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Church Divorce Rate Way Lower Than Anyone Thought — Charisma News
In her book, The Good News About Marriage, Feldhahn lays out what she found during her eight years of investigating the complicated, complex divorce statistics.

First, the divorce rate is way below 50 percent and much lower for those who attend church.

Feldhahn estimates the overall divorce rate for the country is around 31 percent. The studies of people who regularly go to church all show a much lower divorce rate for them.

"Maybe 15 percent, maybe 20 percent for all marriages. First marriages, second marriages, third marriages," Feldhahn explained.

Feldhahn cited one example where a pastor tracked 143 couples who he had married.

"It was 25, 27 years later. Less than 10 percent had been divorced," she stated.

Feldhahn hopes these facts she's uncovered become widespread.

"Pastors need to know this," she said. "People need to be able to look around the average congregation and say, 'You know what, most of these people will have strong and happy marriages for a lifetime. Doing what God says matters. This is a big deal to know."
marriage  divorce 
5 weeks ago by whatithunk
The Incredible Success Story Behind One County's Plummeting Divorce Rate Should Inspire Us All | Opinion
Placing an emphasis on churches really made the difference, De Gance said. There were some hits and misses along the testing road, but De Gance discovered that churches are best situated to become the catalyst for a healthy marriage culture because they can do what the government can never do: They can love.

"Love and mission allow churches to tap into a network of volunteers and existing staff to run and deliver programs," De Gance explained in a recent opinion piece for the Washington Examiner.

But love alone wasn't the driver of success in Jacksonville. It turns out some modern marketing methodologies were deployed to bring local residents to church that otherwise might not have attended. De Gance and his team developed a predictive model to help identify individuals most likely to divorce in the area. Churches then determined what activities were most useful within their sphere of influence—say, a 5-mile radius—and they then micro-targeted those individuals for direct mail, online advertising or social media outreach.
marriage  love  church 
august 2019 by whatithunk
Why are Christians opposed to marriage equality?
“Marriage equality” is the latest catchphrase to be thrown into the gay marriage / same-sex marriage debate. The term “marriage equality” is an attempt to reframe the conversation and ascribe a certain level of irrationality to those who oppose same-sex marriage. To oppose the recognition of homosexual unions as marriages is one thing. But it is much more difficult to oppose “equality” in marriage rights. What American would deny equality? However, attaching a new label to the cause does not change the core issues in the debate. If “marriage equality” means “gay marriage,” Christians should be opposed to it.
equality  marriage  gay-marriage 
july 2019 by whatithunk
When Jesus was Interviewed about Same-Sex marriage • Joe Dallas - Joe Dallas
Few things are as tough as an unfriendly interview,
and that goes double for unfriendly interviews about homosexuality.

Which leads me to wonder how Jesus would have handled the bright lights.
Using His own words, let’s try a little speculation and imagine the Lord
fielding questions about His views on human sexuality

Interviewer: Now, Jesus – uh, do you prefer being called Lord?

Jesus: You call me Master and Lord, and you say well, for so I am.
(John 13:13)

Interviewer: Or Christ? God? Savior?

Jesus: I am He. (John 18:6)

Interviewer: OK, so your popularity still runs high, and lots of people still look to You as the final authority. We legalized same-sex marriage here in America years ago, and lots of people, even some of Your followers, have come around to accepting it. Where do You stand on this?

Jesus: From the beginning He created them male and female. (Matthew 19:4)

Interviewer: Well, now, surely that’s a throwback to the Old Testament. Isn’t the old law of Moses a bit antiquated for today’s discussion?

Jesus: Think not that I came to destroy the law. I came not to destroy it, but to fulfill it. (Matthew 5:17)

Interviewer: Aha! Then doesn’t it say in Leviticus that homosexuals should be put to death? Is that what You’re advocating?

Jesus: Let him that is without sin cast the first stone. (John 8:7)

Interviewer: That would be nobody.

Jesus: It is as you say. (Luke 23:3)

Interviewer: So You’d prefer we stick to the traditional Ozzie and Harriet style family arrangement? How would that play out in 2018?

Jesus: For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. What God has joined together, let no man set asunder.
(Mark 10:7-9)

Interviewer: That’s it? Stuck for life? What if both the man and the woman are miserable together?

Jesus: I say unto you, if a man put away his wife for any cause other than fornication, he causes her to commit adultery. (Matthew 5:32)

Interviewer: You probably just lost at least half of our listeners.

