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Atrocities. Norms. Bicycles. See Where We’re Going With This?
But he didn’t do it alone. An entire team culture enabled Mr. Armstrong and his fellow riders to dope themselves to peak performance. The team’s doctor, its support workers, even riders’ wives were all enlisted to support and cover up the drug regimen. Team members from that time describe doping as a joint effort, something everyone approached with the same dedication and care that they applied to the rest of their training.

The pervasive doping, on that team and others, endangered riders’ health. It ruined lives. But if you read accounts by people who were involved, the most striking thing is that doping didn’t feel bad to them at the time. It felt more like a responsibility; one more thing that the team was doing to reach their ultimate goal of victory — and that everyone needed to help with.

Everyone on Lance Armstrong’s team knew that performance-enhancing drugs were banned in cycling. But those weren’t the rules that mattered. The internal rules, the norms for how people should behave to be a good member of the team, were the ones that held sway. And those norms said: Good members of this team do whatever it takes to win, so take the drugs.

In fact, even if you do know that your group is wrong, independence is still painful. In a 2005 study, fMRI scans of people contradicting their group’s statements showed increased activity in the part of the brain that processes emotional distress and fear, even when the subjects knew they were giving the correct answer to an easy question.

Those incentives, left unchecked, will shape group norms; those norms, in turn, will demand conformity. Participation in horrifying acts can become a condition of membership in good standing.
social  norm  concept  morality  population  example  explained 
june 2019 by aries1988
抢着付账后面的真真假假
给他人付茶钱,犹如送人礼物一样,是建立社会网络的一种形式,钱可以转化为一种人情,以后将会派上用场。在城市里,人们根据许多不成文法进行生活,了解这些不成文法对人们的日常生活十分重要。喊茶钱便是这种不成文法的一种形式。

无论种族、文化、国别,人们有时具有很多共同点,虽然表现的形式会有所不同,成都的“喊茶钱”与美国城市的“我招待”,便是一个很好的例子。不过,这个习惯中前者所表现的虚情假意,真假难辨,却是后者所没有的。
from:rss  chinese  social  money  culture 
june 2019 by aries1988
A Virtual-Reality Program to Conquer the Fear of Public Speaking | The New Yorker

Glossophobia, the fear of public speaking

He showed me how to use the program to teleport across cavernous halls and land inches away from strangers, where I could admire rogue gray hairs on their heads and fine webs of wrinkles on their slacks. I was drawn to a woman sitting in a middle row of a banquet-hall audience. She appeared to be miserably bored, as if waiting for a train that would never arrive. She had dun-colored hair, worn in a bun that did not suit her. I reached out to touch it. She blinked, and my hands disappeared from view, sinking into the depth of her head. I backed off and marvelled at the sight of my alternate self’s hands, which were covered with barely detectable freckles and hair follicles. Marshall helped me adjust the size to more closely resemble my own.

I styled everyone in the program in casual, just-stopping-by-the-bookstore clothing, adjusted the gender ratio to include more women, and set the audience rudeness level as high as I could. Now everyone assembled was checking their phones, crossing their arms, or yawning theatrically. I spotted kindness on only one face. Ned, as I decided to call him, was a balding man in a gray cardigan. His hopeful eyebrows told me that he’d been through a lot.

Even though I knew that I was alone in my kitchen, in the middle of the day, and that Ned and his rude friends were illusory, my nerves kept tripping me up. A man who was seated near me at a conference table picked at some lint on his trousers, and I lost my footing and had to start the recording over. Again and again, I recited my spiel over a soundtrack of coughing and an occasional unsilenced mobile device. When I made it all the way to the end of my remarks, the crowd granted me a lackluster round of applause.

Thanks to a real-time “heat map” that tracks a user’s visual attention, I could plainly see that my gaze favors the left side of the room. I watched the words “very” and “so” rise faithfully from my mouth like bubbles.

My avatar—who had my round face and slumped posture—appeared during the playbacks. From my position at the edge of the imaginary room, all I could do was watch her ape my body movements and listen to the recording of my speech. The program designates a grade at the end of each playback, factoring in gaze distribution, pace, pauses, reliance on filler words, and hand activity. Five days in, my scores still hovered around seventy per cent. (My dead-fish hands earned consistent fourteens.)

