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A Dark Consensus About Screens and Kids Begins to Emerge in Silicon Valley
“On the scale between candy and crack cocaine, it’s closer to crack cocaine,” Mr. Anderson said of screens...

He has five children and 12 tech rules. They include: no phones until the summer before high school, no screens in bedrooms, network-level content blocking, no social media until age 13, no iPads at all and screen time schedules enforced by Google Wifi that he controls from his phone. Bad behavior? The child goes offline for 24 hours...

And there are those in tech who disagree that screens are dangerous... “It’s contrarian,” Mr. Toff said. “But I feel like I’m speaking for a lot of parents that are afraid of speaking out loud for fear of judgment.” He said he thinks back to his own childhood growing up watching a lot of TV. “I think I turned out O.K.,” Mr. Toff said.
education  parenting  children  learning  health  science  future-unknown 
november 2018 by iamfantastikate
Read This If You’re Not Sure You Want Kids
“I’m not sure.” Yeah, me neither. And we’re not alone.

People are increasingly unsure about kids, and the US and European fertility rate is at an all-time low. According to Pew Research Center study, 1 in 5 people will remain childless. That’s doubled since the 1970s. Women are not just delaying babies; they’re debating them altogether.
children  parenting  women  health  statistics  science 
october 2018 by iamfantastikate
Motherhood in the Age of Fear
I was beginning to understand that it didn’t matter if what I’d done was dangerous; it only mattered if other parents felt it was dangerous. When it comes to kids’ safety, feelings are facts.
opinion  children  parenting  women  crime  usa  politics 
july 2018 by iamfantastikate
Imagining a Better Boyhood
To embrace anything feminine, if you’re not biologically female, causes discomfort and confusion, because throughout most of history and in most parts of the world, being a woman has been a disadvantage. Why would a boy, born into all the power of maleness, reach outside his privileged domain? It doesn’t compute...

While society is chipping away at giving girls broader access to life’s possibilities, it isn’t presenting boys with a full continuum of how they can be in the world. To carve out a masculine identity requires whittling away everything that falls outside the norms of boyhood. At the earliest ages, it’s about external signifiers like favorite colors, TV shows, and clothes. But later, the paring knife cuts away intimate friendships, emotional range, and open communication...

