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Emilia Clarke, of “Game of Thrones,” on Surviving Two Life-Threatening Aneurysms

But I kept at it. In school productions, I played Anita in “West Side Story,” Abigail in “The Crucible,” one of the witches in “Macbeth,” Viola in “Twelfth Night.” After secondary school, I took a gap year, during which I worked as a waitress and went backpacking in Asia. Then I started classes at the Drama Centre London to pursue my B.A. As fledgling actors, we studied everything from “The Cherry Orchard” to “The Wire.” I didn’t get the ingénue parts. Those went to the tall, willowy, impossibly blond girls. I got cast as a Jewish mother in “Awake and Sing!” You should hear my Bronx accent.

In those days, I thought of myself as healthy. Sometimes I got a little light-headed, because I often had low blood pressure and a low heart rate. Once in a while, I’d get dizzy and pass out. When I was fourteen, I had a migraine that kept me in bed for a couple of days, and in drama school I’d collapse once in a while. But it all seemed manageable, part of the stress of being an actor and of life in general. Now I think that I might have been experiencing warning signs of what was to come.

I could hardly catch my breath. I went back to the hotel, where some people invited me to a party on the roof. “I think I’m good!” I told them. Instead, I went to my room, ate Oreos, watched “Friends,” and called everyone I knew.

The “Game of Thrones” creators David Benioff and D. B. Weiss have said that Daenerys Targaryen is a blend of Napoleon, Joan of Arc, and Lawrence of Arabia.
GOT  tv  actor  story  hospital  death  struggle  growup  uk  health  acting  female  fame  success  girl  interview  job 
april 2019 by aries1988
When Asia Ruled the World
Nonfiction The Pudong skyline, Shanghai. Credit Lauryn Ishak for The New York Times Amazon Local Booksellers Barnes and Noble When you purchase an independently…
contrarian  west  empire  conflict  world  war  success  europe  fail  qing  ottoman  book  opinion  history  prediction  theory 
april 2019 by aries1988
郝景芳:2019,给普通人6个建议
因此,等我们的孩子毕了业,面临的就会是这样的就业局面:高收入工作要求超级专业(例如法律、医生),或者超级有创造力(例如研发、设计、娱乐)。若不能做到极度专业,或者极度具有创造力,他们就缺少在未来就业市场的竞争力。

一是经济学基本原理:稀缺性原理。越稀缺、且被人需要的东西,价格越贵。这是经济颠扑不破的出发点。

在当前经济里,最稀缺的就是才能。全世界范围内,能源和大宗商品价格涨涨跌跌,但高技能人才的薪资却一直不变地上涨。很多人不明白为什么石油能跌到40美金,而高管的年薪能达到数百万美金。

我们都知道,一般人都需要满足了基础饱暖和安全感,才会想要追求更高层的精神目标。而我们很少思考的是:一般人在满足低层需求之后,都会自然产生更高的精神目标。
如果从小就吃饱穿暖,那么人生目标就提升到追求成就、名声这些尊重需求了。
如果从小就有了成功地位,那么人生目标就提升为自我实现需求了。
而与此同时,能够帮助人们自我实现的经济,也会有越来越大的市场空间。个性化顾问和咨询会成为越来越主流的需求,因为每个人、每个团队的自我实现都不一样。
教育亦如此。成就个体的教育是下个时代所需。

解决问题思维,和,探究本质思维,就是知识经济最重要的核心素养了。

那对于我们普通人,有什么建议呢?
· 第一条建议,就是内心笃定一点。
· 第二条建议,就是理解人的基本需求。
· 第三条建议,就是持续投资于知识技能提升。
· 第四条建议,就是给孩子探究和发挥创意的教育。
· 第五条建议,就是不要鄙薄孩子任何发展方向。
· 第六条建议,就是重视理解事物的本质。
tianjin  author  scifi  self  success  2019  china  advice  parenting  future  education  workforce 
january 2019 by aries1988
The Painful Price of Becoming Jackie Chan

The transfer was symbolically completed in 1999’s The Matrix, when Keanu Reeves, having downloaded a fighting program to his brain, opens his eyes and reverently whispers, I know kung fu.
kungfu  actor  movie  icon  hongkong  growup  bio  book  critic  pain  success  story 
january 2019 by aries1988
The Western Elite from a Chinese Perspective - American Affairs Journal
T he Evangelical Christians I have met in the United States often talk about how reading the Bible changed their lives. They talk about being born again. I am…
west  education  money  success  business  chinese 
august 2018 by aries1988
287期:你,为什么离开了中国?- Why did you leave China?

