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How to care for introverts
"I've read a lot about introverts and extroverts over the years (posted this back in Feb 2003 for example), but this list (found here http://www.fastcompany.com/3016031/leadership-now/are-you-an-introvert-or-an-extrovert-and-what-it-means-for-your-career ) of how to care for introverts still hit me like a pile of bricks.

1. Respect their need for privacy.
2. Never embarrass them in public.
3. Let them observe first in new situations.
4. Give them time to think; don't demand instant answers.
5. Don't interrupt them.
6. Give them advance notice of expected changes in their lives.
7. Give them 15 minute warnings to finish whatever they are doing.
8. Reprimand them privately.
9. Teach them new skills privately.
10. Enable them to find one best friend who has similar interests & abilities.
11. Don't push them to make lots of friends.
12. Respect their introversion; don't try to remake them into extroverts.

It's just dawned on me that when something goes wrong in my life, it's often one of the things on this list that's the culprit, especially #4 and #6. And #2 pretty much explains my middle and high school experience. Has anyone read Susan Caine's Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking? I've heard great things about it, but haven't had a chance to read yet. Thinking I should bump it to the top of my queue. Holy crap, it's only $2.99 for Kindle...BOUGHT."

[Or as Allen says: “PS this is good advice for taking care of anyone ¯\_(ツ)_/¯”
https://twitter.com/tealtan/status/544523801225338881]
introverts  introversion  jasonkottke  2014  privacy  management  psychology 
december 2014 by robertogreco
russell davies: three months at R/GA
"I often look bored or unengaged in meetings - going as far as being actually rude to people. I'll cop to this. It's a fair point and it's bad of me. I apologise.

My only possible excuse is that personal circumstances have been a bit shit recently and it's been hard to think that any meeting has been worth being in - in comparison with where I should be. But that's not the fault of anyone in the meeting and I shouldn't be taking it out on them.

It can't be just that though, I've had this before. I got this as w+k and I imagine I would have at Ogilvy. I have to accept it's probably true. I like to think it's a symptom of shyness rather than arrogance but that might be entirely self-serving, the line between the two is probably very thin."
russelldavies  introversion  introverts  meetings  cv  2011  work  social  shyness  intorverts 
november 2011 by robertogreco
Caring for your online introvert
"Fellow introvert Joanne McNeil on Jonathan Rauch's classic article on introverts and what introversion might mean on the internet.

"Social media drains me like a large party might. I just deactivated Facebook. And I don't @ much on Twitter. Too often it feels like the "fog of [an extrovert's] 98-percent-content-free talk," as Rauch put it.""

[The post contains a broken link…will need to hunt down an archive.]
psychology  introversion  kottke  2010  joannemcneil  online  facebook  twitter  socialnetworking  web  relationships  internet  introverts  intorverts 
may 2011 by robertogreco
How introverts travel
"It might surprise you that introverts travel differently than extroverts, particularly because most travel magazines, guidebooks, and TV shows are produced by and for extroverts.

"I don't seek people out, I am terrible at striking up conversations with strangers and I am happy exploring a strange city alone. I don't seek out political discourse with opinionated cab drivers or boozy bonding with locals over beers into the wee hours. By the time the hours get wee, I'm usually in bed in my hotel room, appreciating local color TV. (So sue me, but I contend that television is a valid reflection of a society.)"

I almost broke my neck extensively nodding in agreement while reading this article. The author also has some tips for the introverted traveler. And if you haven't read it, Jonathan Rauch's Caring for Your Introvert remains one of my favorite things that I've ever featured on kottke.org."
kottke  introversion  travel  introverts  cv  howto  psychology  2009  intorverts 
may 2011 by robertogreco
How to Care for Introverts [short list] - AUSTIN KLEON : TUMBLR
"I’m an extravert, married to the Queen of introverts, and I too approve this message!"
relationships  introverts  introversion  cv  behavior  psychology  2011  intorverts 
may 2011 by robertogreco
Caring for Your Introvert - Magazine - The Atlantic
"The habits and needs of a little-understood group"

[Predates Delicious, so was not already bookmarked.]
culture  society  psychology  social  jonathanrauch  introverts  cv  introversion  2003  intorverts 
may 2011 by robertogreco
Introverts of the World, Unite! - Magazine - The Atlantic
"A conversation with Jonathan Rauch, the author who—thanks to an astonishingly popular essay in the March 2003 Atlantic—may have unwittingly touched off an Introverts' Rights revolution"