There are so few positive variations on what a “real man” can look like, that when the youngest generations show signs of reshaping masculinity, the only word that exists for them is nonconforming. The term highlights that nobody knows what to call these variations on maleness. Instead of understanding that children can resist or challenge traditional masculinity from within the bounds of boyhood, it’s assumed that they’re in a phase, that they need guidance, or that they don’t want to be boys.
children  gender  parenting 
june 2018 by iamfantastikate
Simple Photo of Man Holding Baby Sparks Important Parenting Conversation
The situation unfolded when the baby of a student in Engelberg’s Hebrew University class — open to students’ kids by a matter of the professor’s policy — began to cry. Engelberg scooped him up into his arms to calm him, continuing on with his lecture on organizational management without missing a beat. Someone in class snapped a photo of him holding the boy, who was wearing blue footie pajamas covered in stars, and posted it to social media. The rest is history.
education  cute  parenting  equality  gender  equality  children  israel 
may 2015 by iamfantastikate
Parents Who Shun Vaccines Tend To Cluster, Boosting Children's Risk
In another study, Prof. Saad Omer at Emory University found that clusters of personal belief exemptions contributed to the 2010 California whooping cough epidemic that killed 10 babies. Omer says that by using electronic medical records, Lieu and her team have developed a tool that can estimate risk earlier, without having to wait until children enter school. The main problem with this clustering behavior, says Omer, is that every child's risk for disease depends on what others do. That's because no vaccine is 100 percent effective, so even a vaccinated child could get sick if exposed. (In the Disneyland measles outbreak, at least four of the cases had been vaccinated.)
health  abuse  children  parenting  california  politics  vaccines 
january 2015 by iamfantastikate
How secular family values stack up
The results of such secular child-rearing are encouraging. Studies have found that secular teenagers are far less likely to care what the “cool kids” think, or express a need to fit in with them, than their religious peers. When these teens mature into “godless” adults, they exhibit less racism than their religious counterparts, according to a 2010 Duke University study. Many psychological studies show that secular grownups tend to be less vengeful, less nationalistic, less militaristic, less authoritarian and more tolerant, on average, than religious adults. Recent research also has shown that children raised without religion tend to remain irreligious as they grow older — and are perhaps more accepting. Secular adults are more likely to understand and accept the science concerning global warming, and to support women's equality and gay rights. One telling fact from the criminology field: Atheists were almost absent from our prison population as of the late 1990s, comprising less than half of 1% of those behind bars, according to Federal Bureau of Prisons statistics. This echoes what the criminology field has documented for more than a century — the unaffiliated and the nonreligious engage in far fewer crimes.
atheism  parenting  children  crime  racism  psychology  religion  u.s.a. 
january 2015 by iamfantastikate
Clothing tops the gift list from parents: Technology lags in gifts for children
Technology gifts were cited about half as often as clothing as likely presents for girls. And while boys are more likely to receive the technology items than girls, they are still less likely to receive a computer, smartphone or gaming system than they are to receive clothing, entertainment or toys and games. Books are a more likely present from parents to girls than technology gifts. Top technology items include laptops, notebooks and computers for boys 12-14 (19% parents intending to purchase) and in-home game consoles like Xbox or Wii for boys 15-17 (18%) and boys 6-11 (16%). Game consoles are a far less popular gift for girls of the same ages. Girls ages 12-14 are more likely to receive a cellphone (15%) from their parents compared to only 3% of boys the same age. Girls are three times as likely overall to receive a phone as a gift (9% for girls compared to 3% for boys).
shopping  money  children  parenting  sexism  education  gender  equality  toys 
january 2015 by iamfantastikate
Woman accused of shaming son, forcing him to dress as girl
According to Winter Garden police, officers were contacted on November 24 about a possible child abuse incident.  Photos were given to authorities that show the 10-year-old boy dressed as a girl, including wearing makeup, while crying. Prado told police that Keith Driscoll, her landlord and roommate, came up with the idea for punishment after she told him that her son often wet his pants and soils himself. Police said the boy has a documented medical condition.
florida  u.s.a.  abuse  children  parenting  equality  sexism  gender  equality  disability 
december 2014 by iamfantastikate
Black Moms Tell White Moms About the Race Talk, Parents Talk Back
Griffin's son, now grown, had never gotten in trouble nor given her any trouble growing up. But when her son was 14 years old, the family moved into an all-white neighborhood. She took him to the police department to introduce him to the staff. She wanted the officers to know that he belonged there, that he lived there. When he turned 16, it was time for another talk. Every single time he got into his car to drive, she made him take his license out of his wallet and his insurance card out of the glove compartment. "I did not want him reaching for anything in the car."
u.s.a.  racism  children  parenting  teens  politics  police 
november 2014 by iamfantastikate
Judge Orders Boy Circumcised Against Mother’s Wishes
A study found that circumcision may reduce the chances of HIV infection by 38–66%. Let me put this to you: if I told you that you could reduce your chances of getting HIV by about 100% by putting on a condom, or by about 50% by cutting off a piece of your penis, which would you choose?
u.s.a.  florida  politics  health  science  sexism  equality  gender  equality  children  parenting 
november 2014 by iamfantastikate
Father plays guitar for dying infant son
In just four days, Chris Picco went from husband and expectant father to a man without a family. His wife Ashley died November 8; their newborn son, delivered by emergency cesarean section, died three days later.
health  parenting  children  music 
november 2014 by iamfantastikate
Paternity Leave: The Rewards and the Remaining Stigma
One of the studies was by Mr. Coltrane of the University of Oregon. It used data from 6,403 men in the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth and was the first major longitudinal study — tracking the same group of people over time — to show that taking time off for family reasons reduced men’s earnings, just as it reduced women’s earnings. When men reduced their hours for family reasons, they lost 15.5 percent in earnings over the course of their careers, on average, compared with a drop of 9.8 percent for women and 11.2 percent for men who reduced their hours for other reasons. When men start diverging from the breadwinner role by taking time off or working fewer hours — or, as Mr. Coltrane puts it, “become active-enough parents and begin looking like what we think of as mothers” — they can be penalized.
parenting  children  equality  gender  equality  money  u.s.a.  politics  sexism 
november 2014 by iamfantastikate
Hospital allegedly kicks out mom for breast-feeding
FOX 34 reports that the incident took place at the UMC Physician Clinic in Lubbock, Texas. Varghese was at the clinic so her son, Carlos, could get his vaccinations. Varghese began breast-feeding Carlos in the waiting room. A clinic employee ordered her to cover up or move to a private area, such as the breast-feeding lounge or bathroom.
sexism  parenting  children  equality  gender  equality  u.s.a.  politics  texas 
october 2014 by iamfantastikate
The never-empty nest
The reasons young adults are living with Mum and Dad are well-known: more go to university or TAFE; low government support for student living allowances; insecure entry-level jobs. Rents are high and first homes out of reach unless parents contribute to the deposit. But there’s more to the story than economics. Speaking broadly, our kids seem to like our company, and we theirs. The generation gap that plagued us in our youth is generally no big deal today. Many of us left home young at a time when the Vietnam War, the Rolling Stones, and sexual liberation split the generations. Now that we’re parents, our views on pre-marital sex are usually relaxed, including it happening under our roof. Many parents and adult children share tastes in popular culture. Adult children text their parents often, and befriend them on Facebook. When I left home at 21, and then moved to the US at 22, my poor parents waited six weeks between letters.
parenting  children  australia  money  education 
july 2014 by iamfantastikate
Growing Number of Stay-at-Home Dads
While most stay-at-home parents are mothers, fathers represent a growing share of all at-home parents – 16% in 2012, up from 10% in 1989. Roughly a quarter of these stay-at-home fathers (23%) report that they are home mainly because they cannot find a job. Nearly as many (21%) say the main reason they are home is to care for their home or family. This represents a fourfold increase from 1989, when only 5% of stay-at-home fathers said they were home primarily to care for family.
gender  equality  amazing  amazing-men  parenting  children  u.s.a.  politics  sexism 
june 2014 by iamfantastikate

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