应老朋友友藏的邀请,我们跨越半个地球连线,对谈交流了移民这样的一个话题。大狗熊 2016 年从云南移民来到了新西兰,友藏 2013 年离开北京来到了加拿大,两个人背井离乡究竟是什么原因?对谈当中分享了各自移民的经历、故事和心得,都在这期节目当中。
expat  china  canada  vancouver  story  kiwi  couple  kid  why  success 
july 2018 by aries1988
Naval on Twitter
“How to Get Rich (without getting lucky):”
success  wealth  howto  advice  tips  business  career  money 
june 2018 by aries1988
Can Wine Transform China’s Countryside?
the wines produced are mostly Cabernet Sauvignons, Cabernet blends, and Chardonnays.
wine  china  story  success  gansu  region  desert  money  today 
march 2018 by aries1988
The Interpreter
(1) It’s over. We failed. North Korea is a nuclear power now.
2017  korea  asia  crisis  usa  war  nuclear  military  success 
november 2017 by aries1988
文冤阁大学士:另类的《大学文科新生指南》

朱绩崧是复旦大学英文系教师,常以“文冤阁大学士”为名在网络间对英语学习及本科教育提出臧否建议。最近,他撰写了一份《大学文科新生指南》,虽然语气不乏嘲讽的地方,但的确以过来人的经历对文科生的本科阶段提出了中肯建议。

精致利己主义的根本原则:三种事不做。

一、不能增长知识、开阔眼界的事。
二、不能锻炼体魄、益寿延年的事。
三、不能合法赚钱的事。
university  youth  chinese  learn  career  list  guide  advice  howto  survive  success 
november 2017 by aries1988
Have You Ever Tried to Sell a Diamond? - The Atlantic
De Beers proved to be the most successful cartel arrangement in the annals of modern commerce. While other commodities, such as gold, silver, copper, rubber, and grains, fluctuated wildly in response to economic conditions, diamonds have continued, with few exceptions, to advance upward in price every year since the Depression. Indeed, the cartel seemed so superbly in control of prices -- and unassailable -- that, in the late 1970s, even speculators began buying diamonds as a guard against the vagaries of inflation and recession.

To stabilize the market, De Beers had to endow these stones with a sentiment that would inhibit the public from ever reselling them. The illusion had to be created that diamonds were forever -- "forever" in the sense that they should never be resold.

Specifically, the Ayer study stressed the need to strengthen the association in the public's mind of diamonds with romance. Since "young men buy over 90% of all engagement rings" it would be crucial to inculcate in them the idea that diamonds were a gift of love: the larger and finer the diamond, the greater the expression of love. Similarly, young women had to be encouraged to view diamonds as an integral part of any romantic courtship.

"We spread the word of diamonds worn by stars of screen and stage, by wives and daughters of political leaders, by any woman who can make the grocer's wife and the mechanic's sweetheart say 'I wish I had what she has.'"

N. W. Ayer proposed to apply to the diamond market Thorstein Veblen's idea, stated in The Theory of the Leisure Class, that Americans were motivated in their purchases not by utility but by "conspicuous consumption."

The message was clear: diamonds represent a sharp break with the Oriental past and a sign of entry into modern life.

DeBeers devised the "eternity ring," made up of as many as twenty-five tiny Soviet diamonds, which could be sold to an entirely new market of older married women. The advertising campaign was based on the theme of recaptured love. Again, sentiments were born out of necessity: older American women received a ring of miniature diamonds because of the needs of a South African corporation to accommodate the Soviet Union.
business  advertising  jewelry  diamond  marriage  tv  marketing  usa  japan  mentality  psychology  story  success 
october 2017 by aries1988
High-pressure parenting
the habits of the British upper classes in much of the 20th century: the business of child-rearing was largely outsourced to nannies and boarding schools.