Jesus: This is a hard saying. Not every man can receive this saying.
(Matthew 19:11)

Interviewer: No, and not every man will agree with it, either. In fact, based on what You just said, a lot of people would call for Your resignation.

Jesus: Everyone practicing evil hates the light, and does not come to the light, lest his deeds be exposed. (John 3:20)

Interviewer: Well, You’re promoting a pretty rigid definition of family, not to mention morality. I mean we’re all sexual creatures. I can’t help but look at a beautiful woman when she walks by. Surely You don’t have a problem
with that?

Jesus: If a man looks upon a woman to lust after her, he has committed adultery in his heart. (Matthew 5:28)

Interviewer: Now you lost me. I might lose my job for saying this, but I do that almost every day.

Jesus: Son, be of good cheer. Your sins are forgiven. (Matthew 9:2)
LGBT  marriage  homosexuality  Bible-study 
july 2019 by whatithunk
NY Times Op-Ed Admits Something The Times Must Hate About Religious People | Daily Wire
Much to the chagrin of The New York Times, an op-ed in the paper discussing a study of married couples acknowledges that the happiest wives by far in America are those in politically conservative, religious marriages. The study, conducted by a professor of sociology at the University of Virginia, a professor of marriage and family studies at Brigham Young University, and an adjunct lecturer in the sociology department at Georgetown University, found that 73% of wives “who hold conservative gender values and attend religious services regularly with their husbands have high-quality marriages.” Another statement in the op-ed to make the Times crazy: “Women in highly religious relationships are about 50% more likely to report that they are strongly satisfied with their sexual relationship than their secular and less religious counterparts.”
marriage  conservatism 
july 2019 by whatithunk
These are the most adulterous countries in the world
And now, we have the where. According to data from Durex, these are the 10 most adulterous countries in the world.
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Map: Statista Thailand is coming right on top (pardon the pun) with 56 per cent of married couples in the study admitting to infidelity.
Denmark: so what's going on there, with almost half of all Danes playing away?
Italy, unsurprisingly for the Land of Love, ranked almost as high of Denmark, with 45 per cent of its couples admitting to infidelity.
But perhaps more surprising were the Germans ranking exactly the same as Italy on the cheating stakes.
France recorded its fair share of liaisons dangereuses: 43 per cent of couples.
Lower, but still rather unfortunate, were the rates of adultery among us Brits - 36 per cent.
marriage  europe  Delicious 
november 2016 by whatithunk
How decades of divorce helped erode religion - The Washington Post
People whose parents divorced when they were children are significantly more likely to grow up not to be religious as adults, the study found. Thirty-five percent of the children of divorced parents told pollsters they are now nonreligious, compared with 23 percent of people whose parents were married when they were children. Other studies on the rise of the ΓÇ£nonesΓÇ¥ ΓÇö those who say they have no religion ΓÇö have focused on millennialsΓÇÖ changing preferences. This study found that 29 percent of adults who were raised religious and left their faith say they left because of their religionΓÇÖs negative teachings about gay and lesbian people. Nineteen percent say they left because of clergy sexual-abuse scandals. Sixty percent say they simply do not believe what the religion teaches.
divorce  marriage  religion  atheism  Delicious 
september 2016 by whatithunk
'Kids Are Resilient' and 7 Other Lies Divorcing Parents Should Stop Believing
As a former divorce mediator, and current couples and family mediator, I have heard every excuse that parents use to feel better about breaking up their family. In this article, IΓÇÖve outlined several of the most common lies that you might be telling yourself if youΓÇÖre considering divorce. Before you believe them, or give up on your marriage, you might want to check out my Marriage SOS book series and do some serious soul-searching.
divorce  marriage  parenting  children  lies  Delicious 
march 2016 by whatithunk
Want to destroy your wealth? Here are 10 of the best ways to go about it | Finan...
