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Taking Risks in Love - NYTimes.com
FEB. 13, 2015 | NYT | Arthur Brooks.

If we want more love, we must conquer fear. We must take personal risks for big potential romantic rewards. Forget test-driving a relationship for 10 years, or searching for someone so perfectly matched as to resemble a sibling.

Love is supposed to be a little scary because it is uncertain. I remember moments when my own romantic venture seemed doomed and foolish. Courage means feeling the fear of rejection and loss but pursuing love anyway....The second thing love requires is mindfulness — pure focus, and total engagement in the current activity. “While washing the dishes,” the Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh teaches, “one should only be washing the dishes.”

But mindfulness goes beyond the mundane; it is also the key to victory in the most audacious ventures. Emerging research shows that practicing mindfulness changes the structure of the brain in beneficial ways that make people more effective in business. Successful entrepreneurs have the uncanny ability to reside in the present moment even while working toward their goal. Lovers need the same mindful focus.
relationships  dating  marriage  courage  focus  personal_risk  romance  romantic_love  valentine  fear  mindfulness  seminal_moments 
february 2015 by jerryking
Why romantic love is overrated - The Globe and Mail
Margaret Wente | Columnist profile | E-mail
From Saturday's Globe and Mail
Published Saturday, Feb. 11, 2012
valentine  dating  relationships  marriage  Margaret_Wente  romantic_love  overrated 
february 2012 by jerryking
The long and winding road
February 14, 2001| National Post | by Donna Laframboise.
"June Callwood, who herself has been married for 57 years, recently
declared in these pages that the perfect mate doesn't exist. Forget
about Prince Charming, she advises her grand-daughters. Instead, she
offers them a straightforward formula for romantic success. First, don't
expect your relationship to be friction-free, since it's unrealistic to
think two people will always agree on everything. Second, "discord over
trivia is not evidence of a mismatch," but proof you're in a perfectly
normal relationship in the real world. In other words, long-term
romances require more than starry-eyed pronouncements of undying
affection."
valentine  relationships  romantic_love  marriage  ksfs  long-term  expectations  in_the_real_world  marital_strife  soul_mates  imperfections 
october 2009 by jerryking
Sexy food for your sweetie
Feb 7, 2004 | Globe & Mail pg. L.11 | by Lucy Waverman.
(1) ARUGULA SALAD WITH
GOAT CHEESE AND PESTO; (2) CLOSE-TO-THE-HEART CHICKEN; (3) ASPARAGUS
WITH OYSTER MUSHROOMS ;(4) POTATO HEARTS; (5) CHOCOLATE FONDUE.

Preheat oven to 425 F. Lie chicken flat.

Combine tarragon, soy sauce, lemon juice, honey and olive oil. Brush
over chicken skin and flesh. Season with salt and pepper. Place chicken
skin-side up on a rack over a roasting pan.
Lucy_Waverman  salads  chicken  asparagus  potatoes  chocolate  ProQuest  Valentine 
june 2009 by jerryking

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