As the West industrialised and grew richer and medicine and sanitation improved, death rates fell. Maturing economies had less need of child labour, and more need of the labour of adult women – work which took them out of the home and reduced their ability to care for large broods. What’s more, as both survival rates and the returns on education rose, the imperative when having children shifted from quantity to quality. Investing more in children’s socialisation and education served the interests of both parents and offspring.

The right specialisation, it seemed, was for skilled parents to work outside the home, where they could earn lots of money, and then use some of that lucre to hire child-care professionals to rear the little ones.

Instead of increasingly outsourcing child-rearing, parents are devoting more of the scarce time left outside working hours to their children. Over the last two decades, time spent by parents on child-rearing has jumped.
Mothers without university degrees now spend about 16 hours per week on child care, while those with degrees spend nearly 22 hours per week. For fathers the figures are seven and ten, respectively. This pattern is repeated across the rich world.

High-income parents are instead spending less time on other personal activities, including sleep.

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Getting ready for university was a big deal. But there was no urgency to get into the best school possible, whatever the cost. Rather, school was a practical step on the path toward a sturdy, dependable career. You went to university to learn, first and foremost: to pick up the skills needed to find a trade. And while it might be nice to go to an elite institution, state schools provided great value for money.

I didn’t have one, other than pride, and I wasn’t proud enough at the time to go to the trouble of applying to Ivy League schools. I wasn’t certain what I wanted to do when I grew up, and it seemed to me that to justify going someplace fancy one needed to want to do something that really required one to go to that someplace, whatever that something might be. My parents are accountants. I knew I didn’t want to do that, but not much else. I was good at maths, so I thought I would be an engineer. The state school nearby was strong in engineering, cheap and willing to offer me a scholarship. Job done.

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the more wrenching and decisive those years immediately before matriculation seemed to become, the earlier and the more aggressively parents and children prepared their case for the admissions officers.

By the age of 17, children were expected to have lived a full and complete life, developed their whole selves and undergone one or more personal epiphanies.

The marathon ends with a sprint: a burst of intense preparation for placement tests and demanding university applications and interviews, at the end of which, if all goes right, the young ones are launched into the nurturing confines of a top university, which themselves are a waiting room for an adult life of consequence, a distinguished dotage and an obituary the envy of all the other strivers.

activities outside the realm of scholarship: the enriching spheres of athletics, personal interests and community service. The marathon ends with a sprint: a burst of intense preparation for placement tests and demanding university applications and interviews, at the end of which, if all goes right, the young ones are launched into the nurturing confines of a top university, which themselves are a waiting room for an adult life of consequence, a distinguished dotage and an obituary the envy of all the other strivers.

We can lament the problems with the system, but when the other parents bring out the flashcards, we feel bound to as well.

Efforts to pick apart the value added by the universities themselves find that there is some, but that elite schools are not, as a rule, the ones that do the best job improving students’ earning potential.

Parents are investing massive amounts of time preparing their children to win a race that cannot be won.

Like her father, she is disorganised and struggles to find the motivation to do tasks that don’t interest her. (My three-year-old son, on the other hand, is a determined perfectionist, like his mother.) I want to help teach them how to follow their passions, and how to strive for the things they want, rather than for empty markers of success. But I am discovering that I don’t know how to channel their personalities and interests towards a good, happy, fulfilled life any more than I knew what to do with myself, scared in that freshman dorm room. But I am discovering that I don’t know how to channel their personalities and interests towards a good, happy, fulfilled life any more than I knew what to do with myself, scared in that freshman dorm room.
university  history  trend  story  kid  moi  youth  future  success  education  parenting  children  comparison  today  usa 
march 2017 by aries1988
Que reste-t-il du rêve américain? - RFI
320 millions d’habitants, 9800 kilomètres carrés, 5 fuseaux horaires, 50 Etats aux juridictions diverses, une incroyable...
reportage  usa  2016  dream  story  immigrant  success  politics  election 
november 2016 by aries1988
对于“废柴”巴西的想象和误解:与其互黑,不如共情_文化课_澎湃新闻-The Paper
葡萄牙是在荷兰与法国明确表达出对那块肥沃殖民地的觊觎之后,才真正开始了殖民巴西。他们派出了军队,赶跑了荷兰人,确认了对巴西的绝对统治。我有不少中国知识界的朋友,对于荷兰没有成功占领巴西一事耿耿于怀,觉得如果宗主国不是葡萄牙这个天主教废柴,而是荷兰这个发达的新教国家,那么以巴西的先天条件,何愁不混个第一世界国家当当?他们深深地为巴西遗憾、委屈,就像许子东老师一样。