3. Not saving for retirement. The Canadian Payroll Association found in a September survey that 76 per cent of Canadians have put aside less than a quarter of what they will need in retirement. Statistics Canada said in 2013 that only about a third of the labour force has a registered pension plan ΓÇö you need to create your own own retirement plan. 2. Staying single. As my grandfather, the one who gave me the CSBs, once told me: ΓÇ£Two can live cheaper than one.ΓÇ¥ More importantly, study after study shows that married people are wealthier. An Ohio State University study in 2013 found married couples in long-term relationships are twice as wealthy as their single counterparts. 1. This isnΓÇÖt a moral judgement ΓÇö sometimes relationships donΓÇÖt work anymore ΓÇö but divorce is the No. 1 destroyer of wealth. Yet it still goes on. The last time Statistics Canada looked at the issue, in 2011, it found 43 per cent of marriages will end in divorce before 50 years.
divorce  marriage  finance  wealth  Delicious 
january 2016 by whatithunk
3-Decade-Old Porn Experiment Reveals Why We're All Messed Up
At the end of the experiment they asked the participants questions. IΓÇÖll mention just five discoveries. 1. Less Sexual Satisfaction Participants from the Massive Exposure group reported less sexual satisfaction with their partners since starting the experiment. They noticed how they were now rating their partnerΓÇÖs physical appearance, their affection, their sexual performance. 2. More Attraction to Casual Sex Those exposed to more porn showed a greater attraction to casual sex. When asked questions related to their desire for marriage or having children or even staying faithful to your marriage partner, the Massive Exposure group was more likely to devalue these things. 3. Less Support for WomenΓÇÖs Rights Participants from the Massive Exposure group also showed a loss of support for womenΓÇÖs rights. Participants were asked, ΓÇ£Do you support womenΓÇÖs rights?ΓÇ¥ Look at the results. 71% of the No Exposure group said yes, compared to 25% of the Massive Exposure group. Remember, the Massive Exposure group included both men and womenΓÇöso even women exposed to porn were showing a drop in support for womenΓÇÖs rights. 4. Desensitized to Violence Those exposed to more porn also showed a desensitization to sexual violence. Participants in all 3 groups were given a story about a man who rapes a female hitchhiker and were asked to recommend prison sentences for the rapist. Males in the Massive Exposure group recommended a sentence nearly half that recommended by the No Exposure group. Now, keep in mind, the pornography these people watched was not particularly violent porn, but those who viewed it still tended to trivialize rape more.
pornography  marriage  Delicious 
december 2015 by whatithunk
ΓÇÿWe will not obeyΓÇÖ: Christian leaders threaten civil disobedience if Supreme Cou...
He said that once same-sex marriage is elevated to the level of protected status ΓÇô it will transform the face of society and will result in the ΓÇ£beginning of the end of Western Civilization.ΓÇ¥ ΓÇ£You are essentially saying that boys and girls donΓÇÖt need moms and dads ΓÇô that moms and dads are irrelevant,ΓÇ¥ Staver said. ΓÇ£Gender becomes pointless when government adopts same-sex marriage. It creates a genderless relationship out of a very gender-specific relationship. It says that it doesnΓÇÖt matter and that two moms or two dads are absolutely equivalent to a mom and a dad.ΓÇ¥ ΓÇ£The institution of marriage is fundamental and it must be defended,ΓÇ¥ he told me. ΓÇ£ItΓÇÖs the foundation for the entire culture. ItΓÇÖs been in existence for 5,000 years. If you weaken it or if you undermine it ΓÇô the entire superstructure can come down. We see it as that important.ΓÇ¥
ΓÇ£Christians are being declared the lawbreakers when we are simply living by what we have always believed, and by a set of laws that the culture h
gender  parenting  marriage  gay-marriage  Delicious 
april 2015 by whatithunk
Scott Masson: Why the critics of the Ontario sex-ed curriculum are right | Natio...
UnwinΓÇÖs monumental 1934 work Sex and Culture studied 80 primitive tribes and six known civilizations over 5,000 years of history. It strongly correlated the success of a civilization to the degree of sexual restraint it observed: ΓÇ¥Any human society is free to choose either to display great energy or to enjoy sexual freedom; the evidence is that it cannot do both for more than one generation.ΓÇ¥ The life or death of a civilization, which is at stake in the Christian teaching of natural sexual monogamy ΓÇö a moral conviction and social institution that Unwin observed was common to all flourishing cultures ΓÇö would have been a powerful argument in favour of teaching that monogamy was essential to the health of the individual and to creating a more just society. Once again, the debate lies between parental and state jurisdiction in creating a just society. But at the heart of the Ontario sex-ed curriculum is buried the perverse claim that children raise themselves.
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april 2015 by whatithunk
Shock study: Marriage rate declines with porn use, threatening economy, society ...
