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The ultimate makeup trick for hooded & deep set eyes - Charlotta Eve
So let’s get to the visual part of it. I’m gonna teach you exactly how to apply eyeshadow for hooded eyes, deep set eyes, monolids or just for eyes, that have a little of visible lid space. This trick is also a bit universal, so it works for anyone, who wants to make her/his eyes appear bigger.
makeup  eyeshadow 
14 days ago
Millennials Can’t Stop Writing Fanfiction About Coffee Shops
Coffee shop AUs redefine escapism from wild fantasies about dragons and space travel to the comforting ideal of having a steady job and supportive relationships. For a generation coming of age during the Great Recession, living in a time of constant political trauma, it’s not hard to understand the appeal. There’s a widespread hunger to see warmth and happiness in fiction, embodied in what BuzzFeed called the “radical softness” of To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before. In the words of fanfic reader Jenne, “Modern life can be weird and terrifying, and sometimes you just want something sweet with whipped cream on top.”
fanfic  dailydot  coffeeshopAUs  howtobeahuman 
17 days ago Resources on Personal Pronouns
trans  pronouns  language  howtobeahuman  reference 
21 days ago
Rule Explainer: Why We Don’t Diagnose People Through The Internet – Captain Awkward
The habit of randomly and lazily assigning every instance of bad or abusive behavior to a diagnosis creates a dangerous and cruel pattern of automatically associating abusive behaviors with these diagnoses, and in some cases even defining these diagnoses according to a set of abusive behaviors. This association, not to mention the sheer amount of misinformation, increases stigma for neurodiverse people or mentally ill people, who we know are far more likely to be the targets of violent and abusive behavior than the perpetrators. This shitty shorthand makes it harder for us to seek and access treatment, speak honestly about our experiences, be believed or taken seriously when we do have problems, and generally function in the world. Stigma isolates and kills people. Assuming bad behaviors can only be the result of pathology infantilizes people and removes their agency and responsibility for their actions, while letting bad operators keep right on operating.
captainawkward  mentalhealth  internet  modding  howtobeahuman 
28 days ago
Arlan Hamilton, founder of Backstage Capital, brings diversity to VC
Like everything Hamilton does, the song request is equal parts self-aware and unapologetic. Hamilton knows that she stands out—she is the only black, queer woman to have ever built a venture capital firm from scratch. She also knows that she has a reputation for being direct, particularly when it comes to Silicon Valley biases, and how her own story is portrayed. (Indeed, the song is a jab at Gimlet Media, the podcast festival hosts, who devoted an entire episode of their StartUp series on her to what they saw as her sometimes counterproductive need for control.) But Hamilton exudes calm, even as she attempts, through her L.A.-based firm, Backstage Capital, the near impossible task of disrupting the way that venture investors pick winners and create wealth.
venturecapital  vc  arlanhamilton  whyweneedfeminism  startup  siliconvalley  diversity  race  queer 
4 weeks ago
Why does Siri sound white? — a journey into Afrocentric UX
Afrocentric research was developed it’s core tenants being (1) the research impacts the community positively and (2) the community actually desires the research / project being executed. Is that not user experience?! To create what the user needs by asking them and developing an experience with the product be delightful and solve their problems. Yup, that was it. As a researcher and lover of strategy this was my spot.

I want sane people and sane technology, if the AI can understand oppressive systems it’s cool with me. But seriously, when you view social phenomena from the black experience, you become much more aware of the interlocking nature of oppression that situates blackness at the bottom of the “hierarchy.” This led me to write the article Inter[tech]tionality: Checking our Design, which is a foundational concept that drives my UX work.
work  race  ux  uxdesign  afrocentrism  medium 
5 weeks ago
Toasts or snack bars? — designing organic notifications
How do we achieve this design goal? How do we create notifications that look and feel organic and intuitive to interact with? Here are a few things we need to be diligent about.
work  ux  uxdesign  notifications  medium  uidesign  ui 
5 weeks ago
Resources for UX writers – The Style of Elements
I am a UX writer. But that wasn’t really a thing prior to 2015. At least, information about such a role and the people in it and how they work with others and—none of this was readily accessible to even an avid Google searcher. It still isn’t. In an effort to record my research, and also to educate the writers I train at Vimeo, I’ve decided to document my findings here.