在《巴西之根》中,他详细地对比了葡萄牙与荷兰人之间的差异。荷兰人打北方来,喜寒怕热,热爱秩序,到哪儿都要建个整洁干净的城市,给自己人住,特别不爱下乡,尤其不跟土著妇女乱搞。葡萄牙人从温暖的南欧来,对热带的气候比较适应,性格也不是那样龟毛,吊床上也能睡睡。葡萄牙本土等级制并不森严,再加上高门大户的都不来巴西,所以来巴西的这批人也没什么门户之见,跟土著妇女通婚也不是什么大事。这样,才能孕育出一个新的种族,成为了未来巴西的基础。

我也一点儿不觉得遗憾,因为如果荷兰真的占领了巴西,那么巴西今天就成了南非。现实如此打脸,我真不愿提醒那些善心人。

各种来源的文化要素,交融在一起,形成了多元共生的奇观。这当然是伟大的贡献,并不逊于希腊的光荣、罗马的成就、英伦的保守主义、法兰西的自由平等博爱,尤其是对于当下的世界。
essay  brazil  portugal  history  nation  zeitgeist  olympics  2016  comparison  chinese  perception  today  intelligentsia  netherlands  success  cliche 
august 2016 by aries1988
How a Chinese Billionaire Built Her Fortune

“In the Hunan language, we call women like her ‘ba de man,’ which means a person who dares to do what others are afraid to do,” said her cousin Zhou Xinyi, who helped her open the workshop and now serves on the Lens board. Along the way, Zhou Qunfei married her former factory boss, had a child and divorced. She later married a longtime factory colleague, who serves on the Lens board, and had a second child.
success  story  chinese  female 
august 2015 by aries1988
New Young Puritans: students get serious - FT.com
At well past midnight, Reading university is fully awake. The midweek club night, known as Flirt, emits a dull thud of bass, and from time to time revellers…
school  university  study  student  mentality  success  comparison  today 
may 2015 by aries1988
A Meditation on the Art of Not Trying
When you’re nervous, how can you be yourself? How you can force yourself to relax? How can you try not to try? It makes no sense, but the paradox may be essential to civilization.

He calls it the paradox of wu wei, the Chinese term for “effortless action.” Pronounced “ooo-way,” it has similarities to the concept of flow, that state of effortless performance sought by athletes, but it applies to a lot more than sports. Wu wei is integral to romance, religion, politics and commerce. It’s why some leaders have charisma and why business executives insist on a drunken dinner before sealing a deal.

Hence the preoccupation with wu wei, whose ancient significance has become clearer to scholars since the discovery in 1993 of bamboo strips in a tomb in the village of Guodian in central China. The texts on the bamboo, composed more than three centuries before Christ, emphasize that following rules and fulfilling obligations are not enough to maintain social order.

Taoists did not strive. Instead of following the rigid training and rituals required by Confucius, they sought to liberate the natural virtue within. They went with the flow. They disdained traditional music in favor of a funkier new style with a beat. They emphasized personal meditation instead of formal scholarship.

“Particularly when one has developed proficiency in an area, it is often better to simply go with the flow. Paralysis through analysis and overthinking are very real pitfalls that the art of wu wei was designed to avoid.”

