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Advice to give your daughter about sexual assault in college.
The very best thing you can do is make it easy for your daughter to disclose a sexual assault to you, before she ever leaves for college. This is the most important support you can offer her. This is because a lot of crucial support can rest on a parent’s knowledge of the violence that occurred, like the ability to use a parent’s insurance to access follow-up medical or psychological care, or help with tuition payments for an extra year of school after failing a class. Without a parent’s help, college survivors struggle to get access to the resources they need. Survivors also tend to thrive with a strong network of emotional support, and parents are uniquely equipped to provide that.
sexualassault  highered  college  parenting  advice 
5 weeks ago by dirtystylus
Zito on Twitter: "Man, if you're going to mention the rape case, don't just sprinkle it in there out of obligation. Using jargon like "complicated" is an easy way to glide past it. You can just write why someone who was so heroic to millions of people als
Man, if you're going to mention the rape case, don't just sprinkle it in there out of obligation. Using jargon like "complicated" is an easy way to glide past it. You can just write why someone who was so heroic to millions of people also represented rape culture at its fullest.
It's not that hard to see that your heroes can be seen in a different light by others, especially when they did do terrible things. And the fact that you wouldn't have to say "now's not the time" if the time to talk about it ever actually existed.
So many people, including the media, helped him rehabilitate after the case without ever reckoning with what he did. Because great athletes are heroes and we need them to be flattened as good. The entire "Black Mamba" idea was transforming that case into a positive.
What happened was what always happens, a powerful man was accused and people shamed the accuser and then went past the issue as quickly as possible. It's not unfair that some are still bitter about that and what it says about our world and how we value women.
Every great thing Kobe did afterwards, his support for women's sports, his love for his children and the youth, his new adventure into other ventures, was wonderful. But it's not up to fans to grant him a redemption for that rape case. Redemption starts at the people you hurt.
If he's never forgiven for that, then that's just it. That's the problem with hurting someone, you can't go and erase it and the power to fix it is not in your hands. But being mad at him not being forgiven for it, is being mad that the victim won't let you be comfortable.
It's not an impossible thing to reckon with, nor does it have to take away from grief and how important he was to so many people. But you can't use "flawed" as an escape. That's too cowardly.
sexualassault  law  kobebryant  twitterthread  via:soniagupta 
10 weeks ago by dirtystylus
#MeToo movement’s next step? Colleges’ approach to sexual assault - Vox
The process is based on the principles of restorative justice, an approach that focuses on repairing the harm done to a survivor rather than on assigning punishment to a perpetrator. At TCNJ, the process starts with a question, Jacoby said: What would the perpetrator “need to hear, see, complete, or do, to recognize and acknowledge the potential harm, and for that to potentially be repaired?”
metoo  highered  newjersey  college  sexualassault  restorativejustice 
october 2019 by dirtystylus

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