First things first. And by things, I mean links. Here’s a brief roundup of UX-writing philosophy and tactical approaches I’ve found helpful in improving my own writing for web, mobile, and TV interfaces:
work  ux  uxwriting  medium  linkslist  toread  writing 
5 weeks ago
Why Companies Should Add Class to Their Diversity Discussions
Despite all this, class migrants report negative workplace experiences due to their background. Class migrants report lower levels of belonging in the workplace, feel disadvantaged by lack of knowledge about the “rules of the game” in a corporate office, and are less often seen as a “good fit” due to arbitrary measures like not knowing what windsurfing is or whether brown shoes are taboo in the city.
work  class  privilege  whyweneedfeminism  HBR 
5 weeks ago
Don’t Underestimate the Power of Women Supporting Each Other at Work
Worse than being snubbed by the woman above me was the lack of communication between women at my level. Of the 50 auditors in my class, five were women. All of us were on different client teams. At the end of my first year, I was shocked and surprised to learn that all four of the other women had quit or been fired — shocked at the outcome, and surprised because we hadn’t talked amongst ourselves enough to understand what was happening. During that year, I’d had difficult experiences with men criticizing me, commenting on my looks, or flatly saying I didn’t deserve to work there — but I had no idea that the other women were having similar challenges. We expected our performance to be judged as objectively as our clients’ books, and we didn’t realize the need to band together until it was too late. Each of us had dealt with those challenges individually, and obviously not all successfully.
work  HBR  gender  feminism  whyweneedfeminism 
5 weeks ago
Today's College Students Aren't Who You Think They Are : NPR
One thing for sure, says Radford, is that it's probably time to coin a new phrase for nontraditional students, considering they are the new normal.
highered  NPR  university  college  students  nontraditionalstudents 
6 weeks ago
The iconography of American Sign Language – UX Collective
An exploration of the many surprising similarities between ASL and visual iconography.
ux  iconography  asl  language  icons  americansignlanguage  medium 
6 weeks ago
Designing for the stigma of unintended pregnancies — a UX case study
In early June, I published an article titled Designing for stigmatized communities: a framework, which served as an exploration in design thinking to help us — designers — create increasingly inclusive products. A few weeks ago, I decided to take the idea further by applying the framework to a large people problem — unintended pregnancies. Below is a case study on the work, and snapshot of the current state of the product, in an effort to open-source the work and allow anyone to collaborate on pushing it forward.
ux  uxdesign  medium  unintendedpregnancy 
6 weeks ago
This Gorgeous Portrait Series Celebrates Older Trans And Gender-Nonconforming People
"I missed the first fifty years of my life, but I'm not missing the second fifty."
trans  gendernonconforming  buzzfeed  elders  society  queer  <3 
6 weeks ago
Killings of black people lead to arrests less often than when victims are white - Washington Post
In the past decade, nearly 26,000 murders have gone without an arrest in major American cities.
Of those, more than 18,600 of the victims — almost three‑quarters — were black.
wapo  racism  america  murder  policebrutality  race  blacklivesmatter 
6 weeks ago
Dinner Guest: Me Poem by Langston Hughes - Poem Hunter
I know I am
The Negro Problem
Being wined and dined,
Answering the usual questions
That come to white mind
Which seeks demurely
To Probe in polite way
The why and wherewithal
Of darkness U.S.A.--
Wondering how things got this way
In current democratic night,
Murmuring gently
Over fraises du bois,
"I'm so ashamed of being white."

The lobster is delicious,
The wine divine,
And center of attention
At the damask table, mine.
To be a Problem on
Park Avenue at eight
Is not so bad.
Solutions to the Problem,
Of course, wait.
langstonhughes  dinnerguest:me  poetry  poem  racism 
6 weeks ago
How to use Workflow for iOS when you don't know where to start | iMore
Workflow is the most powerful app on my iPhone and iPad. I wouldn't be able to work without it, and, almost two years after its release, I'm still discovering its infinite potential.
workflow  apple  automation  apps  technology 
7 weeks ago
Using Tarot To Work Through Trauma | Ravishly | Media Company
There were so many reasons why I felt drawn to tarot, but I think at the heart of it all, I saw them as a way back to my intuition. For a very long time, the most intuitive thing I could manage was intuiting that somewhere in me, I had intuition. I could feel the debilitating complex trauma waiting to be healed inside of me, but it had been blocked by years of gaslighting, doubt, and confusion.

