”
time  history  concept  life  season  productivity  howto  writing 
october 2017 by aries1988
Du bon sens en mathématiques
Vivant et pédagogique, Jordan Ellenberg explique comment éviter des pièges de la vie courante grâce aux statistiques et à la logique.
book  maths  life 
october 2017 by aries1988
Liu Lin: Life alone is enriching, positive, and filled with possibilities
According to Liu Lin, working as a reporter, an editor or a practitioner in the field of media in Sh
shanghai  story  30s  video  life 
october 2017 by aries1988
Lucy Kellaway: why we went back to school
The person who came closest to how I felt was Lara Agnew, a documentary film-maker. “I’ve spent my life commenting on the fabric of society,” she said. “I want to be in the fabric of society, not outside looking on.”

Many of the applicants had not set foot in a school since they attended one themselves 30 or 40 years earlier, and so were sent off for a week’s immersion. This weeded out all those who had a fond vision of themselves as Robin Williams in Dead Poets Society. It also got rid of those unsuited to the rigidity of school life. One man was told to leave after his first day — he had sat at the back of class checking his emails and then proceeded to go to sleep.

If nothing else, we will bring diversity to the staff room, where most teachers are youngish and female. By contrast, we are mostly oldish and two-thirds male — and stick out so much that various trainees were mistaken for Ofsted inspectors at the schools they visited. There is a delicious irony here: these corporate men have been used to being the ruling class all their professional life but now are going to be the persecuted minority.

Watching them, I realised what I am giving up to train to be a teacher, as well as income, time and autonomy: a life-long tendency towards cynicism. This has served me well for 32 years as a journalist, but now I fear that it is going to get in the way.
teaching  teacher  career  50s  life  choice  society  children  school 
october 2017 by aries1988
To find aliens, we must think of life as we don’t know it | Aeon Ideas

To open our minds, we need to go back to basics and consider the fundamental conditions that are necessary for life. First, it needs some form of energy, such as from volcanic hot springs or hydrothermal vents. That would seem to rule out any planets or moons lacking a strong source of internal heat. Life also needs protection from space radiation, such as an atmospheric ozone layer.

Finally, everything we know about life indicates that it requires some kind of liquid solvent in which chemical interactions can lead to self-replicating molecules. Water is exceptionally effective in that regard. It facilitates making and breaking chemical bonds, assembling proteins or other structural molecules, and – for an actual organism – feeding and getting rid of waste.

Meanwhile, another Saturn moon, Titan, could tell us whether life can arise without liquid water. Titan is dotted with lakes of methane and ethane, filled by a seasonal hydrocarbon rain.

If you think of the spectrum like a set of venetian blinds, there are only a few slats removed.
life  planet  research  astronomy  biology 
september 2017 by aries1988
野蛮生长 - 我的又一个五年 - 十五言
bio  phd  story  writing  life  programming  history  hobby 
september 2017 by aries1988
FT correspondent’s warm memories of difficult days in Madrid

There was anger, to be sure, but it was directed at people you saw on television, not in the street. Spaniards cursed the corrupt politicians and the reckless bankers who had created this mess, and those merciless austerians in Brussels and Berlin who were telling them how to get out of it. But I never saw a bad word directed at the young west African migrant selling pirate DVDs outside my house, or the foreign lady begging outside my local supermarket. Neighbours would greet them every morning, like people who belonged to the barrio. Madrid, and the country at large, came through the crisis with reserves of solidarity and grace that were at times hard to fathom, and harder still to forget.

Of all the big capitals in Europe, it is probably the most relaxed and un­hurried. It is a city of long lunches and long nights, a city where people walk slowly and stop frequently, with none of the stand-right-walk-left efficiency that has been bred into the denizens of London or New York.

Madrid is a place where people know you — and make you know them. The fishmonger remembers your partner had a knee operation and wants to know about her recovery. The waiter remembers how you like to drink your coffee. The office receptionist knows which football team you support, and how far he can tease you after a weekend defeat. The garage attendant knows your son’s favourite cartoon character and has saved some stickers as a gift. Everyone advises, argues and talks. Everything is everyone’s business, for good and for bad. Mostly for good, I think.

