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How to Turn a Rejection Into an Advantage
March 17, 2019 | The New York Times | By Tim Herrera.

The first step to getting over a missed opportunity and instead seeing it as an advantage.....allow yourself to feel regret.

“Sitting with that emotion and processing it is really important,” ....“Too often we just think, ‘O.K. I’ll just bury that inside.’”.....engage in deep self-reflection about what actually motivated me and what I wanted to do with the rest of my life.....Next, identify whether you’re feeling regret because something in your current situation isn’t going particularly well. If you’ve been obsessing about not getting a job you really wanted, consider if you’re only feeling that way because you didn’t get a promotion you were hoping for, or because your co-workers have been getting under your skin lately. This can help you recognize that you might be focusing on a missed opportunity not because you truly wanted it to pan out, but because things just aren’t going very well at this moment......Write down three things that went well for you recently, and note who or what caused those things to happen. This helps you look at the we frame missed opportunities is a matter of recognizing that life is full of twists and turns, and that change — or a lack of change — doesn’t always have to be considered unequivocally good or unequivocally bad. Sometimes it has shades, and those shades can change depending on your perspective.

Perhaps most helpful is to orient your thinking around what’s going well right now, and then work backward to figure out why,
howto  rejections  emotional_mastery  gratitude  missed_opportunities  regrets  self-reflective 
march 2019 by jerryking
College Advice I Wish I’d Taken
OCT. 17, 2017 | The New York Times | by Susan Shapiro.

* A’S ARE COOL AND COME WITH PERKS. As a student, I saw myself as anti-establishment, and I hated tests; I barely maintained a B average. I thought only nerds spent weekends in the library studying. .... I was retroactively envious to learn that a 3.5 G.P.A. or higher at many schools qualifies you for free trips, scholarships, grants, awards, private parties and top internships... Students certainly don’t need to strive obsessively for perfection, but I should have prioritized grades, not guys.

* SHOW UP AND SPEAK UP If a class was boring or it snowed, I’d skip. My rationale was that nobody in the 300-person lecture hall would notice and I could get notes later.... as a teacher, I see that the students who come weekly, sit in front, and ask and answer questions get higher grades and frankly, preferential treatment. ..... participating can actually lead to payoffs. I reward those who try harder with recommendations, references, professional contacts and encouragement.

* CLASS CONNECTIONS CAN LAUNCH YOUR CAREER As an undergrad, I rarely visited my professors during office hours....In graduate school, on the other hand, I went to the readings of a professor I admired. Eventually, I’d go to his office just to vent. Once, after I complained about a dead-end job, he recommended me for a position at The New Yorker, jump-starting my career.
But it’s not just your professors who will help your life trajectory. Several classmates of mine from graduate school wound up working as editors at other publications, and they have since hired me for freelance work. Years later, I’ve helped students and colleagues where I teach, at the New School and New York University, land jobs, get published and meet with editors and agents.

* PROFESSORS ARE PEOPLE, TOO As a teacher, I’ve kept all the letters, cards and poems of gratitude I’ve been sent. It’s nice to be appreciated, and it makes a lasting impression. After one of my intro sessions, a freshman from Idaho blurted out: “Awesome class! It’s like you stuck my fingers in a light socket.” I laughed and invited her to speed walk with me around the local park — an activity I take part in nightly as a sort of active office hours — and we workshopped ideas that led to her first book. And when a student confided she was dying to take another class with me but had lost her financial aid, I let her audit. In retrospect, I should have been more open with the instructors I admired.

* FIND YOUR PROFESSORS ON SOCIAL MEDIA I answer all emails, and while I may not accept all friend requests, I respond to students who follow me on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. More important, social media is where I post about panels, job openings and freelance work.
advice  Colleges_&_Universities  lessons_learned  playing_in_traffic  reflections  success  regrets  GPA  perks  students  professors  nerds 
october 2017 by jerryking
Africans were pioneers in business in Guyana
January 12, 2010 | Stabroek News | F. Skinner.