“Getting drunk is essentially an act of mental disarmament,” Dr. Slingerland writes. “In the same way that shaking right hands with someone assures them that you’re not holding a weapon, downing a few tequila shots is like checking your prefrontal cortex at the door. ‘See? No cognitive control. You can trust me.’ ”
mind  taoist  chinese  workflow  GTD  debate  success  work 
december 2014 by aries1988
The Problem With Positive Thinking
Positive thinking fools our minds into perceiving that we’ve already attained our goal, slackening our readiness to pursue it. What does work better is a hybrid approach that combines positive thinking with “realism.” Here’s how it works. Think of a wish. For a few minutes, imagine the wish coming true, letting your mind wander and drift where it will. Then shift gears. Spend a few more minutes imagining the obstacles that stand in the way of realizing your wish. This simple process, which my colleagues and I call “mental contrasting,” has produced powerful results in laboratory experiments. When participants have performed mental contrasting with reasonable, potentially attainable wishes, they have come away more energized and achieved better results compared with participants who either positively fantasized or dwelt on the obstacles. Mental contrasting spurs us on when it makes sense to pursue a wish, and lets us abandon wishes more readily when it doesn’t, so that we can go after other, more reasonable ambitions.
howto  psychology  success  self  thinking 
october 2014 by aries1988
How young women in China become mistresses – James Palmer – Aeon
Shanshan’s $550 shoes came from her lover, but the soles of her feet, as hard as leather, came from her childhood. ‘We used to play barefoot in the village,’…aSome, such as modern China’s first president, Sun Yat-sen, or its first chairman, Mao Tse-tung, did so even as they pressed teenage girls into their beds.

But it has gone after such easy targets as hospitality budgets, official vehicles and foreign trips, while the real muscle has gone into hunting down dissidents, whistle-blowers and journalists who might actually threaten the powerful.
story  success  money  love  female 
october 2014 by aries1988
How a password changed my life. — Medium
In my mind, I went with the mantra that I didn’t type a password. In my mind, I was reminding myself to “Forgive her”.

That simple action changed the way I looked at my ex wife. That constant reminder that I should forgive her, led me to accept the way things happened at the end of my marriage, and embrace a new way of dealing with the depression that I was drowning into.

Seeing how these reminders helped to materialize my goals kept me motivated and excited. I’ll admit this: It is difficult to come up with your next goal. Sometimes it’s hard to identify what we need to change, or where we need to walk towards to.

Make sure your goals are realistic, and avoid being too dreamy when you phrase them. It’s important to build a metric around your goal so you can measure its success along the way. For example, if you’re on a hunt to get a better job, don’t use things like BeTh3NumberOne! but instead go with KickASS@LinkedIn! and use the new connections, groups and number of resumes sent as a metric to validate your efforts to land a new job. Being the number one is great, but being able to measure where you are and where you’re going is important, specially when there’s a big gap between those two points.

This feeling of micro achievements, this thought of ‘my mantra helps me to get things done’ can build up a momentum that motivates you to stay focused on achieving your monthly goals. It’s a tiny habit that has the power to transform.
life  management  success  GTD  tips  mind  self 
august 2014 by aries1988
Time and punishment
When the respondents’ education was included in the analysis, they found that higher educational attainment was linked to a preference for delayed gratification. “We therefore suspect that schooling can deter people from crime by making them value the future more,” explains Mr Gronqvist. Francisco Perez-Arce of the RAND Corporation, a think-tank, interviewed around 2,000 applicants for Mexican universities. The students had similar credentials but some obtained admission through a lottery to a university that did not charge tuition fees, whereas the rest had to apply elsewhere. As a result, a higher proportion of lottery-winners than losers went to college. After a year, Mr Perez-Arce found, the lottery-winners were more patient than the losers. Since the process was random, he concluded that higher education can make people place more weight on the future.
GTD  education  psychology  success  experiment  children 
august 2014 by aries1988
一个没有性魅力的人,做什么事都不会成功
没人想和一具僵硬、胆怯、充满抵抗的身体做爱。那么我们想和什么样的身体做爱?人类数千年的文化艺术作品为我们提供了无数香艳的可视档案,象征画派莫罗描摹的在希律王面前跳舞的莎乐美、法国洛可可画家布歇尔笔下骄纵可爱的小贵妇、安格尔画笔下散发着奶味体香的大宫女、沃特豪斯画作中诱惑水手的海妖塞壬……或者当你直接面对那些描绘罗马人集体沐浴、全称狂欢的画作,直接就是一部古典主义版本的情色A片,画面中充溢着丰乳肥臀、肤若凝脂、自信与娇羞于一体的古代女人们,提醒着我们那是一个淫荡和纯真没有什么区别的时代。