Tarot is teaching me to dive deeper, to do what scares me, to realize that I have all the answers I need. Its wisdom is a big, messy spiral of challenging lessons that feed my soul if I’m awake enough to see them — just like life.
tarot  ravishly  howtobeahuman  grief  feelings 
7 weeks ago
Billy in the Bedroom | Centsational Style
I used the basic 11” inch deep Billy with the extension on top for added height. We mimicked some things we’d done in the past, adding crown like with this set of Billys and baseboard like with these Billys and thicker trim like with these custom built-ins in our family room to make the shelves appear thicker and more substantial.
ikea  ikeahacks  billy  billybookshelf  home  homedecor  furniture 
7 weeks ago
Removable Wallpaper - Sources for Renters | Apartment Therapy
The thought of applying wallpaper to smooth and clean walls used to make one shudder. After all, the wallpaper of yesteryear was quite permanent. Here in the 21st century, there's a lot of removable wallpaper on the market - so whether you have a short attention span or you're in a rental, you can still get in on the fun.
apartmenttherapy  removablewallpaper  wallpaper  decor  interiordesign  homedecor  home 
7 weeks ago
The ROI of UX writing – Prototypr
Microcopy removes the barriers that make users abandon products, while at the same time encouraging them to move forward.

There are the four ways that microcopy can increase user engagement.
work  ux  uxdesign  microcopy  writing 
8 weeks ago
Self-Care: An A To Z Guide
A more or less definitive guide to taking care of yourself.
buzzfeed  selfcare  reference 
8 weeks ago
Sarah Waites on Twitter: "I've talked before about how diverse adult SFF gets so much less attention than diverse YA SFF. So here's a thread of diverse (AKA SFF by and/or about marginalized people) science fiction and fantasy novels aimed at adults!"
I've talked before about how diverse adult SFF gets so much less attention than diverse YA SFF.

So here's a thread of diverse (AKA SFF by and/or about marginalized people) science fiction and fantasy novels aimed at adults!
booklists  twitter  sarahwaites  sff  toread 
8 weeks ago
Hannah Gadsby Refuses To Make Lesbianism The Butt Of The Joke
Watching Nanette made me question the way queer people tell our darkest stories, and who we’re telling them for. Namely, how often are we either sensationalizing these experiences, or else downplaying them and making jokes, worried that what we’ve gone through isn’t traumatic enough to merit more than a passing mention? Tragedy of all kinds is usually centered in the queer stories we do see, particularly in the mainstream, and not for nothing — for so many of us, our identities were formed in times of trauma. But what would it mean if the stories we told about ourselves weren’t focused on the worst things that have ever happened to us?
hannahgadsby  nanette  queerness  comedy  buzzfeed 
8 weeks ago
Anselm Kiefer: Lot's Wife, 1989
This work by Anselm Kiefer is very reminiscent of his style. He used some very unconventional materials in this painting that was made up of "Oil paint, ash, stucco, chalk, linseed oil, polymer emulsion, salt and applied elements (e.g., copper heating coil), on canvas, attached to lead foil, on plywood panels." (The Cleveland Museum of Art). It is 11 by 14 feet and weighs 1,200 pounds. Most of this weight is from sheets of lead foil that were treated and then glued to a wooden structure underneath made of pine and plywood. On the top of the painting Kiefer poured a salt water mixture over sodium chloride that left white/yellow crystal layers. Before the canvas was mounted over a lead structure Kiefer let it age outdoors and covered it with stucco and then ash. He also burnt it with a blowtorch and on the bottom section painted over fabric and added more canvas to the corners. (The Cleveland Museum of Art). The use of these materials has allowed the painting to deteriorate and change overtime.
anselmkiefer  art  paintings  lotswife  clevelandmuseumofart 
8 weeks ago
Lee Krasner | The Civet (1962) | Artsy
The Civet, 1962
8 × 30 in; 20.3 × 76.2 cm
Permanent collection
Indianapolis Museum of Art
leekrasner  art  indianapolismuseumofart 
8 weeks ago
View of Houses in Delft, Known as ‘The Little Street’, Johannes Vermeer, c. 1658 - Rijksmuseum
This is an unusual painting in Vermeer’s oeuvre, and remarkable for its time as a portrait of ordinary houses. The composition is as exciting as it is balanced. The old walls with their bricks, whitewash, and cracks are almost tangible. The location is Vlamingstraat 40–42 in Delft. Vermeer’s aunt Ariaentgen Claes lived in the house at the right, with her children, from around 1645 until her death in 1670.
vermeer  art  paintings  rijksmuseum 
8 weeks ago
Homesteading at Rock Bottom | Northwest Edible Life
What do you do when you’ve hit the rock bottom of homesteading?
farming  homesteading  howtobeahuman  mentalhealth 
8 weeks ago
An Ode to Jonathan Van Ness - VICE
Taking a "mome" to appreciate the beachy-waved kween of 'Queer Eye.'
queereye  jvn  jonathanvanness  vice  queerness  howtobeahuman 
8 weeks ago
Ask Polly: I Love My Friends, But I Hate Making Plans!
Of course, if a friend is in need, I’m there in a second. In some ways, this might be my problem — I’m sort of a foul-weather friend. I go above and beyond when a friend is having troubles, but when things are fine I feel like they expect that continued level of devotion from me and I can’t keep it up.