Pornography is replacing the desire among young men for marriage, according to a new study that finds males are chasing ΓÇ£low-cost sexual gratificationΓÇ¥ on the web over a wife and family. ΓÇ£Traditionally, one of the reasons to enter into a marriage was sexual gratification. But as options for sexual gratification outside of marriage have grown, the need for a marriage to serve this function is diminishing,ΓÇ¥ said the report. The report published by GermanyΓÇÖs Institute for the Study of Labor and co-authored by a West Chester University of Pennsylvania professor suggested that the government crack down on porn access, especially as more and easier tools to tap into the Internet, such as smartphones, expand. Saving marriage, said the report, will help the economy and society. ΓÇ£Pornography is a marriage killer and thus it has monumental negative ramifications for societyΓÇÖs future,ΓÇ¥ said Patrick A. Trueman, president of the group. ΓÇ£Research has shown for some time that porn use in marriage
marriage  pornography  Delicious 
january 2015 by whatithunk
Pornography use affects 'real' relationships - Washington Times
Men who regularly watch pornography are more likely to depend on it to stay aroused but are less likely to enjoy sex with a real-life partner, a new study says. The ΓÇ£media scriptsΓÇ¥ that men absorb when they view pornography can play a role in their sexual activities, said Arkansas psychologist Ana Bridges and other academics in New York and Virginia. After studying 487 male college students, the researchers found that the more men used pornography, the more likely they were to try to act out the same scenes and rely on pornography-inspired fantasies to engage in sex. ΓÇ£Pornography is sometimes dismissed, celebrated or problematized as fantasy,ΓÇ¥ and many people use it ΓÇ£as a form of entertainment,ΓÇ¥ Ms. Bridges, associate professor of psychology at the University of Arkansas, wrote in the December issue of Archives of Sexual Behavior. ΓÇ£[B]ut pornography is also much more,ΓÇ¥ she said. ΓÇ£What happens on the screen may implicate life off of it.ΓÇ¥ Patrick A. Trueman, president of Morality in
relationships  pornography  marriage  Delicious 
december 2014 by whatithunk
Before you cheat… 14 things you need to know. | AFFAIRCARE
It seems that every 3 months or so we learn of another celebrity caught cheating on his or her spouse. To say adultery is an epidemic in our current culture is an understatement. And it doesnΓÇÖt seem to be a respecter of position. Regardless of what we do for a living, (Politicians, Pastors, teachers, athletes, actors, musicians, etc) cheaters are in our midst. It seems to be so prevalent today that the question isnΓÇÖt who is cheating but rather ΓÇô who isnΓÇÖt? Too many treat their most important relationships casually and their commitments to them as optional. Our microwave society mentality (quick and easy) has infiltrated our most sacred institution, marriage. Many cheaters try to justify their reasons for infidelity. To a cheater, their reasons make sense. Perfect sense. To those who have never strayed they just donΓÇÖt understand why. Our thirst for affairs has become so accepted and normal in our culture that most shows on television mention an infidelity reference somewhere
cheating  Christianity  marriage  Delicious 
november 2014 by whatithunk
Pope brings in Catholics to explain how their marriage lasted 55 years ΓÇö and the...
Ron and Mavis Pirola, parents of four from Sydney, Australia, told a Vatican gathering of some 200 prelates that sexual attraction brought them together 57 years ago and that sex has helped keep them married for 55 years. ΓÇ£The little things we did for each other, the telephone calls and love notes, the way we planned our day around each other and the things we shared were outward expressions of our longing to be intimate with each other,ΓÇ¥ the couple said in a joint statement to the closed meeting late Monday. ΓÇ£Gradually we came to see that the only feature that distinguishes our sacramental relationship from that of any other good Christ-centred relationship is sexual intimacy, and that marriage is a sexual sacrament with its fullest expression in sexual intercourse.ΓÇ¥ The audience of celibate men was a bit taken aback.
Catholic  relationships  sex  marriage  Delicious 
october 2014 by whatithunk
Former Homosexual Reveals 'Unmitigated Disaster of Gay Marriage'
Such behaviors were so obviously perverse. Simple anatomical design declared it. A man was designed to interact sexually with a woman. That's the design. And when sex is practiced outside of that design, physical damage and a legion of diseases are unleashedΓÇönot to mention the judgments of the Lord described in Romans 1:24-32: and in 1 Corinthians 6:9-10. The idea floated by so-called "gay theology" that God created people to be homosexual (i.e., that He is the cause for such desires) is as ridiculous for the homosexual as it is for the drug addict. The Scriptures are clear about what God designed and what He desires. Homosexual behavior also tears at the soul, causing much higher rates for substance abuse, suicide, depression, domestic violence, early deathΓÇöeven in the most gay-friendly regions of the globe. Why? Because active homosexuals are trying to find something through gay relationships that can never be found there. All that to sayΓÇöthe term "gay marriage" is an oxymoron. I