But, in the group settings, Ned was always somewhere to be found, soothing me with a look of compassionate distress.

While the other authors spoke, I located a young woman whose wide eyes and bobbing head suggested a sympathetic soul—a new, real-life Ned. When it was my turn to speak, I focussed on her and stepped into the light.
temoignage  fun  speaking  public  stress  vr  tool  simulation  social  technique  practice  howto  idea  entrepreneurial 
may 2019 by aries1988
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fun  female  ad  social  idea  code 
january 2019 by aries1988
David’s Ankles: How Imperfections Could Bring Down the World’s Most Perfect Statue
For several hundred years, the David leaned at an angle of several degrees. That doesn’t sound like much, but when you’re dealing with six tons bearing down every second of every minute of every day of every year of every century, it is plenty. Hairline fractures worked their way slowly through the stone. The right leg is significantly worse than the left. As the tilt of the statue increases, the stress will move higher and higher up that leg, until — at the moment of failure — it will break off just below the knee.

for no discernible reason, my eyes would dart away from my interlocutor, urgently, right over one of his or her shoulders, and the shift would be so sudden that the person would whip his or her head around to see what on earth I was looking at — a policeman or an exotic bird or a runaway train — but it would turn out that there was nothing there at all. My gaze had been flicked away by a little spasm of social discomfort.

The David’s journey took four days, at the end of which it was installed, to much fanfare, out in the public square. It would stand in that same spot for the next 369 years, a period during which it would be shaken by thunder, hit by carts and smeared with bird feces.
social  self  anxiety  perfection  journalsim  florence  italia  history  art  state  today  preservation  earthquake  youth  philosophy  book 
august 2016 by aries1988
You May Also Like by Tom Vanderbilt review – what forms our tastes in a digital age?
As is fitting in an inquiry into taste, Vanderbilt starts with food. Among rats, taste is indeed a simple thing. If they eat something, they tend to like it. The more they eat of it, the more they like it. Their social situation when eating does not seem to matter much. “Rat eating behaviour does not change according to who is watching or to feelings of guilt or virtuousness.” Humans, Vanderbilt notes, are trickier. Unlike rats, they eat things because they have never tasted them before and because they think other members of their species like them. The pleasure they get from food seems much more variable than that experienced by rats.

It’s long been understood that making pleasure your goal in life will lead to diminishing returns.
book  review  food  pleasure  society  social  eating  choice  philosophy 
august 2016 by aries1988
What our digital social networks say about us - FT.com

our social attention is not distributed evenly among those 150 confidantes but instead layered like an onion; five closest contacts in the innermost layer, then 10 in the next, followed by 35 and 100.

On average, those with four layers had: four closest confidantes, often relatives, whom they dialled most frequently; 11 in the next layer; then 30 and 129.

For those with five layers, the number of friends was split slightly differently: three closest contacts; then 7, 18, 43 and 134.

One idea to emerge from the study is that individuals with four layers might be introverts while those with five are extroverts.
social  numbers  social-network 
may 2016 by aries1988
Seeds of technology - FT.com
The screenwriter Aaron Sorkin, rid of the pious sentimentality that blighted his TV series The West Wing, doesn’t put a foot wrong here. His writing is pacy, condensed, and laugh-out-loud funny. He sees Zuckerberg as 95 per cent anti-hero and 5 per cent tragic hero. That dilution masterfully brings the film to its morally complex conclusion. As the credits roll, you are left wondering what to think. That, for a big-budget Hollywood film, is miraculous in itself.