I don’t want to lose friendships. I just don’t want to have to be watering them, constantly making plans, in a state of constant social activity. I just want to exist without disappointing anybody. I want to love people but not contort myself to satisfy their arbitrary and inflated expectations of what a “social life” is.

Am I an awful person? How do I manage others’ expectations of me? Most important: How do I say no to drinks without offering an alternate date for drinks? How do I say “Can we not make this plan?” without sounding like an asshole? Or am I an asshole? Should I just accept that I’m an asshole?
askpolly  relationships  friendships  introversion  howtobeahuman 
9 weeks ago
My Life All in One Place: Midori TN inserts
I also design insert booklets for the Midori Traveler's Notebook. All are free to download, print, bind and use.
midori  travelersnotebook  MTN  journaling  paper  stationery 
9 weeks ago
My Life All in One Place: Make your own Midori Traveler's Notebook insert
Use a file folder and simple bookbinding to create your own Midori inserts.
paper  travelersnotebook  midori  MTN  journaling  stationery 
9 weeks ago
The definitive guide to JavaScript Dates
work  javascript  development  dates  coding  reference 
10 weeks ago
Supporting students in transition | UW College of Education
For one project, recent graduate Esquivel jointly created web-accessible checklists aimed at the transition phase in students’ lives as part of an effort to combat the phenomena. The lists walk students through each step they need to complete between high school graduation and their first day of college.

She said having guidelines—the transition checklist—helps students feel supported by providing information such as which forms to fill out and where to go to set up counseling appointments.
work  uw  students  highered 
10 weeks ago
Self-Service UX: 'Cards' Dashboards Must Be Highly Consistent and Appropriately Styled - Articles - Baymard Institute
Testing revealed that a ‘Cards’ dashboard can work well for users — as long as the layout and styling meet user expectations. Otherwise, users have trouble navigating ‘Cards’ dashboards — with the end result being users find it very difficult to access account features they’re looking for.

In this article, we’ll discuss the test findings from our Accounts & Self-Service E-Commerce usability study related to the layout and styling of ‘Cards’ dashboards. In particular, we’ll discuss:

The importance of consistency when it comes to ‘Cards’ dashboards
The crucial role of ‘Cards’ headers and text
Why images, graphics, and other prominent visuals should be approached cautiously
work  ux  uxdesign  baymard  research  userresearch 
10 weeks ago
I Was My Husband's Mother For 21 Years | Ravishly
This isn’t the only reason we got divorced, but it certainly contributed to it. Twenty-one years is a long time to care for anyone, most people but even take care of their kids that long. But to care for an adult fully capable of caring for themselves? That’s a really long time. It’s a long time to have to ask someone to take out the trash. It’s a lot of swallowed anger and pent-up resentment.
ravishly  emotionallabor  whyweneedfeminism  lolsob 
10 weeks ago
The Queer Art of Failing Better | Laurie Penny
People on this show are extremely sweet to one another. That is rare enough within the reality TV genre, where “reality” is usually flattened into an exaggerated Hobbesian melee of shark-eyed competition and high-stakes back-stabbing. Most reality shows replicate the ruthless dogma of the age whereby life is made up of winners and losers and the trick is to hammer the other guy into the ground before he can do the same to you. On this show, men do not compete with each other. They touch each other, a lot, and seeing that brings home just how horrifyingly rare that is in untelevised reality. They cry and admit to one other how much it hurts to be alive while a handsome stranger teaches them how to make guacamole. There are no winners on Queer Eye—just better losers.
lauriepenny  queereye  toxicmasculinity  television  feminism  emotional 
11 weeks ago
July 25, 2018 Food Newsletter
Or just read Brown’s story, which is so well-told, so deeply researched, so uncannily on point in its representation of the culture and cuisine of Narnia, and so faithful in its mimicry of Bourdain’s writing voice that it is sure to charm any reader who gives it a chance. Including, as it turns out, Bourdain himself. After I sent him “No Reservations: Narnia,” he replied that, contrary to Brown’s concerns, he’d never come across the story before. “This is astonishingly well written with an attention to detail that’s frankly a bit frightening,” he said in an e-mail. “I’m both flattered and disturbed. I think I need a drink.”
fanfic  narnia  anthonybourdain 
11 weeks ago
22 Of The Best Places To Buy Wallpaper Online
Here's where to find the perfect wallpaper for your home, budget, and style.
buzzfeed  home  diy  decor  wallpaper 
12 weeks ago
10 steps for a better queer user experience – UX Collective
At SheGeeksOut, the evening’s talks lead off with a non-binary person working for OKCupid, Rowan, on the subject of how to make products more accessible for gender non-conforming and trans folks, and concluded with how to make your office spaces more welcoming for the same folks. I greatly enjoyed this talk — it’s important to feel like matters involving your community aren’t taboo or something to be discussed behind closed doors.

After listening to this talk, I’ve been steeping for a bit about queer user experiences and intentional, user friendly design. Here are some observations I’ve made from my own interactions with software, as a queer gnc woman.
gender  work  uxdesign 
12 weeks ago
Giving and Taking Criticism — Chappell Ellison
I firmly believe you can be a critic while being kind and open-hearted.

I don’t even care if that sounds naive.

Most people think the number one goal of a critic is to judge whether work is good or bad.

They are wrong. #imo

The number one goal of a critic should be to make things better. That’s it. None of this binary good/bad stuff. Lots of people would disagree with me on this. Like maybe these guys:

Roger Ebert and Gene Siskel, film critics and former hosts of At the Movies.
Roger Ebert and Gene Siskel, film critics and former hosts of At the Movies.

Criticism only succeeds when everyone wants things to be better. The moment you sniff out that a critic’s goal is not to help you make things better, BOY BYE.

How do you know if they don’t want to make things better? You know when a troll is a troll. They reveal it through their lack of curiosity about your work.
design  advice  criticism  work  ux  uxdesign 
12 weeks ago
5 Projects to Help You Practice React
If you’re in the middle of trying to learn React, you have probably run into the “the gap.”

You have a handle on the basics: components, props, state. You’ve done a tutorial or two, and probably built a few To Do apps. Though your skills aren’t quite at the level of building a real app yet, you know enough that building more To Do apps won’t take you any further.

5 React Project Ideas
In this post I’ll show you 5 projects that will be fun to build, stretch your abilities a bit, and do not involve any todos.

The best thing you can do at this stage is to choose simple and small apps to build. Aim for quantity over quality. (here are some more ideas on how to practice React)
work  react.js  todo  coding 
july 2018
How Star Trek: The Next Generation Predicted Meme Culture
“Darmok,” the 102nd episode of Star Trek: The Next Generation, is a longtime favorite among both Trekkies and linguists. Case in point: the first time I saw it wasn’t on TV but in a linguistic anthropology class at the University of Minnesota. In the episode, Picard and the Enterprise crew encounter the Children of Tama, who speak entirely in metaphors and references—a system that stumps the Trek world’s universal translator, which can only translate the literal meaning of the words.
startrek  tng  st:tng  memes  linguistics  darmokian  gretchenmcculloch  internet 
july 2018
It’s not always possible to love your body. And it’s not something I want to ask of anyone any longer.