[Should have been bookmarked back in 2006]
culture  psychology  behavior  introverts  introversion  jonathanrauch  cv  2006  2003  intorverts 
may 2011 by robertogreco
Introverted Teacher? - ProTeacher Community [Thread follows the post quoted below]
"I am an introvert, meaning I am at my best when I have solitary time to reflect, appreciate, plan. I usually prefer being alone, or with my immediate family. When at school, I am very outgoing and friendly, yet, sometimes the nonstop contact (with students, parents, colleagues, administration…) seems to just wear me out. I was aware of this possibility going into teaching, but still felt it was my calling, and was inspired by the fact that Ghandi, MLK, Jr. and Oprah have the same personality type I have--and they obviously contributed great things in callings with extensive human contact.

…wondering if it's possible to be truly happy & effective as a teacher & be an introvert at the same time…thought of attending a faculty meeting is also often a downer…

What are your thoughts on this? Better yet, any happy teacher introverts out there? Any unhappy ones feeling out of place? Any insight/honesty would be greatly appreciated."
via:lukeneff  introverts  introversion  teaching  education  work  meetings  facultymeetings  faculty  cv  intorverts 
may 2011 by robertogreco
Shyness.com [The Shyness Institute]
"Shyness and social phobia do not have to interfere with achieving professional and interpersonal goals. The pain of shyness can be relieved by challenging automatic thoughts and beliefs, and learning new behaviors.

This is The Shyness Home Page, a gathering of network resources for people seeking information and services for shyness. It is sponsored by The Shyness Institute, Palo Alto, California (an institute for research in shyness and social fitness). The Institute is also closely associated with The Social Fitness Center (for coaching) and The Shyness Clinic (for therapy).

(Note: This page is to encourage networking. The Shyness Institute cannot, and does not, necessarily evaluate or certify the quality of the services mentioned here.)"
shyness  psychology  health  anxiety  social  socialanxiety  introverts  introversion  shynessinstitute  intorverts 
march 2011 by robertogreco
All the lonely people - Roger Ebert's Journal
"But back to loneliness. I have to reveal a truth about myself: I've never felt particularly lonely. I was an only child. I came from a happy, stable home. The school bus dropped me off at 3, and my parents weren't home until after 5, but those two hours alone were treasure to me. I was a curious little boy. I always had something going…

A few weeks ago, something happened. Chaz needed emergency surgery. There were two nights when I was alone and she was in the hospital, just as there were months when she was alone and I was in the hospital. And in the middle of the night a great fear enveloped me. If "anything happened" (as they say), I would be so terribly, terribly alone, and sad. I would miss her so much. This feeling came over me in a wave. I pulled the covers tighter around me. Then I would know what loneliness was."
rogerebert  loneliness  introversion  isolation  solitude  intorverts 
november 2010 by robertogreco
Darwinia
"The world of Darwinia is a virtual themepark, running entirely inside a computer network and populated by a sentient evolving life form called the Darwinians. Unfortunately Darwinia has been overrun by a computer virus which has multiplied out of control. Your task is to destroy the Viral Infection and save the Darwinians from extinction."
games  evolution  gaming  simulation  introversion  tcsnmy  classideas  intorverts  simulations 
november 2008 by robertogreco
Wonderland: Keita Takahashi's GameCity presentation
"He began by apologising for having agreed to do a keynote, because he's shy and doesn't do well in public, and he followed by putting on gentle sounds of water and birds tweeting, "to calm us";. Then, using a combination of Edgies and Desktastic (this is why macs pwn windows/powerpoint for presentations), he took us through a number of stories: how his favourite Havaiana flipflops broke at the thong, which is a bad omen. "Maybe my plane will crash"."
games  videogames  design  presentations  humor  glvo  gamechanging  storytelling  stories  creativity  introverts  introversion  play  imagination  keitatakahashi  nobynobyboy  katamaridamacy  nobinobiboy  gamedesign  nottingham  lifeasgame  intorverts 
october 2007 by robertogreco
/Message: Alienation Increases With Loosening Of Social Norms
"Teaching is politics. We need to wrest the education of our children, our inheritors, from the hands of mad men. We can continue to drive our children crazy, with alienation and ADD, or we can rethink growing up."
education  flow  teaching  parenting  etiquette  society  technology  communication  social  psychology  alienation  change  reform  schools  shyness  introversion  childhood  stoweboyd  intorverts 
september 2007 by robertogreco

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