Africans are the pioneers of the majority of business trends and innovations in Guyana, but there is hardly any tangible proof of this. Their ideas were worked and developed only to change hands with no royalties attached. ...Mr King identified many problems/obstacles facing the African businessman. He pointed out that if an Indian is a barber his son and even grandson are destined to be barbers. Next, the lack of other rich African businessmen to turn to for support – financial or business advice – when the banks and your competitors gang up against you.....He discussed the proposition with his closest friends and was asked, “What you gon do wid all that property?” He admitted that it was not that his friends were deliberately giving him bad advice, it was that they simply did not know and he was no different. He regretted the missed opportunity because a few years later one year’s rental of a small section on the ground floor would have paid for the entire property at the time....They ran into financial problems and got some assistance from the government, which was not enough. Which African organization could they have turned to for financial assistance? The same can be said about another three who had the stone quarry....All the persons mentioned were out there with their shoulders to the wheel. There are reasons for their failures. We must identify these reasons and address them as a community. Glaring though is the lack of a support system in the community.
We must accept that we must generate wealth and not just depend on education, a salaried job or a government. We must be able to be trustworthy to each other. We must stop this individualist approach to business. One ‘pointer’ can’t sweep. Our foreparents trusted each other enough to form co-ops and bought land.
Afro-Guyanese  small_business  history  '70s  entrepreneurship  letters_to_the_editor  Guyanese  trailblazers  trustworthiness  advice  pioneers  missed_opportunities  regrets  support_systems  challenges  wealth_creation  failure  post-mortems  disunity 
june 2016 by jerryking
Jay Carney regrets ‘looking like a jerk’ at some White House press briefings - NY Daily News

“When somebody’s gettin’ riled up and filled with sometimes feigned righteous indignation, if they’re really obnoxious and you get a little rattled then you sort of engage.
Jay_Carney  White_House  media_relations  public_relations  regrets 
march 2015 by jerryking
What Do You Want to Say You've Done?
August 24, 2011 | Harvard Business Review | by Art Markman.

Base your career decisions (at least in part) on what hope to say when
you look back on your life. You may not always succeed, but are unlikely
to look back with regret on those decisions that gave you the
opportunity to reach your aspirations. And statistically you are much
more likely to look back with regret on the roads not taken.

John Lennon famously wrote, "Life is what happens while you're busy
making other plans." It is easy to get caught up in small projects and
the day-to-day minutia of business. At least once a year, though, it is
important to take stock of how you are progressing on your larger goals.
If you find that you have not accomplished anything in the past year
that you will look back on with pride, think about what you can do in
the coming year to get you a step closer to doing what you want to have
HBR  Managing_Your_Career  career_paths  reflections  regrets  personal_accomplishments 
september 2011 by jerryking
Business Advice: 14 Things I Wish I Could Have Told Myself at 25
August 24, 2011 | BNET | By Jeff Haden
1. Everybody wants something.
2. What a few people want is just to feel good about helping others.
3. Everything before “but” is bull.
4. Boring people win.
5. Stop brainstorming and start borrowing.
6. The women you really want to meet don’t care about the kind of car you drive. Darn it.
7. Training is great; advice is not.
8. Visibility is everything.
9. Always take out something.
10. The people who say the least have the most to say.
11. Your parents are a lot smarter than you think.
12. Always learn on the fly.
13. Don’t expect to get back what you give.
14. You will only regret what you decide not do.
advice  brainstorming  jck  Jeff_Haden  indispensable  lessons_learned  life_skills  regrets  unglamorous  visibility 
august 2011 by jerryking
Hiring Decisions Miss the Mark 50% of the Time
Oct 2, 2008 | Business Wire | by Anonymous. Organizations or
their new hires regret their hiring decisions 50% of the time, costing
the average organization millions in the way of lower performance, less
engaged new hires, and higher turnover. 40% of new hires report the
information they received about the job when they were applying was less
than accurate. Overall, only half the time will organizations and new
hires achieve a win-win outcome where both agree that they made the
right decision.
hiring  recruiting  decision_making  executive_management  candidates  Freshbooks  onboarding  regrets 
september 2009 by jerryking
Sowing the seeds of regret? - The Globe and Mail
June 1, 2009 | The Globe & Mail | Eric Reguly. Article
deals with emerging tensions over the trend towards International farm
investment. Countries short of productive agricultural land but rich in
capital are acquiring farmland in countries, most of them poor, with
land to spare, or allegedly so. In many cases, the food grown on the
farms is effectively removed from the world market and exported back to
the country that did the deal.
Eric_Reguly  Africa  farmland  capital  exploitation  regrets 
june 2009 by jerryking

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