I have been working instead on using language that respects and acknowledges these very real barriers and find myself feeling more at home with the concept of “body liberation.”
bodypositivity  fat  bodyliberation  themilitantbaker 
july 2018
White People Are Cowards
Many of those people don’t speak out because they fear alienation more than they hate racism. For them, the fear of having someone furrow their brow in their direction outweighs their hatred of sending children to an underfunded school knowing that they don’t have an equal chance at success because of the color of their skin.

They know the reality of disproportionate police brutality, but they don’t have to worry about their children being shot in the face. Their kids receive good educations. Their kids can wear hoodies whenever they please. Little Amber and Connor’s résumés don’t get tossed in the trash because of their black-sounding names. Their children’s futures are determined only by work ethic and ability. Therefore, they stay silent on the sidelines.

That’s not evil.

That is cowardice.
race  politics  racism  america  theroot 
june 2018
Dear Fuck-Up: How do you live when everything sucks? | The Outline
Dear Fuck-Up,

You’ve written a lot about mistakes and I think mentioned that you’ve struggled with depression. I’ve had bouts of depression and anxiety, but they have gotten much worse over the last year or two.

I’m in therapy and I guess it helps but when the news about Anthony Bourdain broke, it was the first time that I’ve thought to myself “well shit, maybe I’m not going to make it.” I realize that sound silly because he was a celebrity and a stranger but it was the first time that particularly frightening thought popped into my brain and now I’m worried it won’t go away. I’m not even really sure I have a question here. I guess maybe just: how do you live when everything keeps getting worse?
advice  dearfuckup  howtobeahuman  depression  mentalhealth 
june 2018
Build a Backyard Edible Ecosystem | MOTHER EARTH NEWS
Use compost, yard waste, and recycled paper to construct a small permaculture ecosystem that supports your food garden.
motherearthnews  permaculture  gardening  howto 
june 2018
Amandla Stenberg | Wonderland
Do you feel that your identities intersect in life/love/work?
Most def. Identity is transient and ever- shifting, shaped by our realities and relative to our environments. I think it’s a lens through which we navigate the world, and so it is inevitable that as I grow and change my experiences of life and love permeate the art that I make

We must be grateful for these lenses. Without them everything would be boring. What’s the tea on 2018? Is disillusionment just part of the gig?
I think it has to be. How do we avoid disillusionment in today’s day and age? A lesson I’ve been learning is to stop running from it. It is an inevitable and critical step in change and understanding, and we are experiencing one large pubescent upheaval right now. As my mother has spoken softly to me time and time again, this too shall pass. So we breathe and let it pass with the cognisance that our growth is on the way.
amandlastenberg  kingprincess  wonderlandmagazine  howtobeahuman  queerness 
june 2018
How to test accessibility of emails – Campaign Monitor Engineering
It’s no wonder people often put this type of testing in the too-hard basket. However if you start with testing with vision impairments in mind you should be able to get a good return on investment towards a more inclusive experience.
accessibility  tips  work  howto  a11y  uxdesign 
june 2018
Latino food writer Gustavo Arellano on why Anthony Bourdain meant so much to marginalized communities.
Food writer Gustavo Arellano on why Anthony Bourdain meant so much to marginalized communities.
anthonybourdain  food 
june 2018
DIY Entryway Organizer - Wood and Pipe Entryway Stand
An Entryway Organizer You can Build Yourself
This entryway organizer is pretty large and by DIYing this project we were able to create a custom piece that fit our family’s needs. We saved just over $300 by making it ourselves and after two-plus years we’re still using this piece every single day.
tomake  home  building  furniture  diy 
june 2018
Why That 'Arrested Development' Interview Is So Bad : Monkey See : NPR
It's not the worst story. Not by a mile. It may not even be Tambor's worst story. But seeing a woman so brilliant withstand repeated efforts, by people who say they love her, to recast her experiences as normal when she knew they were not? It was a lot to take.
lindaholmes  npr  workplaceharassment  whyweneedfeminism  harassment 
may 2018
How TV’s bisexual representation evolved from a joke to a vital story - Vox
I was told so many lies about what being bisexual means that it took me 27 years to come out as bisexual myself. Friends shrugged that bisexual people just couldn’t make up their minds. Family members insisted that being gay or straight was one thing, but anything in between just didn’t make sense. And in a crushing blow, my beloved escape, television, insisted over and over that someone who might like men and women was a confused joke at best, and a slutty sinner at worst.
bisexuality  sexuality  queer  television  tv  representation  bi 
may 2018
“Mother of Invention,” a new short story by Nnedi Okorafor.
It was a beautiful sunny day, and yet Anwuli knew the weather was coming for her.