The artist, who treads a fine line between reaching accommodation with and demanding reform from the Chinese authorities, is using Twitter to encourage mass participation in the project. “Sunflower Seeds” is, on the face of it, far from a political work. Yet it encourages expression, and active engagement on a scale that would have been inconceivable just a decade ago. This, too, feels like a work from the 21st century. It is multi-layered, revelling in its confluence of material and conceptual significance, and it feels like it can make things happen.
movie  Social  critic  social-network 
may 2015 by aries1988
BBC News - The strange case of babies sleeping in boxes
There's something else too. Since June 2013 when it was written for the BBC News Magazine by our correspondent Helena Lee, it's had three waves of popularity - what is termed a long tail. People who weren't interested in it the first or second time around may have found that it chimed with them on the third - perhaps when "baby stories" were more relevant to them.
But the factors which make people share stories in the first place are being researched by neuroscientists, Hermida says. Very early on when someone starts reading a story, they seem to be calculating what will be the value of telling their friends about it. "They're thinking, 'How is this going to reflect on me? Will it look like I'm in the know, and that I've found an interesting nugget that you will really want to know about?'"

It turns out it's not just journalists who like to show off.
analysis  popularity  social  internet 
february 2015 by aries1988
How to Stop Office Oversharing - WSJ
Sharing personal information satisfies a human desire to connect with others and shape others' views of us, says Lisa Rosh, an assistant professor of management at Yeshiva University in New York. It activates the same reward pathways in the brain as those aroused by eating and sex, says a 2012 study in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. "People get a biochemical buzz when they talk about themselves," says Dr. Rosh.

To curb a colleague's chatter, avoid judging or labeling. Instead, describe the impact oversharing has on you in a direct, honest way, Dr. Rosh says. For instance: "I prefer that you not talk about X, because it makes me uncomfortable or nervous and diverts my attention from work."
office  howto  social 
september 2014 by aries1988
Johnson: Does speaking German change how I see social relationships?
In other words, in a strong version of the language-shapes-thought hypothesis, every German should always have an immediate instinct regarding who is du and who is Sie. But they don’t. They may care which pronoun to use, but they often struggle (and are aware of the struggling), because the language forces this binary distinction on the nebulous relationships of the real world.

Every time I refer to my boss, for example, the formal “you” may prime me to be more aware of the formality and hierarchy of our relationship. So too when I must address an old friend.

But such priming is transient. A bigger question is whether differences between languages persist when people are not “thinking for speaking”—ie, whether they condition something we might call a robust worldview. When silently strolling down country lane, do speakers of different languages think in profoundly different ways? The popular view is “yes”, but furious debate among researchers continues.
language  social  comparison 
december 2013 by aries1988
The Responsibility of Sperm Donors: Familiar Feelings
The answer is not hard to find: we know that we owe a lot of our physical and psychological characteristics – that determine and influence our life in so many ways – to this one person. The seemingly irrational longing to learn about this unfamiliar ancestor stems from the rational knowledge of the heteronomy that shapes our destiny. We know that part of ourselves derives from our biological parents and that learning about them is the key to learning about ourselves.
bio  social  opinion  children  future 
july 2013 by aries1988
Prostitution: Old profession, new debate | The Economist
性服务合法问题被严重政治化
But plenty of people in what is still a sexually conservative society disagree, and the subject is highly politicised. Many government officials would approve of legalisation to help spur the economy, but few will say so out loud, says Pan Suiming of Renmin University’s Institute for Sexuality and Gender in Beijing.

Ms Ye has some prominent allies. Chi Susheng, a lawyer, says China should build red-light districts, license sex workers, and standardise regulations to prevent the spread of HIV. She cites the example of Taiwan, which decriminalised prostitution in designated red-light districts last year, and Sweden, where prostitutes can register to pay taxes. Since 2003, Ms Chi has submitted three proposals to legalise prostitution to the National People’s Congress, China’s parliament. All have failed.