parenting  opinion  perverse  marriage  homosexuality  homosexual  Delicious 
august 2014 by whatithunk
Never (Ever) Bring This to Bed with You
ItΓÇÖs the ultimate buzz-kill. A tiny chastity belt. A downer. A fun-ruiner. A zombie-maker. Seriously. How many times have you laid in bed at the end of the day, mindlessly pinning on Pinterest or scrolling through Instagram on your phone? If youΓÇÖre like me, maybe you have no idea how many timesΓÇöa lot of times, though. A lot of times. Just last night I probably read three Buzzfeed articles, checked my email, beat two levels of Candy Crush, and pinned 10+ new recipes for me to never ever cook. Gosh, it even sounds kind of productive when I list it out like that. Too bad like, all, of those things are pointless. Stephen King often talks about how pointless electronics are
marriage  cellphones  smartphones  Delicious 
july 2014 by whatithunk
5 Illusions That Will Lead You Straight Into an Affair by Mark Atteberry - Churc...
Consider these five illusions and take them as a dire warning. They are at the heart of every church leaderΓÇÖs descent into sexual sin. Illusion #1: That which seems harmless is actually dangerous.
What seems harmless? Flirting. Illusion #2: That which seems perfect is deeply flawed.
What seems perfect?
The other woman, of course. Illusion #3: That which excites you actually deadens you.
What excites you?
Your fantasies. Illusion #4: That which seems to justify your actions actually condemns you.
What seems to justify your actions?
A laundry list of rationalizations. Illusion #5: That which seems easy is hard.
What seems easy?
Quitting. A man who is being drawn into a questionable relationship tells himself that everything is OK because he can quit anytime he wants. ΓÇ£If I see that things are getting out of control, IΓÇÖll just pull the plug,ΓÇ¥ he tells himself. But when lines are crossed and forbidden territory is entered, he finds quitting to be quite complicated. In 1 Corinthi
marriage  Delicious 
july 2014 by whatithunk
Franklin Graham: ΓÇÿAt Every Turn, the Gay and Lesbian Agenda is Being Pushed by T...
ΓÇ£If I disagree with a gay person, then IΓÇÖm a ΓÇÿhomophobic,ΓÇÖ IΓÇÖm ΓÇÿintolerant,ΓÇÖΓÇ¥ said Graham. ΓÇ£ItΓÇÖs not that IΓÇÖm a homophobe, IΓÇÖm not afraid of them. IΓÇÖm not intolerant. I just have a different opinion, a different view. And itΓÇÖs the same thing with anybody that disagrees with them. They demonize you.ΓÇ¥ ΓÇ£Well, just look at where we are today. At every turn, the gay and lesbian agenda is being pushed by this administration.ΓÇ¥ Asked whether he meant ΓÇ£on marriage, for example,ΓÇ¥ and Graham said: ΓÇ£Sure, of course it is.ΓÇ¥ ΓÇ£Gays and lesbians cannot have children. Biologically, itΓÇÖs impossible,ΓÇ¥ said Graham. The reporter then said, ΓÇ£Right, they can adopt,ΓÇ¥ and Graham answered, ΓÇ£Yes, they can recruit.ΓÇ¥ When asked the difference between recruit and adopt, Rev. Graham said, ΓÇ£Well, you can adopt a child into a marriage but you can also recruit children into your cause. I believe in protecting children, okay, from exploitation, all exploitations. So thatΓÇÖs all this is about.ΓÇ¥
homosexual  adoption  marriage  video  quote  Franklin-Graham  intolerance  homosexuality  homophobia  Delicious 
april 2014 by whatithunk
Gospel-Centered Sex?
The worldΓÇÖs remedies to this battle of the sexes are feminism and pornography. Each gender convinces itself that it doesnΓÇÖt need the other. Women stomp off to find their self-worth in a career and perhaps a house full of cats (maybe even a ministry or friendships). Men hole up in dark rooms and believe the lie that their need is merely physical. We canΓÇÖt just tell women to have more sex. We canΓÇÖt tell men they are pathetic for wanting it. God created both sexes to need and want each otherΓÇönot just physically, but emotionally and spiritually as well.
marriage  gender  quote  pornography  feminism  Delicious 
november 2013 by whatithunk
How I Know My Wife Married the ΓÇ£WrongΓÇ¥ Person | CROSS-SHAPED STUFF
For quite some time now, there has been a myth floating around our idealistic individualistic society. A myth that claims that marriage will only work when you find your ΓÇ£smoking-hot, high-class, filthy rich, love-at-first-sight, sexually compatible, accept-me-as-I-am, Titanic-Notebook-Sweet-Home-Alabama-Twilight-esque, soul mate.ΓÇ¥ DonΓÇÖt believe me? Look at the message Hollywood communicates; look at the empirical evidence pointing to later and fewer marriages; research studies suggest this is a primary factor that holds men and women back from marital commitment ΓÇô they just havenΓÇÖt found their soul mate. They believe in their heart of hearts that their match-made-in-heaven is still out there, somewhere. Much could be said about where this mindset came from, but letΓÇÖs just leave it at this ΓÇô Singles today (and most married couples too) are searching for super-spouses that simply donΓÇÖt exist. People expect far too much from their spouse in all the wrong areas.