She paused on the lush grass in front of the house, purposely stepping on one of the grass’ flowers. When she raised her foot, the sturdy thing sprung right back into place, letting out a puff of pollen like a small laugh. Anwuli gnashed her teeth, clutching the metal planks she carried and staring up the driveway.
afrofuturism  parenting  nnediokorafor  specfic  sff 
may 2018
Dear Businesslady: The Calculus of the Aftermath - The Billfold
You, though? You’re great. You may not be 100 percent of the person you once were, but you are 100 percent of someone new — and complete regardless.
businesslady  work  mentalhealth  advice  toread  adulting  howtobeaperson 
may 2018
Our One Fight: The worrywart vs. the Zen master.
Every time we fight, we’re replaying an old argument about the emotional burden of being the one who obsesses about everything.
relatable  slate  ouronefight  emotionallabor  whyaretheylikethis  whyweneedfeminism 
april 2018
How Janelle Monáe Found Her Voice - The New York Times
After hiding behind an alter ego for years, the pop star is ready to step into a more authentic self with ‘Dirty Computer.’
janellemonae  nytimes  music 
april 2018
Salt Preserved Herbs - DIY - MOTHER EARTH NEWS
Preserve herbs with salt to use as a rub or in a marinade for meats and grilled vegetables.
motherearthnews  preserving  herbs  salt  recipes  kitchen 
april 2018
The arrest of two men at a Philadelphia Starbucks shows how deeply raced our public spaces can be.
Philadelphia is a city in which 43 percent of residents are black. The Philadelphia Starbucks where two black men were arrested last Thursday, however, is located in a zip code that is 79 percent white and just 6 percent black. In all likelihood, most of the clientele there is white, which, to borrow from sociologist Elijah Anderson, makes this particular location a “white space,” or an area whose “most visible and distinctive feature is [the] overwhelming presence of white people and [the] absence of black people.”

This may explain why a Starbucks staff member called the police while the two men were waiting on a business associate. The employee says the men were trespassing and refused to leave the restaurant. Video of the incident—taken by a bystander—shows them standing like any potential customers. That same footage shows their business associate arrive as they are arrested. He is white.

Race is about power and hierarchy. When one is “raced,” one is placed in relationship to that hierarchy—your position assigned to your body and made visible to the world. Places, too, can be raced. Spaces of affluence and exclusivity are typically associated with white faces, reflecting racial distributions of wealth and power. Films like Get Out take that association as a given, a conceit the filmmaker doesn’t even have to explain to the audience. There are “black spaces,” too. In a paper titled “The Iconic Ghetto,” Anderson details the tight association between public housing projects and the black poor, a connection so strong that it’s become part of the overall racial stigma against blacks—a singular black pathology that supposedly explains the material conditions of those projects. Blacks, in this view, come from the ghetto and they carry the ghetto with them, representing its putative danger, crime, and poverty.
slate  jamellebouie  race  america  racism  institutionalracism 
april 2018
That's a bit of a stretch - flexibility exercise routine | Ask MetaFilter
I've seen this question on daily stretches and the answers are helpful, but I would like a bit of a routine that I could follow. Obviously there's heaps on you tube but I'd prefer a MeFi recommendation! So, would anyone care to recommend a particular video or app (Android, free or once-off payment) to take me through say 5 or 10 minutes of stretching? I'd particularly like to focus on flexibility since I basically don't have any right now. Thanks!
askme  exercising  exercise  stretching  intro 
april 2018
Seed catalogs are my jam - gardening seeds vegetables | Ask MetaFilter
Best veggie varietals for home gardeners?

We are experienced vegetable gardeners in US Zone 5b (growing season ~5 months). The site is a raised bed garden with full sun and lovely compost-enriched soil. We belong to a CSA, so the basics are covered. What crazy varietals should we try this year? Cultivars that are good for preserving are especially welcome.
askme  gardening  seeds 
april 2018
Working Through Design Challenges in Product Design Job Interviews
I can see these challenges for what they really are: an opportunity to more authentically share—and reflect on—my problem solving process.