I will miss many things about the Spanish capital: the food, the Prado museum, the elegant Retiro park in the centre and the snow-capped mountains to the north. I will miss the little restaurant near my office, with its white-and-green tablecloths and menu for less than €10. I will miss speeding through the Madrid dawn towards the splendid Atocha railway station, the starting point for so many reporting trips. I will miss the fact that beer is served ice cold and in tiny glasses, and that ham is not a food to eat but a universe to discover.
expat  espagna  madrid  story  life  quartier  children 
august 2017 by aries1988

刘涛此前的拍摄都是在合肥,他在这里出生、读书、工作。除此之外,他对世界的认识都来自书籍和网络,他每天在自家的电脑上浏览大量摄影作品,看玛格南大师,看Flickr上国外摄影师刚出炉的作品,看森山大道的摄影集—— 拍照都是一回事儿,跟日本新宿比起来,合肥的区别也不大。他最喜欢的摄影师是Alex Webb,刚出名时接受记者采访,刘涛说,Alex把城市里的建筑、栏杆、街上的行人都拍得很有味道,这些元素合肥也有。


hefei  photography  life  city  street  germany  story  refugee  moi 
august 2017 by aries1988
Away from my desk: Jeremy Corbyn, Bob Diamond and Paula Hawkins on their perfect summer holidays

Do you exercise on holiday? On days at the office, my daily step target is 12,000. On holiday, I try to increase to 24,000. Mainly by the beach if I can, but if not then the gym. (I feel so virtuous about this answer but it’s the truth!)

If you could go to any place at any time, where would you go? I used to think that there are special places I should not miss in life. But I don’t believe that any more. It’s not that somewhere in my mind there is a box with a big red warning sign Open only in Paris! and when I finally visit Paris, I get to open the box and out come all kinds of special emotions and feelings that I can have only in Paris. No. Whatever I can feel in Paris, I can feel anywhere in the world.

Top travel tip? Be here and now instead of busying yourself manufacturing memories for future consumption.
travel  idea  life  song  philosophy 
august 2017 by aries1988
Young Men Are Playing Video Games Instead of Getting Jobs. That's OK. (For Now.)

Games, with their endless task lists and character-leveling systems, their choice architectures and mission checklists, are purpose generators. They bring order to gamers' lives.

Video games, you might say, offer a sort of universal basic income for the soul.

There's a fine line between that psychology and good game design." This was true long before the rise of computer gaming. "People will never stop playing chess, because it's a great game. The discussions I hear are more about how can we keep these games interesting to keep playing."

One way to do that, it turns out, is to give people a sense of earned achievement. "What games are good at—what they are designed to do—is simulate being good at something," Wolpaw says.

Did all those hours playing games make me feel fulfilled? Did they make me feel as if I had made good decisions in my life? Yes—and no. At times, I found video games an entertainment experience as smart and satisfying as any novel or movie or television show I have ever absorbed. At other times, I have let go of my controller late at night, overcome by existential emptiness and the realization that I have, yet again, just spent the better part of a day engaged in an activity of no practical value to me or anyone else. I enjoy games, but not without some reservation. Sometimes I go weeks without playing. And if I had to choose between gaming and work, I know I'd pick the latter.
comparison  gaming  work  opinion  story  life  job  psychology  man  unemployment  society  economy  thinking  wellfare  question  individual 
july 2017 by aries1988
A Sociology of the Smartphone

we count on them to fill the dead spaces, the still moments and silences that used to occupy so much of our lives.

Most obviously, the smartphone replaced conventional telephones, leading to the widespread disappearance from streetscapes everywhere of that icon of midcentury urbanity, the telephone booth, and all the etiquettes of negotiated waiting and deconfliction that attended it. Where phone booths remain, they now act mostly as a platform for other kinds of services—WiFi connectivity, or ads for sex workers.