singles  marriage  relationships  Delicious 
july 2013 by whatithunk
The big same-sex marriage lie  - Page 1 - NY Daily News
What an amazing claim: Radical advocates of same-sex marriage donΓÇÖt think marriage should exist, at least not as a state-sponsored institution. They think marriage is simply an intense emotional union ΓÇö whatever sort of interpersonal relationship consenting adults want it to be. Their victory would leave marriage with no essential features, no fixed core as a social reality. And if marriage has no form and serves no essential purpose, how would society protect the needs of children ΓÇö the prime victims of our nonmarital sexual culture ΓÇö without government growing more intrusive and more expensive? Same-sex marriage rejects the anthropological truth that men and women are different and complementary, the biological fact that reproduction depends on a man and a woman and the social reality that children need both a mother and a father.
homosexuality  LGBT  agenda  lies  gay-marriage  marriage  Delicious 
june 2013 by whatithunk
The big same-sex marriage lie  - NY Daily News
Take Masha Gessen, acclaimed author and former Russian director of Radio Liberty. ΓÇ£Fighting for gay marriage generally involves lying about what we are going to do with marriage when we get there ΓÇö because we lie that the institution of marriage is not going to change,ΓÇ¥ Gessen said last year. Last month, I was part of a debate at the NYU School of Law at which Judith Stacey, a sociology professor at the university, declared: ΓÇ£Children certainly do not need both a mother and a father.ΓÇ¥ Stacey went on to suggest that three parents might be better than two. In fact, while asserting she is in favor of same-sex marriage because of ΓÇ£equal justice,ΓÇ¥ Stacey admitted she isnΓÇÖt a fan of marriage. ΓÇ£Why should there be marriage at all?ΓÇ¥ she asked. I pointed out that marriage exists, and the government takes an interest in marriage because the sexual union of a man and woman produces children ΓÇö and children need both a mom and a dad.
slippery-slope  marriage  homosexuality  homosexual  gay-marriage  LGBT  Delicious 
june 2013 by whatithunk
Couples who share the housework are more likely to divorce, study finds - Telegr...
In what appears to be a slap in the face for gender equality, the report found the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work. ΓÇ£What weΓÇÖve seen is that sharing equal responsibility for work in the home doesnΓÇÖt necessarily contribute to contentment,ΓÇ¥ said Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled ΓÇ£Equality in the HomeΓÇ¥. The lack of correlation between equality at home and quality of life was surprising, the researcher said. ΓÇ£One would think that break-ups would occur more often in families with less equality at home, but our statistics show the opposite,ΓÇ¥ he said. The figures clearly show that ΓÇ£the more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate,ΓÇ¥ he went on.
The reasons, Mr Hansen said, lay only partially with the chores themselves. ΓÇ£Maybe itΓÇÖs sometimes seen as a good thing to have very clear roles with lots of clarity ... where one person is not stepping on the other
statistics  stat  work  relationships  marriage  Delicious 
december 2012 by whatithunk
Most marriages break down over mundane household chores - Telegraph
According to analysis of divorce cases by Gateley, a UK law firm, seven in ten marriages fall apart because couples fail to reach an agreement on decisions relating to the home, such as how monthly finances are arranged, where couples live or how household responsibilities are carved up. Only one in five marriages ends because of infidelity, the law firm said. The company said that couples who treat marriage as a ΓÇ£business mergerΓÇ¥ ΓÇô and talk about domestic issues - are much more likely to stay together in the long term. Of the seven in ten marriages that fail because people can not agree on simple domestic issues, by far the most common cause is lack of agreement over finances. One in eight of these marriages disintegrate because couples are unable to agree on where to settle down. Elizabeth Hassall, a partner and head of the family division at Gateley, said that it is surprising how many ΓÇ£fundamental decisionsΓÇ¥ are barely discussed before couples get married.
statistics  divorce  marriage  Delicious 
november 2012 by whatithunk
The Truth About Marital Compatibility | The Resurgence