划定红灯区,颁发执照,通过规章制度控制疾病
china  today  legal  social  debate 
november 2012 by aries1988
11月26日,人生如戏
一个人的一生都在应付和满足各种社会关系,甚至连死了都不能避免这种纠缠。像是一出戏,你在台上的时候唱念坐打都不可免。等你死了,你还要被当做道具,让别人来继续演出,证明他们是真的关心你,真的爱你。 以前看过一个航海家的故事,他喜欢一个人驾驶帆船横渡大西洋。在故事的最后,说他于某年出航,就再也没有回来。当时我很恐惧这种死法,觉得过于孤寂。现在看来,其实这种离开人世的方法很好,至少在中国很好。他至少选择的自己的身后安安静静,完全按照自己的心意,不受任何旁人的骚扰,保证了自己尸体的适当尊严。
http://www.instapaper.com/read/330225210
social 
october 2012 by aries1988
Michael Shermer » Politically Irrational
With the 2012 presidential election looming on the horizon in November, consider these two crucial questions: Who looks more competent, Barack Obama or Mitt Romney? Who has the deepest and most resonant voice? Maybe your answer is, “Who cares? I vote for candidates based on their policies and positions, not on how they look and sound!” If so, that very likely is your rational brain justifying an earlier choice that your emotional brain made based on these seemingly shallow criteria.
googlereader  people  social  politics  behavior 
october 2012 by aries1988
近亲不如远邻:最关键的人脉是不熟的朋友 - 死理性派 - 果壳网 guokr.com
也就是说同样一个网址,你看到一个弱联系分享给你你再转发的几率,是你自己发现这个网址再分享的几率的 9 倍。再说白了,就是强联系告诉你的有用信息,你自己本来也有可能发现;而弱联系告诉你的有用信息,他要没告诉你你恐怕就发现不了。这个性质和当年Granovetter说的何其相似! http://www.instapaper.com/read/322525292
instapaper_favs  analysis  social  numbers  friend  social-network 
september 2012 by aries1988
Lex专栏:需要朋友的人人网 - 新闻与分析 - FT中文网
人人网(Renren)正在受到冷落。自去年5月在纽约上市以来,这家中国社交网站的股价已跌去近三分之二。上周,人人网让投资者绷紧了神经,因为其业绩报告显示去年第四季度的运营亏损达1500万至1700万美元,几乎是第三季度亏损的三倍。人人网还将对上市前完成的一起收购做300万美元的减记处理。对这家可能是全球最大互联网市场中最大的社交网站的投资者来说,这些都是不利的消息。
googlereader  business  social  social-network 
september 2012 by aries1988
贵族精神的消亡,流氓意识的兴起- /网络词典/电子书阅读/Milk4Darren/装傻充愣/
贵族被消灭了,流氓应运而起;贵族精神消亡了,流氓意识得到发扬光大。看今天之中国,无处不流氓,从街头小巷到学术殿堂,从平民百姓到权贵富豪,或下流暴戾,或腐败堕落,流氓本性表现得淋漓尽致。从语言流氓,到行为流氓,再到意识流氓,这礼义之邦成为名副其实的流氓大国。
http://www.instapaper.com/read/299899583
zeitgeist  culture  china  history  social  today 
august 2012 by aries1988
社交动物
看着牛人共享的2011年书单,未成年iOS开发者做的Apple APP,HTML5开发者演讲聚会上对知识如饥似渴的眼神,书架上Kindle里沉睡的技术管理文学金融社会书籍,PC中只运行过Hello World Android例程的Eclipse和日益缩水的税后收入,是时候告别微博和伪社交,将目光的焦点从我影响不了的国家大事也无法参透的国际棋局上移开,脚踏实地,为自己能触碰的未来做些什么吧。
http://www.instapaper.com/read/263048417
self  social  information  social-network 
august 2012 by aries1988
火烧阿房宫,客毁褒城驿 / 吴澧
明天,又是全世界革命人民最期待最幸福的盛大节日——东胜神洲大红朝建元六十二周年。兄弟我作为受党多年教育的老同志,即使别人出游了没人看,多少也得写几个字歌功颂德,表表忠心,献献红心。不过本人其实很少写那类东东。不是不想写,而是每一思之,则惊觉古人久已先我写之,今日再写,实在了无新意。
essay  china  social  ccp 
september 2011 by aries1988
柏拉图版Facebook
如果有个水平比你更高的人恰巧看到甚至跟踪了你的所有电子足迹,对你的生活事无巨细地尽览眼底,他必将比你更了解真实的你自己。老于世故者只需要30秒就能对刚刚见到的人做出判断,因为他从无数细节——表情、谈吐、眼神、着装、姿势——获得信息,然后通过自己的经验快速处理这些信息并做出判断。记住,判断始终与信息紧密相关,而Facebook和Twitter正是把一个人的全部信息记录并释放的工具。
social  human  reality  web  social-network 
march 2011 by aries1988

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