在错误的教育与道德认知的限制之下,人群中的“性呆板”、“性僵硬”、“性冷淡”、比比皆是,在大多数情形之下,这是一个女性的命题。女孩一般都会受家庭以及社会观念影响而或多或少地限制了本身便该有的天然的性的吸引力,不懂得如何正确而快乐地使用它,从而使自己的人生缺乏了一种巨大的乐趣。而乐趣还只是其次,导致我们举手投足是否能呈现出强大气场,常常隐藏于一种难以言说的“吸引力”之中——那就是来自于力比多的魔力。当一个人从自己的身体开始,到自己的灵魂都能够刻骨热爱,毫不掩饰的时候,他(她)便具备了一种胜利意志的暗示,他(她)就算天生不美,却爱自己的每一寸肌肤,相信自己内在的巨大能量,谁会不爱他(她)呢?那便是一个所向披靡的人。
essay  sex  life  human  mind  success  self 
november 2013 by aries1988
一个留美女博士的七年----分享给所有还相信梦想的朋友
经过两年孜孜不倦得英语训练,开始有人见面夸我your English is really good了。我颇开心了一阵,后来我想了想不对,其实这只能说明我的英语对方能听懂,但是同时对方很轻易就能听出来我是外国人,所以才会自然得夸英语好, 什么时候听见美国人夸另一个美国人英语好来着。于是我对自己说,你还有很长路要走呢。英语有三个境 界,vocabulary,pronunciation,intonation,刚来时候结结巴巴不知道怎么说,颠来倒去那几个词,那是 vocabulary问题,我的pronouciation还可以,所以要提高就要在intonation上下功夫。这个东西,无他,唯手熟尔。留意别人 说话的语调,然后模仿,这个和我小时候练书法一样,开始就是临摹,到你写100遍的时候,提起笔来就可以写自己的style了。

我在渐渐得融入美国的生活,但我从来都没放弃过中国我的根,我有太多东西和中国分不开,以后不管做什么,中国背景都将是我的一个 asset,而不是缺陷,所以我冒着被check的危险年年回国,体会和适应国内的变化,和朋友们吃饭聊天,最重要的是陪父母外婆尽孝心。

我们的dean告诉我,没有人能真的什么都懂,但是人和人的差别不是谁懂得 多,而是谁学得快,她说她和很多人谈之前是不知道他们说的东西的,但是谈话的过程就是她学习的过程,谈完她可以去和别的人绘声绘色的说的像一个专家。我用 了同样的策略,现学现卖,而且要卖的如同你对此已经很熟悉,了然于胸的样子,这个事情并不难,只需要三样东西,超强的自信心,超快的理解能力,和超好的表 达技巧,其中没有一样是可以短时间内获得的,我多年的折腾paid off。
gaijin  expat  success  story  chinese  usa  youth 
september 2013 by aries1988
“Dexter” and British Psychologist Ask: Who Wants to Be a Psychopath?
Psychopaths tend to be fearless, ruthless, capable of extraordinary focus, and they are cool and decisive in high-pressure situations that make others quail. Psychopaths excel at reading other peoples’ facial expression, which comes in handy if they want to manipulate someone. The big difference, Dutton said, is that monks are motivated by compassion for others, whereas psychopaths seek only their own pleasure. But maybe this difference is not so great (and this is my point, not Dutton’s). After all, many modern gurus–notably Chogyam Trungpa, who helped bring Tibetan Buddhism to the west decades ago—act like narcissistic monsters. That’s one reason why I’m so down on Buddhism.
http://www.instapaper.com/read/333030877
interview  success  book  TV  explained  psychology  behavior  mind 
october 2012 by aries1988
Showing Up Is Not Enough
If 90% of success in life is showing up, the other 10% depends on what you're showing up for. Show up for things where your potential for achievement is commensurate with your willingness to put in effort. The rest seems to take care of itself.
http://www.instapaper.com/read/293667323
success  moi  time  management 
june 2012 by aries1988
中国的未来让女人走开?
在中国GDP坐上火箭的年代,中国大陆都市女性的境遇是否会随着经济改革的发展而有所改善?这个问题的答案见仁见智,在很大程度上取决于个人的心理感受,幸福衡量标准,以及是否混得好。
china  today  success  female 
november 2011 by aries1988
克里斯·安德森TED是如何成功的
在网络视频的时代,个人的局限变得越发凸显,善于利用群体力量进行创新才能更持续地改变世界。 http://www.instapaper.com/read/312150698
success  story  ted 
march 2011 by aries1988

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