5 Questions for Singles to Ask When Seeking a Biblically Compatible Spouse: How do you know he or she willingly submits to godly authority?
Ladies, if he does not submit to godly authority, he is a dangerous man. Period. Men, if she doesnΓÇÖt submit to godly authority now (as a single man, thatΓÇÖs not you by the way), she is the kind of woman Proverbs warns you to avoid.
How do you know he or she is teachable?
If he or she likes to argue, they are more concerned with being right than being made righteous. When you think youΓÇÖve won an argument in marriage, youΓÇÖve actually lost. Marriage is about humbly maturing, realizing you have much to learn for the rest of your lives.
How well known and involved is he or she in Christian community?
ItΓÇÖs easy to put on a good front when you are attracted to someone and motivated to marry. If he or she is unknown in community, they are unknown to you. Others need to vouch for the personΓÇÖs character, integrity, and faith.
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christianity  religion  relationships  marriage  Delicious 
november 2012 by whatithunk
Study: Married Couples Live Longer, Healthier Lives Than Singles « CBS Cleveland
Married couples tend to live longer and adapt better to health setbacks than their single counterparts. The number of Americans who live together without being married continues to rise ΓÇö from 400,000 in 1960 to 7.6 million in 2011, according to Census data. However, new research indicates that married people live longer than those that cohabit. Researchers Hui Liu of Michigan State University and Corinne Reczek at the University of Cincinnati looked at the national health survey data of nearly 200,000 people, taken from 1997 to 2004. They found that the rate of mortality among men in cohabitating relationships dropped by 80 percent, while the rate dropped 59 percent for women. Additional studies are finding that married couples experience lower levels of heart disease, cancers, flu, AlzheimerΓÇÖs, depression and stress, Karen Sherman, author of ΓÇ£Marriage Magic! Find It, Keep It, & Make It Last,ΓÇ¥ told the Deseret News.
health  marriage  Delicious 
november 2012 by whatithunk
What does the Bible say about gay marriage / same sex marriage?
Question: "What does the Bible say about gay marriage / same sex marriage?" Answer: While the Bible does address homosexuality, it does not explicitly mention gay marriage/same-sex marriage. It is clear, however, that the Bible condemns homosexuality as an immoral and unnatural sin. Leviticus 18:22 identifies homosexual sex as an abomination, a detestable sin. Romans 1:26-27 declares homosexual desires and actions to be shameful, unnatural, lustful, and indecent. First Corinthians 6:9 states that homosexuals are unrighteous and will not inherit the kingdom of God. Since both homosexual desires and actions are condemned in the Bible, it is clear that homosexuals ΓÇ£marryingΓÇ¥ is not GodΓÇÖs will, and would be, in fact, sinful.
gay-marriage  gay  Bible  homosexual  homosexuality  marriage  Delicious 
may 2012 by whatithunk
RELEVANT Magazine - You Can't Marry a Hot Vampire
These films aren’t just silly, teenybopper love stories. Twilight has become a cultural phenomenon, and cultural phenomena don’t simply reflect the values of their audience, they define them. Stephenie Meyer has now defined love for a generation of fans. For millions of “Twi-hards” around the world, the shallow, cliché-ridden romances of Edward, Jacob and Bella are not just the norm—they’re the ideal. They have traded marriage for a myth, and the question now becomes: How many more movies will it take until they can no longer distinguish between the two?
co-dependent-relationships  romance  teenagers  pornography  marriage  culture  twilight  movies  hollywood  Delicious 
november 2011 by whatithunk
Fewer couples heading down the aisles, Stats Can finds | Life | National Post
In Canada, the rate of marriage has been on the decline over the past 20 years. In 2008 ΓÇö the latest figures since Statistics Canada stopped compiling marriage statistics due to budget cuts ΓÇö 147,788 couples were married, compared to 1991 when 172,251 couples tied the knot. The trend and idea of marriage is changing globally, as well. In France, civil unions, or the pacte civil de solidarite, were started in 1999 intended for same-sex couples, but one year after the law was passed, more than 75%t of civil unions were signed between heterosexual couples. In 2009, the rate jumped to 95 per cent of opposite sex couples, according to a New York Times report discussing how the trend of civil unions in the country may outnumber marriages in the future.
marriage  statistics  Delicious 
september 2011 by whatithunk
Group Pushes To ‘Let Bert And Ernie Get Married’ On Sesame Street « CBS Los Ange...