Design challenges are a highly effective way to get signal on skills that aren’t always evident in a portfolio: problem solving strategy, product thinking and scope analysis, communication, collaboration, prioritization, and so on.
design  work  interviewing  tech  ux  problemsolving 
april 2018
Digital Infrastructure for Teaching Report Final.pdf - Google Drive
Digital Scholarship at the University of Washington: challenges and opportunities
work  UW 
april 2018
Hunger And Homelessness Are Widespread Among College Students, Study Finds : The Two-Way : NPR
Overall the study concluded 36 percent of college students say they are food insecure. Another 36 percent say they are housing insecure, while 9 percent report being homeless. The results are largely the same as last year's survey, which included fewer students.
work  campus  homelessness  foodinsecurity  college  reference  npr  poverty 
april 2018
Quiara Alegría Hudes Rewrites the American Landscape | The New Yorker
All-female teams are still a rarity in musicals; Lisa Kron and Jeanine Tesori remain the only pair of women whose score, for “Fun Home,” has won a Tony. (That show also came from the Public.) With a woman also directing “Miss You Like Hell,” “there’s a lot of amazing female juju in that room,” Rubin-Vega said. She told Hudes that she was worried about giving Beatriz her all, having heard, in the past, that she was “too much” for certain roles. “You don’t have to subdue yourself,” Hudes reassured her. “You don’t have to play the model minority. The difference is, this is our space.”
quiaraalegríahudes  thenewyorker  theater  musicals 
april 2018
Not smart enough? Men overestimate intelligence in science class
Even when grades show different, men overestimated their class ranking
education  discrimination  sexism  STEM  work  whyweneedfeminism 
april 2018
Every time we fight, we’re replaying an old argument that started over decorating our first apartment together.
Baird: At the end of the day, this fight to me is about control on your end, and feeling valued and heard on my end. In typical me fashion, this argument really makes me spin out and start imagining us 20 years from now living in a house full of statues of saints whose names I don’t know surrounded by zero pictures of our children and/or cats because you decided our children and/or cats do not match the aesthetic that we (you) are currently going for. And even though I try to explain what is (to me) a very clear connection between you hating our coasters and hating our unborn children, as of yet you don’t seem to see it.

On your end, I think your personal biography has helped shape a person who really wants and needs to be in control at all times, because it seems like you spent a lot of your early life not in control of your own circumstances. This is hard for me, No. 1 because obviously I would also like to be the boss, but No. 2 because it often seems like your perception of a constant battle for power keeps you from seeing us a unit, which is definitely something we’re still working on this early in our marriage.

Victor: I think there’s a lot of truth in that. Even talking about this fight has made me examine how I can be selfish and what my flaws are as a partner. I think our relationship is strong in that our fight is mostly superficial. In many ways, we are already like an old couple because our fights mostly revolve around the same things again and again, and I find that oddly comforting. At the end of the day, we have a beautiful home together, one that you and I will continue to fill with love regardless of what it looks like or where it is, for years to come. Giant chicken pot, limbless saints, Ikea furniture, cats, children, and all.
howtofight  howtobeanadult  toread 
april 2018
Inclusive Design: 12 Ways to Design for Everyone
Inclusive design considers as many people’s needs and abilities as possible. It goes further than accessibility, which is specifically focused on people with disabilities and how to make sites or apps usable for them.
work  ux  inclusivity  design  reference  inclusivedesign 
april 2018
Cultivation of Ramps (Allium tricoccum and A. burdickii) | NC State Extension Publications
Since almost all ramps consumed are harvested from wild populations, information on growing ramps is very limited. Research is in progress at NC State University to develop efficient, practical, and sustainable production practices for ramps. While research is ongoing, the practices described in this publication are based on our experiences and those of the few existing ramp growers in North Carolina and West Virginia.
ramps  farming  cultivation  agriculture  allium 
april 2018
Good films on Shudder - Horror recommendations | Ask MetaFilter
Do you subscribe to Shudder? What are the best films you've seen on there? If you remember the film was foreign language with English subtitles please could you mention? Thanks!
askme  movies  towatch  movielists  horror  shudder 
april 2018
Androgyny Shouldn’t Just Be for Thin People - Racked
A step forward in body diversity makes it all the more noticeable when yours is the shape that’s still not being served.
fashion  fat  queer  androgynous  genderqueer  genderfluid  style 
march 2018
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