As a result, it’s already difficult to contemplate objects like a phone booth, a Filofax or a Palm Pilot without experiencing a shock of either reminiscence or perplexity, depending on the degree of our past acquaintance.

a rechargeable lithium-ion or lithium-polymer battery capable of sustaining roughly 1,500 charging cycles. This will yield just about four years of use, given the need to charge the phone daily, though experience suggests that few of us will retain a given handset that long.

the performance of everyday life as mediated by the smartphone depends on a vast and elaborate infrastructure that is ordinarily invisible to us.

according to Google, four out of every five consumers use the map application to make local searches, half of those who do so wind up visiting a store within twenty-four hours, and one out of every five of these searches results in a conversion, or sale.

The only way to hide from that knowledge is to decouple ourselves from the fabric of connections that gives us everything else we are. And that is something we clearly find hard to do, for practical reasons as much as psychic ones: network connectivity now underwrites the achievement of virtually every other need on the Maslovian pyramid, to the extent that refugees recently arriving from warzones have been known to ask for a smartphone before anything else, food and shelter not excluded.
idea  essay  device  smartphone  life  change  technology  perception  today  world  opinion 
july 2017 by aries1988
Unbedingt anschauen:Manager
Victorinox Manager - 0.6365.T2 ++ Kaufen beim Hersteller ++ Versandkostenfrei ab 75 CHF ++ Gratisretouren ++ Jetzt im Victorinox Online Shop bestellen ++
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july 2017 by aries1988
任宁|「迟早更新」主播、翻译计划负责人 - 利器


只能一件,这怎么行,我可以推荐一堆!Dyson 的吸尘器、珍珠生活的铁锅、Bon Ami 多用途清洁剂、Hamilton Beach 的慢炖锅、飞利浦的 sonicare 电动牙刷、Wacaco 的 MINIPRESSO 便携式咖啡机、奶色姬品种的越前米、果壳网出品的物种日历……
buy  list  china  life 
july 2017 by aries1988
Travels in Siberia—II
INSECTS Eleven days from St. Petersburg, Sergei Lunev, Volodya Chumak, and I were well into the swampy flatlands of western Siberia. It was the summer of 2001,…
instapaper_favs  russia  siberia  travel  life  nature 
june 2017 by aries1988
To be happier, focus on what’s within your control

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

once you begin paying attention, the dichotomy of control has countless applications to everyday life, and all of them have to do with one crucial move: shifting your goals from external outcomes to internal achievements.

That’s why your goal should be internal: if you adopt the Stoic way, you would conscientiously put together the best résumé that you can, and then mentally prepare to accept whatever outcome with equanimity, knowing that sometimes the universe will favour you, and other times it will not. What do you gain by being anxious over something you don’t control? Or angry at a result that was not your doing? You are simply adding a self-inflicted injury to the situation, compromising your happiness and serenity.
life  choice  howto  happiness  philosophy  advice  psychology  religion  prayer  stoic 
june 2017 by aries1988
Alienation 101
No single front in bilateral relations connects more people in both countries, or has the potential to influence a cohort so vital to the future: the sons and daughters of China’s ruling class.

karaoke bars and bubble-tea shops, which now outnumber Starbucks in Iowa City.

Some nights, Haddy goes to bed and realises she hasn’t spoken a word of English all day.
usa  chinese  youth  study  student  life  conflict  american  reportage  comparison  campus  moi 
may 2017 by aries1988

其實只要在神州大地走上一圈,那些不 懂中國特殊國情的老外就會發現,中國遊客就是中國人,平時在家如何,到了外頭就是如何,對內對外一致平等。沒錯,很多人在國內就很習慣進店不打招呼,視侍應和店員如無物。我曾經以為,這是當代中國社會權力結構的表現,就和低級公務員看見高官要低腰打哈,公司職員一見上司就「總」前「總」後,而在上位者則可以挺着肚子當他們不存在一樣;是我們進來花錢的人做老闆,你這個服務員算老幾?我憑甚麼要多瞧你一眼。

etiquette  chinese  language  comparison  people  life  shopping 
may 2017 by aries1988
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april 2017 by aries1988
Is your commute worth the pain? The real cost of getting to work


When suburbs sprawl out too far and fail to stay compact, he says, then “even if [the authorities] wanted to provide good public transport services, it will end up more and more costly.”

city  life  moi  analysis  data  shanghai  tokyo  work  comparison  world  time  immobilier  price  commute 
march 2017 by aries1988
An American Immigrant in Paris

I’ve grown attached to France, too. That’s partly because the rest of the world has gotten worse. France is also where I had my children, wrote my books, and where I know the supermarket by heart — though I suspect I’ll always write grocery lists in English.
soulsearching  français  american  story  expat  life  couple  international  opinion  motherland 
march 2017 by aries1988
How I Learned Japanese: The Freedom of the Non-Native Speaker

I was taken by an aunt to an ethnological museum, and there among the exhibits was a scroll painted with the Chinese character for sheep: 羊. I can still remember vividly the impression it made on me.