Will the Children’s Television Workshop give way to same-sex puppet love? An online campaign is calling for the producers of TV’s “Sesame Street” to allow characters Bert and Ernie to get married in an attempt to “put an end to the bullying and suicides of LGBT youth”, according to the group’s Facebook page. The petition letter adds that “[w]e are not asking that Sesame Street do anything crude or disrespectful by allowing Bert & Ernie to marry”, suggesting that the show “even add a transgender character to the show…in a tasteful way”. While over 900 people have “liked” the group’s Facebook page so far, the comments from visitors are fueling the controversy over whether children should be exposed to homosexuality at such an early age — echoing a similar battle over proposed gay-oriented curriculum in California schools. “This is not ‘Desperate Housewives’…this is a baby’s program people!” said one commenter.
homosexuality  parenting  Sesame_Street  TV  entertainment  marriage  indoctrination  Delicious 
august 2011 by whatithunk
Married Couples Are No Longer a Majority, Census Finds - NYTimes.com
Married couples have dropped below half of all American households for the first time, the Census Bureau says, a milestone in the evolution of the American family toward less traditional forms. Married couples represented just 48 percent of American households in 2010, according to data being made public Thursday and analyzed by the Brookings Institution. This was slightly less than in 2000, but far below the 78 percent of households occupied by married couples in 1950.
marriage  statistics  Delicious 
june 2011 by whatithunk
In France, Civil Unions Gain Favor Over Marriage - NYTimes.com
As with traditional marriages, civil unions allow couples to file joint tax returns, exempt spouses from inheritance taxes, permit partners to share insurance policies, ease access to residency permits for foreigners and make partners responsible for each otherΓÇÖs debts. Concluding a civil union requires little more than a single appearance before a judicial official, and ending one is even easier. It long ago became common here to speak of ΓÇ£getting PACSedΓÇ¥ (se pacser, in French). More recently, wedding fairs have been renamed to include the PACS, department stores now offer PACS gift registries and travel agencies offer PACS honeymoon packages.
imported  marriage  france  Delicious 
december 2010 by whatithunk
Rev. To NJ Church Leaders: Thou Shalt Not Facebook « CBS Philly – News, Sports, ...
The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers says 81 percent of its members have used or been faced with evidence plucked from Facebook, MySpace, Twitter and other social networking sites in divorce cases over the last five years. About one in five adults uses Facebook for flirting, according to a 2008 report by the Pew Internet and American Life Project. And a do-it-yourself divorce site in the United Kingdom, Divorce-Online, reported late last year that the word ΓÇ£FacebookΓÇ¥ was appearing in about one in five of the petitions it was handling
imported  facebook  relationships  marriage  Delicious 
november 2010 by whatithunk
'You are swine and infidels' . . . secret insults at wedding blessing in paradis...
The couple chose an idyllic resort in the Maldives as the perfect place to renew their marriage vows and pledge everlasting love. But their happiness has turned to humiliation after the wedding video was posted on YouTube and subtitles disclosed that their "Islamic blessing", which was conducted by a hotel employee in the native Dhivehi language, was in fact a stream of insults. "You are swine. The children that you bear from this marriage will all be bastard swine. Your marriage is not a valid one," he intoned as the couple held up their hands in prayer, blissfully unaware of what was being said.
imported  islam  marriage  islamization  Delicious 
november 2010 by whatithunk
Gay marriage refusal case tests rights
In 2005, around the time Parliament declared same-sex marriage legal, Orville Nichols, a civil marriage commissioner in Regina, was approached by a man who asked him to perform a wedding ceremony. He had been overseeing civil ceremonies for more than 20 years, so there was nothing unusual about the request. But the man who approached Mr. Nichols, since identified in court documents as M.J., then added it would be a same-sex ceremony. Mr. Nichols refused, explaining his Christian beliefs forbade him from taking part in the marriage of two men.
imported  homosexuality  Canada  marriage  samesex  religion  rights  Delicious 
may 2010 by whatithunk
Nobody Cares About Gay Marriage Anymore | NBC New York
But now it appears gay marriage opponents have resigned themselves to the ultimate futility of their cause, which might make them a little bit quieter about their disappointment. (Reliable numbers guru Nate Silver predicts support for gay marriage "will reach majority status ... at some point in the 2010s.")
imported  gay  marriage  Delicious 
may 2009 by whatithunk

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