I was drawn to the beauty of this new way of writing, so different from the German alphabet, which struck my childish mind as unnecessarily longwinded and cumbersome. I loved the idea of each symbol conveying a single concept, or a whole world. And I loved how quickly the characters could be written. (Sometimes I tried writing the character for sheep and spelling out the word out in German and timing myself to see which took longer.) The fact that it was possible to write a whole word in such a small space impressed me as extremely practical and rational. This might sound like a typically “German” way of thinking about things. But I had made up my mind: One day I would learn how to write these wonderful characters myself.

On TV, the on-screen text “subtitles” that are such a characteristic of Japanese television were a great help, whether I was watching the news or one of the light entertainment programs. Watching television turned out to be a great way of learning how a word was pronounced and how it was written.

I wrote my blog for five years. It changed my life massively, not just by improving my Japanese, but by allowing me to discover something more fundamental—the joy of writing. Japanese has lots of words to express emotional concepts that we don’t have in German. For some reason, I feel these expressions match my personality. My sense for Japanese might not be quite the same as a Japanese person’s. But conversely, I have come to feel that as a foreign-language user of the language, I am free to use Japanese in a free way that might not be possible for a native speaker.
gaijin  language  learn  story  life  deutschland  kanji 
march 2017 by aries1988
Eavesdropping: not as easy as it sounds
In fact, it’s like scrumping apples and then scattering the seeds on some neglected wasteland. Because the process does us all good. It helps the bus journey pass quicker. It stops us simply judging other passengers by appearances. It gives us random insights into the struggles of fellow citizens. And if we banned it, we’d need to rewrite the plot of just about every Shakespeare play.

So a plea to those talking in public — speak freely, speak loudly, use full names where possible. And please, no codes. We are listening. And we want to know whether the boy doesn’t like vegetables, or whether he’s just politely holding himself back.
fun  life 
february 2017 by aries1988
Le bonheur en 21 jours, ou l’invasion des challenges en tous genres
Aujourd’hui, les blogs, programmes, livres et émissions télé consacrés aux défis se comptent par centaines. Avec, à la clef, une promesse de bouleversement éclair.
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january 2017 by aries1988
Killing Animals at the Zoo

The modern defense of zoos tends to refer to four achievements: education, conservation, scientific research, and the societal benefit of getting people out of the house. Much of this is often packed into a single claim, which may be true even if it is unsupported by good evidence: zoos are said to cause people to value wild animals more than they otherwise would, thereby improving the survival prospects of threatened species.

His manner, like that of Richard Dawkins, combines reserve and certainty in a way that can suggest adolescence: sometimes, when countering one of his critics, he reddens slightly, and half smiles.

An animal can be a city’s shared pet, or it can be a quasi-agricultural team member whose work is to be seen and to breed and, perhaps, to die young. The Copenhagen Zoo, more than most others, aims to include virtually every animal in the second category, and to avoid what Holst likes to call the Disneyfication of nature.

the Copenhagen Zoo adheres to a practice known as breed and cull. The case for this policy, which is followed by many other zoos in Europe, if with less gusto, is this: because contraception carries medical risks, and because animals can become infertile if they don’t breed, and because zoos must deprive animals of many natural behaviors, it’s important to allow them to mate and raise infants. Why take that away? Holst asked me.

The global giraffe population has declined by nearly forty per cent in the past thirty years

a strand of Danish animal exceptionalism. Danes aren’t unusually careless about animal welfare, but there’s a tradition of pragmatism—or, a critic could say, an insular and self-congratulatory moral laxity—about animal death.

a school of Danish thought, in the early twentieth century, that stressed a greater openness around sex and death and gross bodily functions. He noted that Denmark was the first country in the world to legalize pornography, in the late sixties.

I mean, when you’re dead you’re dead, Holst said to me at one point. And animals don’t have any expectations of what happens after death, or that they could have had a longer life.
zoo  children  education  debate  ethic  culture  dane  denmark  animal  life  instapaper_favs 
january 2017 by aries1988
How to Be a Stoic

For Epictetus, the only thing we can totally control, and therefore the only thing we should ever worry about, is our own judgment about what is good.

fear and desire are unavoidable. Everyone feels those flashes of dread or anticipation. Being a Stoic means interrogating those flashes: asking whether they apply to things outside your control and, if they do, being ready with the reaction ‘Then it’s none of my concern.’

Starting with things of little value—a bit of spilled oil, a little stolen wine—repeat to yourself: ‘For such a small price, I buy tranquillity.’

it is not events that disturb people, it is their judgments concerning them.

Reading Epictetus, I realized that most of the pain in my life came not from any actual privations or insults but, rather, from the shame of thinking that they could have been avoided.
psychology  stoic  book  life 
december 2016 by aries1988
Hygge: the Danish key to happiness or pseudo-wisdom?
You get the idea. Hygge, as encapsulated by the publishing industry, is a new kind of self-help fad for the money-rich and time-poor looking for quality life experiences.

It is the commodification of this essentially unassuming idea of happiness into a trend, an idea of life as a project, something to be endlessly curated and enhanced through the consumption of the one thing you haven’t got and, frankly, can’t ever have: an ideal Nordic lifestyle. This is the winter antidote to the ideal Mediterranean lifestyle that we also cannot have, the one with local food and wine on the terrace of a 15th-entury villa in Tuscany or Puglia and no work. Hygge? Save yourself the money, here’s the summary. Wear socks. Bake. Light endless candles. Don’t go out. Unless it’s nice out. In which case, do go out. With socks (leave the candles). You’re welcome.
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december 2016 by aries1988

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december 2016 by aries1988
The Woman Who Might Find Us Another Earth - The New York Times
Widowhood was like a new universe for Seager to explore. She had never understood many social norms. The celebration of birthdays, for instance. “I just don’t see the point,” she says. “Why would I want to celebrate my birthday? Why on earth would I even care?” She had also drawn a hard line against Christmas and its myths. “I never wanted my kids to believe in Santa.” After Wevrick’s death, she became even more of a satellite, developing a deeper intolerance for life’s ordinary concerns.
female  scientist  planet  life  story  research  discovery  family  couple 
december 2016 by aries1988
What the death of an oak tree can teach us about mortality | Aeon Ideas
For humans, ageing invariably leads to loss of function and eventual death. When we lose a limb, it’s a major loss. In the terrible event that we lose a head, it’s game over. For trees, it is almost the opposite: the older they get, the better they get at being trees. The rate at which they sequester carbon increases each year, and the amount of life they can sustain increases proportionally. Scientists know of no fundamental reason why trees must inevitably die, and many times one or more genetically identical ‘scions’ grow where a mature tree once stood. There is no equivalent reincarnation in the human world.
tree  biology  human  comparison  life 
december 2016 by aries1988
How France is falling out of love with hunting - BBC News
Mathieu Andro is one of the approximately one million hunters (1,246,000 according to the French Hunting Federation, 960,000 according to anti-hunting pressure groups) that make France the biggest hunting country in Europe.

"It's because of intensive farming," he says. "They've killed most of the small game (hare, partridge, pheasant, woodcock) grubbing up hedgerows and creating the massive fields we have now. The hare eat the pellets the farmers put down for the slugs and die and the partridges are mangled in their machines."

France's deer and wild boar populations, on the other hand, are on the rise. There are so many of the latter - rooting around in crops, ramming Renault Scenics - that hunters are allowed to shoot pretty much as many as they like.

"The main reason for the decline is that our values have changed. We have so much more sensibility now when it comes to the animal world."
france  society  français  hunting  village  life  hobby  tradition  today 
november 2016 by aries1988
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